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Before we conceived, DH & I had talked about telling NO ONE until 12 weeks. We didn't tell anyone we were TTC, even though it was an 8-month journey. Once we actually had a positive pregnancy test, we decided to tell family on Memorial Day weekend (9.5 weeks), and friends a couple weeks later. At only 6 weeks right now, this feels like an *eternity*. At the same time, I feel like, if I tell someone now, I'll "jinx" the pregnancy.<br><br>
The secret between DH & I is fun, but celebrating with others will be fun, too. Anyone else still still holding off telling parents & siblings?<br><br>
And, any fun stories of WAYS to break the news?
 

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DH and I are keeping it a secret as long as possible, because I don't want to disappoint people if we have another loss. We may tell the immediate family around 12 weeks, but I'm not planning on telling anyone else until I truly can't hide it anymore. I am hoping to hold out until after the anatomy scan.
 

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I told my parents at 8 weeks because I'm too sick to hide it. I haen't told anyone else though except for booking the birth photographer.<br><br>
With my first I wanted to wait as long as possible but it DID feel like an eternity and of course I was sick then too and couldn't easily hide the pregnancy so I think we waited until 6 weeks. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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Yes! Only my two friends IRL know. Oh, and one acquaintance, but only because she asked me and I know she heard about the last pregnancy that ended in m/c, but I didn't feel like explaining it.<br><br>
We will tell people around 12 weeks or so, whenever we feel "safe".
 

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Count me in too! Although, I might tell immediate family at 11 wks. I have my first midwife visit at 10.5 wks and then a few days after that I am going down south to visit my sister. I will prolly be showing a little by then and I was going to ask for some of my maternity clothes back! So that would be a give away. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
Anyway, that means I need to get thru this weekend seeing my parents and not letting them know that I am way nauseated! I'll have to find a baggy outfit too. I'm mostly bloated but I'm just afraid my mother will guess. We will start letting the news leak out after that weekend.<br><br>
However, I don't think I'm going to tell my older sis directly 'cause I'm sure she will be stupid about us having #4. So she will find out from one of my other sisters most likely.<br><br>
Work won't know until I'm totally showing. Oh, and I did tell 2 very close girlfriends already but I know they will keep my secret. And I'm debating telling one other close friend. I shouldn't but keeping this a secret from her is really hard and this baby feels "sticky". I don't know. I might tell her if she calls me later. Besides, we usually pray for each others problems/needs so I wouldn't mind some extra good thoughts for this baby!
 

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I'm not being as open as I have been with the other pregs, but neither am I shouting it from the rooftops.<br><br>
As far as people I know irl, I've told six people who AREN'T midwifery-related. I sent my mom a pic of my u/s with a note that said "Tax Deduction due mid-December." Since this is #5, and unplanned, I have no idea what my mom will say. I'm an only child, so having even more than two is shocking for her.<br><br>
There's a LLL meeting on May 15 that I usually attend, and I'm having a 31st Birthday party that evening, so I'll break the news then. I'll be just over 10 weeks.
 

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the last 3 times, we told everyone right away. then the 3rd ended in miscarriage and the hardest part for my DH was having to call his family (there are a ton of them, he's got 6 brothers and sisters) and tell them. So he asked if we could hold off this time until 10 or 12 weeks.<br><br>
so I told my parents 'cause my mom knew anyway - apparently I've got a look? and you guys. Everyone else will have to wait - if we get to 12 weeks, my DH's family has a family reunion the weekend after that and we'll tell them then. My family will just find out from my parents when we're ready.<br><br>
I'm not really in a hurry to tell anyone, just in case <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">
 

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Well, we were going to keep it just between us for awhile (until my first MW appt). The night after we found out, DH and I went out to dinner to celebrate. The waitress came to take our order... and he tells her, "Guess what? My wife's pregnant!!" Lol so much for secrecy.<br><br>
Our closest friends knew between 7-8 weeks. We're telling our families on Mother's Day, @ 9 weeks exactly. We got to see the BD yesterday, so we're putting a sono pic in my mom's Mothers Day card. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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We havn't told anyone yet. This is the third one, the other two we told everyone right away and for some reason we just want to wait until our first midwife appointment.<br><br>
Althougth I have been very naueous and the poor man who sits next to me at work thinks I am coming down with the flu and going to pass it on to him!<br><br>
It's kind of fun having his little secert. Although our 3yr old has been convinced for over a month that there is a baby in mother's belly and has been telling everyone she is having a baby sister! And we havn't told her a thing!
 

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No! lol<br><br>
I wanted to wait, but DH wanted to shout it from the rooftops! How could I stomp on that enthusiasm? Mostly we've only told friends and family; no general announcements yet!<br><br>
I love the way I told my mom, though. She and dad live in Pennsylvania, and we usually come home for Christmas...<br><br>
me: so, mom, I don't think we'll make it home for Christmas...<br>
mom: WHY NOT????<br>
me: because we're having a baby!<br>
mom: Oh! Oh my goodness! Oh you little sneak! (I had been with her the entire last week of the 2ww, and hadn't breathed a word)
 

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I am *trying* to keep it a secret but having a really hard time doing so. I am so super sick in the mornings, that it is pretty obvious to anyone that I feel like crap and when they ask me, I don't feel like coming up with a cover story. But I am not working, so that helps.<br><br>
Last time, I told people who could help me with my "cover" until almost 12 weeks.<br><br>
This time, we told family (because my family is coming to visit in a week and my mom and grandmother would know by seeing how sick I am). Then, because we told my family, we told DH's. His mom can't keep a secret to save her life, so we had to pretty much tell the extended family too. Oh well.<br><br>
And then the moment anyone talks about being pregnant, I get so excited to talk about it.<br><br>
So, yeah, I am trying, but failing miserably.
 

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Not terribly successfully...most people at work know on the day shift, my best friend and my mom, step-mom, mother-in-law, and sister know. They were all there for me when I miscarried, so I figured they'd be there for me again if it happens that way. I had to tell work so that I don't get assigned patients with meningitis or tuberculosis or chicken pox, etc.
 

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Our close friends will be told, but family? Nope. It's my parents' 20th wedding anniversary in September, and my mother is planning some insane, tie-dyed vow renewal. I dream of being able to keep it secret enough that when we land at the airport there's a Diablo Cody-esque reveal. I'm dying to say the line "Thanks for the congrats on my fetus."
 

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We live 500 miles from family so we planned to have them visit at the start and then I didn't tell anyone until I was 24 weeks. I'm a NICU nurse and I was so petrified, I just figured I'd keep it to myself until the baby was viable and we had all bloodwork and ultrasounds back confirming that everything seemed to be in proper order. I may try to do the same this time, I'm 36 and already have high glucoses so I have a feeling things may get complicated and I'd rather just deal with family later than sooner...
 
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