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<p>I am so tired, my to do list is a mile or two long....and I just can't get super excited. When I think of when baby comes I just think of how much further behind I will be in laundry, dishes housekeeping etc.....then all the guests that stop by uninvited. I just feel so down......I am not even looking for to Christmas.</p>
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<p>How do I get excited about the new baby?</p>
 

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<p>Let me know if you figure it out. <span><img alt="hug2.gif" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/hug2.gif">I'm right there with you.</span></p>
 

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<p>this kind of describes me. Our visitors won't be unannounced bc we live 7 hrs away from all family & close friends. But I am stressed/worried abotu people coming here to "help" out and our condo isn't the best for entertaining or guests b/c we have a bonus room but we don't even have a 3rd BR for baby, much less a guest.  I'm stressing over her not having her own room, me trying to nurse (last time i ended up pumping soley around 4 months) Worried about 3 dogs & 2 1/2 yr old son. Trying to run a house & not losing my mind.</p>
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<p>I look forward to Christmas, but we will have family the week of and after which is stressing me out. </p>
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<p>When I feel stressed about stuff getting done, bought, washed, etc. I remind myself that the only thing baby needs is a diaper, some kind of clothes and a milk/boob, etc. Everything else doesn't really matter. I say this especially when i want her to have her own room w/ crib & decorations.  Hang in there-u aren't alone, I promise! :)</p>
 

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<p>I am mostly excited, but start to feel overwhelmed sometimes too. I'm lucky because I'm off work already, by choice so it's not like I'm on bedrest or anything. I really want to get the house to the point where it's always ready for unannounced visitors, so I can wake up, make the bed, vaccuum, run a cloth over the counters and be "ready".</p>
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<p>But there is also so much decluttering I want to do. I'm feeling like a spoiled brat, because even without working or having another child to care for, there don't seem to be enough hours in a day. I am very grateful that I'm having this down time now, because I know am never going to have this period of "nothingness" again... next time I'm at this point, I will most certainly have a toddler to chase! I keep forgetting about Christmas though.. and then when I remember, I can't believe how soon it is! I looove Christmas, but I just find it tough to think of anything besides Baby. I had the crappiest Christmas list ever this year, my family was kind of annoyed because my list was so short. What can I say, I can't think of anything that I want <span><img alt="love.gif" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/love.gif"></span></p>
 

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<p>I'm kind of there too.  I am still not feeling well so I'm in survival mode where a trip to the grocery store takes a massive amount of motivation and then I have to rest afterward.  So I can't figure out how to get anything done off of my "baby" to-do list.  I am barely able to cook dinner a few times a week and have a whole list of casseroles I was going to make and freeze.  I just don't think it's going to happen.  <span><img alt="mecry.gif" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/mecry.gif"></span></p>
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<p><span>OvenSeeksBun - I am like you, off of work now, no other kids to chase....but still struggling so much!  Being nauseous 24/7 for 8 months is really draining though.</span></p>
 

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<p>I am very overwhelmed. I am not happy with what is going on with my care providers. But I am not mentally ready to make switch in birthing plans, especially with the holiday. It's been very cold and windy here, and running errands is hard, especially with a 3 1/2 year old. I am tired, and so unmotivated to do anything even cook dinner. Beside getting hospital stuff ready, I need to wrap presents and still by a present for my mother. </p>
 

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<p>I'm excited when I get a chance to stop and think about it....but I'm also totally overwhelmed and just flat out tired. I'm stressed out with xmas around the corner, totally nervous on how the youngest will adapt to the newborn since she has taken a shine to completely destroying things around the house. Last time I had a newborn at least the other kids were in school. Not sure how I'll manage 4 kids all in completely different stages. I'm not sleeping well at all and I think for me it has alot to do with it. SO yep right there with you! <span><img alt="dizzy.gif" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/dizzy.gif"></span></p>
 

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<p>I am for sure more overwelmed than excited. I have torn the house apart yet again and I'm unmotivated to get it put together. I haven't registered or selected a pediatrician. My son is driving me bonkers and taking him on errands is just not fun. I need a new cover for our cradle but I don't really know how to sew and I don't feel up to relearning so I'm praying my mil can whip one up quickly for us when she gets here. I want to just be lazy but I feel I can't since I procastinated so much during this pregancy and I'm just sooo tired. I think I'll get more excited in a week or two. I bought a yummy organic blanket for 10 bucks this week so that made me rather cheerful.</p>
 

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<p>yes!  yes!  yes!  I can't figure out how to get back to myself, like with my first one.  Now I have a kid, and dog, and thank god I don't have more, and since most days I feel like I failed one or both, I have no idea how to bring another one into the mix.  We have moved 8 times in the past 2 years, and this last move has been to a permanent home, so I think I have some residue stress now just coming out.  I wake up in the middle of the night with anxiety attacks, and I am not really the nervous type.  I have def given myself the holidays off.  My dh is in charge of cooking, the presents are all set, and I have banned all (most) visitors for the first month- which I should have done with the first.  But even the birth- the first was perfect- all I can do is shrug and hope for the best instead of being certain that it will be the best.  Such a difference!</p>
 

