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I see so many threads about awful MIL's (and maternal grandmothers, too) that I am wondering how many people actually get along with/love their MIL. (And some of those MIL/Mothers seem really awful - they say things to their families that they wouldnt imagine saying to a stranger!) My MIL is great...doesn't bat an eye that I'm still nursing, very respectful of our choices in raising dd, is helping me learn to sew...and is all around a great person. When DD, DH and I got a stomach virus and were all puking our guts out, she drove an hour and a half to come take care of us all for 3 days. I sometimes wonder if she isn't taking after *Her* MIL, (DH grandma) who is the most gentle, loving, happy person I know.<br>
So anyone else have a MIL that they love? I just wanted to put out some happy MIL vibes, and see what it is about other people's MILs that make them easy to get along with (after all, lots of us will be MIL's ourselves someday...maybe we can pick up a few ideas to tuck away for the distant future).<br>
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I would just like to say you're very lucky and I envy your relationship with your MIL. Try as I might, have, can - mine is a bat who dislikes me immensely.
 

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I can't say enough good things about my MIL. She is a wonderful person. She's supportive of us as a family, respectful with our decisions in regards to everything--even when she disagrees. When I was in labor with dd she was essentially my doula. She's an amazing person. She's a massage therapist and a nurse. I should say the best massage therpist I've ever met.<br>
Which is not to say that we don't disagree. We love to debate, but we always keep it respectful and fun. We live about an hour and half away from the IL's. I talk to her on the phone more than dh does (possibly more than her daughters do!), and at times more than I talk to my own mom (who's pretty cool in her own right).<br>
She's one of the reasons I married dh. I knew I wouldn't find another MIL as incredible as her, and given that, her son is pretty incredible, too.
 

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I love/loved my mil - she was very easy to get along. She has dementia so she isn't really with us anymore.<br><br>
What I loved about her was that the fact that dh loved me was all she ever needed to know. She would tell me that all she ever wanted for him was to be happy and that I made him happier than anybody, even she, ever had. It takes a big momma to say that to your dil.<br><br>
I know she didn't agree with some of my approaches to parenting (the nursing and co-sleeping freaked her out) and I wasn't all that jazzed about how she had done somethings with dh and his siblings when they were kids but she was a "live and let live" kind of person and I really appreciated that about her. I can remember a few times where my fil questioned something dh and I were doing with ds1 and she would shush him and tell him that dh was the papa now.<br><br>
We had some good laughs together - I even lived with his parents briefly before we got married when my roomate in grad school ran out of money. She was no Saint but I was lucky to have her in my life for about 10 years before she got sick.<br><br>
Great pre-holiday post!<br>
BJ<br>
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But LOVE is pretty strong <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"> I love how she doesn't tell us how to raise our son, but I do not like her poor choices when it comes to smoking and overall poor health... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/bag.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Bag">:<br><br>
She seems very good with Mason and even though she's only watched him for about an hour, I would trust her with him (but I do not like the smoking so it would be at our house <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"> )<br><br>
Now, my DH LOVES my mom <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"> They get along great! How you anyone NOT like my mom :LOL She's so nice.
 

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I love my MIL, BUT, there are definitely a ton of things she does that drive me batty!!!!!!!!!!!!!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/demon.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="demon"><br>
But she likes to help out alot. And work really hard. She was here before and immediately after both births of my children, and just helped us move recently-as I could only do so much watching small children. In a way- she can be very lenient on safety issues or babyproofing, and isn't the best at keeping things organized- but I love her for who she is and she's great<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><br>
We can both be pretty hotheaded though- so watch out:LOLWe can tell each other very honestly though about when we get on each others nerves. She is really borderline when it comes to being overbearing occasionally(ha!)- but all in all, I like her<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"><br>
She also butts in alot where she shouldn't but I try to put her in her place and remind her of it<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1">And we go on happy.<br>
As long as she would just stop talking about everybody to everbody.And acting like eyore<br>
:LOL I guess the MIL issue is really a Love/Hate one<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/headscratch.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="headscratch">
 

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I adore my MIL. She is the person I would most like to emulate in this world. She is a loving, kind, gentle woman who just amazes me every time I talk to her. She definitely treats me like a daughter and I know she loves me <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"> She's one of those women who makes everything look so easy...she works full time, keeps a beautiful home, provides healthy meals for her family, quilts, etc etc. And she raised 4 of the most amazing men I've ever met. I really wish we lived closer to her...but luckily my ILs will be moving here in a couple of years! MIL was the only person other than DH that I asked to be in the delivery room when I gave birth to Lauren. And she's hopefully going to be here to see #2 born as well. She nursed and cloth diapered all 4 of her boys (Dh is the oldest and he was born in '77) so she was a big help...and she made most of Lauren's cloth diapers too!<br><br><br>
I love her and miss her very much!<br><br>
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My MIL is, as she would put it, "not an easy person." She believes in speaking her mind, and doesn't ever acknowledge that most people would describe what she is saying as "criticism." She also could be a lot nicer to my SILs and their children. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
Yet, from the very beginning, I have enjoyed a relationship of mutual respect and esteem with her. She is very intellectually alive, and likes to discuss books and articles we have read. She has a great sense of humor and likes to have fun. I love the way she takes classes in her retirement, she always answers all the questions and does extra homework--even if it's a class in ballroom dancing! She is a great cook and has a lot of housekeeping tricks, some of which I can imitate! In relation to me, she supports my aspirations and she believes in my abilities.<br><br>
She is a rather loveable character, all together, even though she has these, sometimes pretty amusing, foibles and weaknesses. I feel all together quite lucky in her, and in the other relatives that I gained by getting married.
 

