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I'm considering not doing one this time around. With dd, everything went perfectly, great pregnancy, delivery was a bit off, but she was healthy (jaundiced, but we know now why and my midwife has ways to prevent it this time) ect. I'm young, (27) healthy, in good shape, all that. We are planning a homebirth, and I am getting routine pee and blood tests for sugar, iron, and whatever else. When I told my mom I wasn't having an u/s, she flipped. And she is very supportive of natural birthing practices, she had both my sister and I naturally. Her angle was, how will you know if there is something wrong? You will be at home and wouldn't know until baby came out, and then would have to transfer. My angle is, most things (major things) will present themselves beforehand through blood work or pee testing. I want to learn to trust my body, trust that the baby is healthy. Now though, I am having second thoughts! What would be the things that could be detected in an u/s that would affect my homebirth? And what are the risks of having u/s? Thanks!
 

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the only reason i can't decide is i don't know if dh and i can wait for the sex...<br><br>
so i'd love to the cons in detail too<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lurk.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lurk">: ...
 

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No ultrasound here. I am not convinced that they are safe and I do know that the one pregnancy where I had one (Phoenix), it upset the child very much.<br><br>
Here are some links for you about the risks of routine ultrasounds:<br><br><a href="http://www.unhinderedliving.com/pultra.html" target="_blank">http://www.unhinderedliving.com/pultra.html</a><br><br><a href="http://www.nytimes.com/specials/women/warchive/970715_1736.html" target="_blank">http://www.nytimes.com/specials/wome...0715_1736.html</a><br><br><a href="http://www.askquestions.org/articles/ultrasound/" target="_blank">http://www.askquestions.org/articles/ultrasound/</a>
 

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I have decided to not have an ultrasound pretty much for the same reasons as NO, and you. I want to trust in my body, pregnancy, baby and birth. My body has created and housed to very healthy babies so the probability of me having another healthy baby at the end is very good. If there was a genetic history on either side I might consider doing an ultrasound but then they aren't very helpful with that kind of stuff anyway, so that's really not a good arguement. Anyway, exhausted mama here and rambling....
 

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No ultrasound planed for us either. Cost is a factor as well as I hated to the whole process last time. Will consider doing one near the end if the baby's position is hard to figure out.
 

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This has been a tricky tricky decision to make, since US is SO, SO common, kind of expected. We're doing a homebirth too. It's a little different for us than the other posters in this thread, because it's our first baby, so we don't have anything to go on, just faith in the process. But, we decided against, mostly.<br><br>
Hubby & I decided not to do the NT scan for sure, since we knew I wouldn't get an amnio or CVS, and there's a high false-positive rate - so not worth the potential freakout if we weren't going to follow up with a definitive (invasive) test.<br><br>
We thought we'd do the 20-week, for the "everything looks great" reassurance, but as our midwife pointed out, we have to be able to live with the possibility that they might NOT say "everything's fine" (and they might or might not be correct - I had a friend get a false positive result at her 20-week for some defect, and she spent a chunk of her pregnancy FREAKING OUT until they were given the all clear - we don't want that). So we decided to re-think it. Plus, when I realized how long the 20-week anatomy scan takes, I felt really uncomfortable with the idea - I'm personally highly sensitive to energy/sound, & can imagine what the baby might experience, especially reading the descriptions from mamas who could tell it was distressing their babies. So I'm 90% sure we're going to skip the 20-week scan too.<br><br>
That said, my midwife said I'm measuring a little big right now, and if my dates/body don't catch up to each other by 18-20 weeks, she'll send us for a quick scan just to make sure there aren't two in there! (I don't think so - she doesn't really either; she thinks it's because I'm so small to begin with.) I think I'd be ok with a short scan, if there were reason for it.<br><br>
It was especially hard to decide something like this knowing that most everyone else would say, "You decided WHAT????? Are you NUTS?" My mom felt concerned about it, but I reminded her that she hadn't had any scans while pregnant, and she hadn't worried about it at all - just because the technology's there doesn't mean you have to use it! My pregnant friends are getting them and feel horrified that we decided against the NT scan, but it felt right for us. There are positives and negatives to either side. I fully understand why people get scans - it'd be nice to get a definite "yes, everything's fine, look, you can see for yourself," which it what my friends want, since they know they'd get CVS/amnio to follow up to determine their course of action. Since our course of action won't change, we don't think it's worth the potential worry.<br><br>
Our midwife is totally fine with whatever we decide, which is nice - she's clearly not worrying about US & its outcomes for the birth, so we won't either! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> There's a great thread in the homebirth section that I'll try to find & post, from a mom whose son was born with an undiagnosed heart defect (he'd had a scan, they didn't see it) and spent 2 weeks at home being breast-fed & co-sleeping before going to the hospital for surgery. The doctors were astounded at how quickly he recovered, and she's positive it's because he had a peaceful birth and two blissful weeks at home, instead of being rushed to the NICU right after birth - that was interesting food for thought too. (Of course, on the flip side, I'm sure you can find stories of babies who might not have done well if they weren't rushed to the NICU.)<br><br>
We're basically hoping for the best, and trusting the process. (Which gets easier as we go along! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">) & we know that we can always change our minds...which is nice to know.
 

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Here, a link to another US thread with links to more US threads! <a href="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/showthread.php?t=732846" target="_blank">http://www.mothering.com/discussions...d.php?t=732846</a>
 

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We didn't want a diagnostic one. We got a 3D one because the baby's parents really wanted to know the sex. If they hadn't wanted to know we wouldn't have gotten one at all because they don't want to know and don't care if anything is "wrong" with the baby, so there's really no point.
 

