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or not even a toddler I guess. Nursing any child.<br><br>
I'm nursing my 21 month old and words cannot express how much I hate it. I never had any intention of tandeming but I had hoped to let him lose interest when my milk changes. But honestly I can't even do that now. I have set a goal to be done by the end of April.<br><br>
I'm sad that things are ending with me feeling so badly about nursing. I just feel like crying and crawling out of my skin when he nurses.<br><br>
We're down to just in bed (so before nap, before bed and overnight). That's about 3 sessions less than where we were a couple of weeks ago.<br><br>
Just wondering if anyone can relate.<br><br>
**Support only please. I am not interested in the case for tandem nursing /CLW. That has never ever been on my radar.Thanks.**
 

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I'm nursing my 21 month old also. The thing I don't like about it right now is that my belly is very, very sensitive with my extreme nausea, so when she flops around while she nurses it's incredibly hard not to throw up. I'm hoping the m/s passes soon. I think she'll probably wean when I lose my supply, since she only nurses 1x per day anyway and doesn't seem to attached to that. So I'm just waiting to see. I'm not terribly crazy about the idea of tandem nursing either, although I'd probably do it if she wanted to.<br><br>
How often does your lo nurse?
 

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Hi! Christopher nurses about 4 times. Before nap and bed (that's 2) and then probably twice overnight/early morning (cosleeping).<br><br>
I would think that if your LO is only nursing once it mightn't be too hard to change. Hope it goes the way you want, anyway!
 

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I'm still nursing my almost 4 YO. It doesn't bother me that much. Last pregnancy, it made me CRAZY, but this time it's OK. It seems like he's being rougher than usual, but I think my nipples are just more sensitive.
 

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I'm nursing my 26 month old. It was hurting alot for about 6 weeks but its getting better now. But now my milk supply is dropping and I'm working hard to keep that up but my son is drinking a sippy cup of milk during the middle of the night. He's not a huge solids eater and we've both been sick so I'm hoping it will get better. Its ALOT harder than I expected.
 

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yuppers. Im nursing my 8 month old and plan to tandem nurse until DS is at least 2 years old... no supply issues yet (im crossing my fingers that i dont have issues!!)
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> mama! You need to do what you need to do to keep your sanity!!<br><br>
I was planning to tandem, but I really don't know now. The only reason I am interested in it at all is the prospect that it may help DS and new babe bond. I don't have any soreness yet, but my patience and temper is short and I find myself crawling out of my skin. We co-sleep too and he is nursing before nap, before bedtime, and first thing in the morning, and anywhere from once to four times overnight. We are definitely going to nightwean sometime soon - just waiting for the go-ahead from DH as he is the one who is working crazy hours right now.
 

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Oh mama, I know how you feel. I've tandem and triandem. My last pg i was nursing two and I put limits on like you wouldn't believe. I couldn't handle it! My older nursling was 3yrs 2months when he weaned (i was about 5months), but my other nursling I cut her way back. She finally weaned at 2yrs, when baby was 2 months old.
 

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My dd is 31 months and nursing. I had a big supply drop, but neither one of us are interested in weaning.<br>
I read mineral deficiencies can cause the "willies"-- it wouldn't hurt to get that looked into <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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I think I just weaned my 27 month old. She's only nursed 2 or 3 times in the last week, and those times were mostly for me to let her take what little milk there was. Morning sickness hit me pretty hard and I know my body just doesn't have enough to support the 3 of us.<br><br>
Weaning was much easier than I thought it would be. I actually just kind of explained to her that she couldn't nurse tonight, or today, etc and she went right along with it. whew! I thought I would have to tandem also and really didn't want to.<br><br>
I hate that creepy feeling when nursing! It happened with my son a few years ago. I felt like he was sucking my insides out. Interesting that it might be a mineral defiency, have to remember that.
 