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My MIL is pretty great too.. I don't adore her, and there are a couple of things I don't love about her. But, she is almost completely supportive of everything we do, and if not, well, in a very roundabout way she lets us know, but it's like, whatever. We did move 3000 miles away from them, which is _very_ hard for her, but it makes me appreciate her when she visits! I am actually a bit envious of my dd for having 3 sets of grandparents who all adore her and are fairly active in her life. I really only had one, my maternal grandmother. but, i digress....
 

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My MIL is awesome! She will even co-sleep with ds when he stays on overnight visits. She is a wonderful cook who isn't afraid to try new things. She is talented and creative when she feels motivated to be. We can disagree on a topic and there is never an arguement. We will just agree to disagree. She has seen errors in her own childrearing and respects our decisions to do things differently than she did. She was very supportive of our extended breastfeeding.<br><br>
I can have long conversations on the phone with her and it drives my dh to distraction! He is always annoyed when she calls up and tell him she really wants to talk to me.<br><br>
I am lucky to have her.
 

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My MIL has grown on me (like a fungus) over the nearly 30 years I have known her. Dh and I were high school sweethearts, so we go back a long way. In those years she was genuinely nuts. I understand now much more about why she was nuts, but at the time, right up through the first 10 years of our marriage, I couldn't abide her.<br><br>
She has mellowed a great deal since then, and in the last 10 years or so I've come to like her much more. She is intellectually curious and very active for a 75 year old woman. She's done a 180 politically in recent years and is now pretty liberal and funky.<br><br>
She loves the kids, although she has never been any help whatsoever with them, but they do have a great relationship.<br><br>
And she did manage to raise my dh, who is the best husband and father anyone could ask for.
 

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I love my MIL <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"> Her and my FIL are both wonderful, supportive, and superb grandparents. I wouldn't trade them for the world. My Dh and I have been together almost 5 years, and just recently have I discovered small flaws with them. They really are human :LOL I feel very sad for people who clash with their IL's. It has got be very challenging. I am SO greatful for being blessed with wonderful in-laws.
 

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I have the best MIL in the world -- we even moved 500 miles to live down the street from her and my FIL. She's very loving and supportive, always ready and willing to help out in any way we need it. She always embraces the different traditions and customs I have as an immigrant to this country. She has the perfect combination of being interested and involved in our lives without being pushy or intrusive. She is probably the kindest, best person I know. My life would be so much less rich without her in it.
 

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I really love my MIL. She is warm and kind and fun. She and my FIL both made me feel very welcomed into the family right from the very start and have done everything they can to support us (helping us move, helping us when DS was born). I am not close to my own parents at all (abusive & crazy) so I am overjoyed to have a loving relationship with my husband's parents as well as wonderful grandparents for my son.
 

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Exactly!! My MIL is the most amazing woman I know. She raised her kids with such respect, and she doesn't question our methods because she beleives in doing what is right for your kids. She is sooooooooooo wonderful with Owen, I can't stand it. Her patience is immeasurable. I could go on and on...
 

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I love my MIL, and I wish she lived *closer*. We live on opposite sides of the country. I lived with her for a couple of months when DS was a baby, and then moved back home to CA. My MIL taught me a lot about being a parent and I really appreciate the special relationship we have. We only get to see her every other year or so, and those visits are very special. She has always been supportive of our choices, even when they are different from her own(esp homeschooling). I'm guessing that living so far away does help with that! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> I do wish the kids could have a closer relationship with her and her family like they do with the family that lives here.
 

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I love my MIL! I get along with her way better than I get along with DH!
 

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Yes, I love my MIL (and FIL,too). They are progressive and intelligent and fun to be around (plus my MIL loves to give me champagne!).<br><br>
DH and I used to live in New Mexico while my parents live in PA and his live in OR. When we got married and started to think seriously about kids I decided it was important to me to be close to one set of parents. For several reasons we decided on OR and it was a good decision. It hasn't always been easy- they are human and don't do everything the way I would (darn it, why can't everyone do it my way?!). There have been times when I don't want to be around them and times when I wish they would spend more time with their grandkids. But, then again, loving someone doesn't mean you have to like them 100% of the time, right?
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wave.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wave"><br><br>
My MIL is great...even though I am not married to her son <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"><br><br>
She loves to cook for us and will do my diaper laundry. She is caring, she is kind, she is gentle. She absolutely adores my son. She would do anything for him. She speaks very little English, so I <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"> that we get to speak Spanish all the time at her house.<br><br>
She never questions me or what I do. She will ask why--about the crib and the diapers, but she never questions my decision or anything. She respects me. She is soooo sweet!!!
 
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