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<p>this being our first and our second and we just moved and are so far from unpacked, and now they are telling me i have a health issue that casues or demands for PTL or induction <em>prior</em> to 37 weeks and that is the date that we were thinking was the earliest and when my mom was due to fly out, and , and ,and ,and </p>
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<p>yeah im having a bit of a hard time being excited with the daunting list of todo in front of me</p>
 

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<p>I am starting to get worried I am not going to be able to do an unmedicated birth. We took the Bradley classes, I have been trying to stay positive, I have a great OB who supports me, but there is some nasty little voice in the back of my head that this is not going to work out and I am going to be blown away by the pain. I need to find a way to stop thinking about it. This is my first.</p>
 

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<p>I'm a bit overwhelmed as well. This is my first baby. Our baby was VERY wanted, and we had stopped using birth control. But admittedly, I got pregnant a lot sooner than I expected. Despite the physical challenges of pregnancy I've really tried to savor the experience and I'm a bit sad to know it will be over soon. So much of my life over the last nine + months has been about being pregnant it seems like it will feel really weird to not be anymore. Contrarily, I'm sort of climbing the walls knowing that I could have the baby tonight or in late January. (I'm full term now.) </p>
<p>Sometimes I feel a bit like a hack at mothering because I haven't gotten my driver's licence yet. It didn't matter when we lived in a HUGE city, but now we've moved to a more suburban area. We couldn't afford a second car right away, but I still feel bad. </p>
<p>Also, my husband just started working in his field that he went to school for this year. He loves his job. He loves the idea that his pregnant wife doesn't work (he'd really hate if I had to.) but I hate to see him so busy and neglecting his hobbies. He found a new position that pays even better with awesome benefits but it is three 12 hour shifts a week. Me. alone. with a newborn. for 12 + hr shifts. At least he has 4 days off a week, but I'm not thrilled on this. It's hard to be as happy for him and us as I "should be" when I think about being solely responsible for a newborn that long. </p>
<p>I'm also not finished with my degree, I'm not as upset about this but sometimes I wonder if I'd be a better mother if I'd <em>done more</em> first. </p>
<p>And then, when I think about labor and delivery I'm a bit freaked out. Probably not more than any average person, but I am nervous. We are lined up to birth at stand alone center with a midwife, but there are still unknowns. We live hours away from the center, how will I know when to go? What if we have an emergency that requires transfer? What if I fully freak out? </p>
 

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<p>Omgoodness...I'm glad I'm not the only one! I am soooooo stressed right now with family politics and my other two little ones (almost 2 and almost 4). I finally broke down about three weeks ago to my husband. It got a little better when he started helping more. He's in a band and we travel an hour and a half every weekend to stay at his grandmother's house and he's gone all day on Sat to practice and record and stuff. I finally asked him if he could lay off the band stuff until this baby was born. Then last week we drove straight through from OR to NE to see my family......the kids were great but we were exhausted all week. At the end of the week he asked me if  I was ok.....typically I say "I'm fine, or I'll be ok" but this time I said "no" we went out that night together after the kids were in bed for the first time (without kids) since my last little one was born. We talked, and walked around the grocery store....romantic  I know lol but it was late and freezing and a Sunday night so nothing was open except village inn(restaurant).  I have since taken the time to schedule a massage every week until this baby is born. I had my first on Friday and I have one scheduled for Thursday. I'm just afraid that I will be soooo worn down and stressed out that this birth with be very difficult. </p>
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<p>We are planning our very first UC and I'm excited about it so I want to be as relaxed as possible! It's taken a lot for me to force myself to relax and take the time to eat better, go to bed earlier, and stay patient with the kids. I'm gettting there.....but it's good to know I'm not the only overwhelmed one out there. :) </p>
 

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<p>Yeah I am there too.  Some days I get excited but this baby came as a little bit of a surprise to us.  I wasn't quite adjusted to having three yet when I found out that we were having number four.  Then with the holidays, work, everything- there is just too much going on right now! But I think I will be ready in a few more weeks.  The holidays are going to be a big hurdle for all of us I imagine.</p>
 

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<p>Rachel, im so glad to hear that you seem to be taking care of yourself, yippee for massages!</p>
 

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<p>This thread actually helped cheer me up!  I hadn't gotten around to reading it until now.  I've been feeling a lot of the same things, so it's nice to hear of others who feel that way too!</p>
 

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<p>I was excited, but now with Christmas so close I am back to "baby stay in, I am not ready!" mode.  I still have SO much to do and I just don't have the motivation to get it done.  I HATE wrapping presents and I need to get that done (with my big old belly).  I just cannot get into the spirit of the holiday at all, yet alone get meals ready for PP or anything else I need to prep. </p>
 

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<p>I definitely get overwhelmed when I think about after the baby comes! Somedays I feel partially on top of it, other days I feel like I need to start hoarding food and that I don't have stuff ready! This is probably true. We are keeping Christmas very low key. I'm working next week and then I'm done! Of course, she could come at any time. :)</p>
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<p>I call it nest and rest - because that's all I do when I'm not working!</p>
 
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