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I'm nursing my 17 month old son. It's still going okay for us and neither of us are ready to wean yet, but we'll see what happens as the pregnancy goes on. I will probably tandem if he wants to, but I haven't totally made up my mind about that yet. We co-sleep too and I'm so tired right now that I definitely have less patience for the nighttime nursing. (He nurses two or three times a night.) He also is a thrashy sleeper/night nurser and he keeps kicking me in the belly, which sometimes worries me. So I'm considering not only night weaning but also setting up his crib as a sidecar to our bed and moving him into that. He won't really like either of these changes, but even toddlers have to compromise sometimes for the wellbeing of the whole family.<br><br>
You've given your little one a great start in life with 21 months of nursing, and now it sounds like it is time to wean gently. You know what is best for your family and yourself. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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I do completely understand. When I was preggie with #2, #1 was still nursing hardcore. I was just so totally, emotionally, physically DONE. "Luckily" for me my milk dried up when I was about 2 months preggie. That made it a sort of, "Sorry, sweetie" sort of thing.<br><br>
Preggie now with #3 and still nursing #2 I feel totally different. I had a LOT of guilt over weaning #1 so quickly (forced weaning, I guess) because she missed it so much and forgot how to latch by the time the baby (#2) was here. Anyway, I'm going to let life keep going here for #2, I really quite hope I'll have good milk maintainence until #3 arrives because #2 is so much more a baby to me....<br><br>
That said, I can relate to what you're going through as I felt as you feel. We all have to do what we feel is best at the time. I just hope you won't feel torn or regretful about weaning before he's ready. Ya know? Good LUCK!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">!<br>
I am nursing my eight month old. I'm kind of sick with my body right now, because no matter what I do, my milk supply just sucks. I worry that DD is not getting enough anymore. I want to nurse until at least a year, but I just don't see how that's possible. I even tried to give DD a bottle of formula (I felt totally awful, but didn't know what to do) yesterday, and she just looked at me like..."What <i>is</i> that." She would suck until she realized that it wasn't breastmilk, and then spit out the nipple. So, we're just taking it one day at a time here and hoping for a miraculous increase in supply.
 

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Nursing my 15 months old. She has been showing frustration at the breast over the last couple days but it may be her clogged nose, not a drop in supply causing it... We shall see in a couple weeks what happens with that.<br>
Right now I feel fine about it and I am considereing tandem.
 

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Nursing a 26 month old right now...no signs of stopping! I am conflicted as well. I am totally okay with the idea of tandem and I don't want to force her to wean...but I secretly have hopes that there less and less milk so she'll nurse less. Some days, she nurses when I get home for a short time and then before bed and then just as we are getting up. Other days, she nurses forever or every two minutes it is "other side, other side, other side". I want to scream when that happens. I do think we are struggling with yeast right now so I'm hopeful that when I treat it successfully, I'll have less sensitive nipples and I'll be less annoyed.<br><br>
HUGS.<br><br>
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I appreciate the support and well wishes!
 

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DD actually began to wean herself right around 12 months. I thought that was really early and worried that she was getting enough. She's always been a good solids eater, so I don't worry now. She officially stopped at 14 months (a few weeks ago) and now drinks whole milk from a bottle or a cup. I have this guilty feeling in my gut that I somehow made her stop too early, as I have always planned on bf for a long time. But, she did it on her own and has shown no signs of wanting it. My breasts are much happier to be left alone, but my heart aches a bit.
 

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I am nursing my 3yo and 16mo. So far it is going very well, lots of nipple soreness but I only feel like I am going crazy when my 3yo is nursing at night. He has been wonderful about unlatching after a few minutes when I ask him to, so I am really thankful for that.
 

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during pg #2 I nursed DD for about half of my pregnancy. I nursed DS1 all the way through pg #3 and about two weeks after, then he stopped asking to nurse.<br><br>
This time around I knew I wanted to wean and I've been working gradually towards that since I night-weaned about six months ago. DS2 is 32 months old and I am pretty sure he is totally weaned. When I got pg he was only nursing down to bed and after the positive test we started going every few nights without nursing, then every other night, then a few nights, and now he's gone to bed without nursing for 4-5 nights.<br><br>
For me it was two things - I've nursed in both of my other pregnancies and found it hard, and I didn't want to do that again. I also feel he's old enough to be ok with weaning. And secondly he's supposed to spend a few weeks with his dad this summer and I felt I needed to wean in advance of that. So this is what worked for us and I feel very at peace about it.
 
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