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I am not because<br>
1)cost--even with good insurance, it was $$$$$.<br>
2) I hate feeling like I need to be tested all the time...I am not having a health crisis--I am not a patient!!!--I am just happily pregnant!<br>
3)From what I understand rountine U/S do not improve outcomes. So, you may know that the baby has this issue, but you can' t do anything about it anyway.<br>
4)There are false "findings". My midwife emailed me an article about a woman who was told her baby had club foot--the baby was born with a normally shaped foot, but she had spent all those months worrying!<br>
5)They may not be safe<br><br>
Remmeber that rountine u/s in USA is relatively new. My mom had 5 chiildren and with the first 4 she had no u/s. She did not have one until her last baby in 1994 and that may have been because she was 35, but I don't know.<br><br>
You do not need a u/s to have a healthy baby. Ask your mother if she had u/s with her children. Probably not!<br><br>
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dh and i decided last night <span style="text-decoration:underline;">not</span> to have an us. (thanks for the info posted...that helped in the decision making) family is going to freak out. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"> i'm excited!
 

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I really do not want to have an US. At my last midwife appt she was encouraging me to get one btwn 18-22 weeks. She wants to know the position of the placenta. I have never had any problems with my pregnancies or deliveries, and did not get an US with our first baby. The last 2 we opted to do the US, but do NOT want to know the gender. This will most likely be our last pregnancy and I really just want to enjoy it and go on faith in my body that everything is okay. So....I think I am going to disappoint my midwife and not get the US.
 

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No ultrasound here, although it's VERY tempting. I had u/s with my first 3 - standard practice for my OBs with my first two and I had an "emergency" u/s with my dd because my mw couldn't find her heartbeat at 16 wks (she was fine and you couldn't miss that she was a she!!!). We didn't have an u/s with Coren and he absolutely HATED the dopplar and would move away from it the couple times they tried to use it when I was in labor (they'd have used a fetoscope, but I was in the pool on my knees resting my upper body on the side of the pool w/ my belly hanging down and they would have needed scuba gear to use it! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> ). So... no u/s for us this time unless the mw or I think something is amiss. I am SO tempted to have one to find out the sex (last child and dd, the only girl, has her heart set on a little sister!), but to me, that's not a good enough reason to do it.
 

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I'm not having one -- I think that finding out gender is a pretty frivolous reason, so I'm not going to do it unless we have a concern that requires US.
 

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We're not, I think there are many good reasons not to. My favorite is the one my midwife gave during our first pregnancy:<br><br>
"If we were supposed to see our babies, we'd have windows in our bellies."<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
Having said that we did have two with my first pregnancy, I was on thyroid meds when I got pregnant that "could be harmful to the fetus". Looking back though, I wouldn't do it again in the same situation. Had we found anything wrong we would not have terminated. Let nature take it's course.
 

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My first dd was born with a vsd, that's a hole in her heart, a heart murmur, but not at all a threat to her life. DS, we wanted to know the sex, my dh was out of the u/s room and out in the parking lot on his cell to his dad before the tech could even finish the word boy... dd/#2, we did an anatomy u/s and one for her heart, nothing, they found nothing, except that we found out, by accident, that she was a girl. Since then I have had a blighted ovum and our last baby stopped developing around 16 weeks, which I am coming up on soon. So, I am torn, but I don't think I am going to do it. Why? Whatever will happen will happen, it is out of my hands and I am not spending the rest of my pregnancy fretting. Nor do I want to risk the chance of ruining the surprise!
 

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This is a great thread. I'm 90% sure we are not going to do the 20-week u/s. We did one early on to relieve my high-anxiety levels after our loss earlier this year, and we heard the h/b with a doppler last app't, but we are both inclined to stop all the high-intensity sound waves stuff. I'm still a little torn; dh would prefer that we not do it, but will be ok with an u/s if I need to do it for my own peace of mind...but I think I've talked myself into being ok with "What will be, will be."
 

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1st timer here...<br><br>
I'm at 15.5 weeks and we are not planning on an u/s or doppler. My midwife does doppler, but she's in full support of our decision.<br><br>
I am anxiously waiting hearing tater tot's heartbeat via fetoscope!<br><br>
A friend going to a traditional dr got u/s at pregnancy diagnosis, 4 wks, 8 wks, 10 wks, 12 wks. The little one quit developing at 12 weeks. An u/s was useful only in the last instance where it confirmed the doppler's findings of no heartbeat. I really can't imagine why they do so many especially the first one at diagnosis????<br><br>
If it's not medically neccessary, then I'm having none of it.<br><br>
And yes, many people think I'm insane and they think that u/s is a REQUIREMENT. I wish people would be a bit more involved in their own (and their baby's) health care.
 

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Nymph (and everyone else), I had ultrasounds at the 5th, 7th, 9th and 12th weeks. I know that there are plenty of people reading this and shaking their heads, but sigh. It was my choice, and I don't think I am being irresponsibleor uneducated in making these choices. (I'm not suggesting that anyone has implied I have on this board, but on other boards it has been suggested)<br>
The one at 5 weeks was very important as there was a really high chance of me having an eptopic pregnancy and I was having signs that it was eptopic. Also since I was seeing a fertility specialist emotions run extremely high for a lot of those patients and it is relaxing to see that heartbeat and know that your baby is okay. I think that my peace of mind is better for this baby than my constant stress that my body is failing me again.<br>
That all being said I am not going to get a 3D or 4D ultrasound, but I do have at least 2 more ultrasounds planned for genetic reasons. (DH was born with a severe hole in his heart that wasn't the normal hole that infants can have, his was a genetic thing and there is a chance this baby will have it and will need surgery sooner than later)<br><br>
Anyhow I write all this not as an attack on anyone not having USs, since I believe we each should make our own decisions and support each other on them.
 
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