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I've been getting responses that tell me that there is no reason for spoonfeeding and that I should only let my baby self-feed if I am breastfeeding. My daughter is 10 months old and I give her all the breastmilk I can produce in a day by breastfeeding and pumping it out and giving her that myself or by whoever is watching her. Along with that I give her an oz. of plain goatmilk yogurt in the morning, about an oz. of steelcut oats and banana in afternoon, and about 1 1/2 oz. of chicken, yam & spinach for dinner. She loves avocado so I give her a half an avocado sometimes too. All the food is organic that I cook and puree myself.<br><br>
When I got the advice to stop spoonfeeding her and let her eat food herself, I experimented with this for about 4 days and she quickly lost weight. So I went back to what I was doing, which I felt was fine before I got the "no-no" from people. She *is* getting all the breastmilk I have, so I think this is fine. Is anybody else fine with this or does this too? I believe that perhaps because my baby is so active, she may burn more calories than other babies who are less active.
 

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Hmm, I hadn't heard that you shouldn't spoonfeed at all. That's interesting.<br><br>
Breastfeeding goes well with all the different ways of introducing solid food. I am guessing that the folks who oppose spoonfeeding are worried that you will not be able to respond to your child's hunger cues. (Since one advantage of breastfeeding is that the baby has to suck hard, and is only motivated to do that when actually hungry.)<br><br>
I'm not so worried. I think you'll be fine. I found the period you are in, that time between 6-12 months, so nervewracking. There's just a lot of contradictory information about what and how to feed a baby once you bring on the solid food. But now that we're past it, I think, "Gosh, that was fun, introducing all those new foods and watching him try them. I wish I had been more tuned in to the pleasure of it and less worried."
 

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Is there a problem with spoonfeeding now? I've not heard this. DD was spoonfed and breastfed, but I did let her gnaw on fruit through her BabySafe Feeder and pick up Cheerio-type cereal and feed herself when she was able.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">: Confused!<br><br>
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i also know mothers who don´t spoonfeed at all because it can interfere with nursing. i think it´s a choice. i only spoonfeed if he´s eating soup or very mushy mashed potatoes or carrots, or anything he has a problem digesting if it´s whole. otherwise he feeds himself, but he´s almost 15mo. when he was 10mo he self fed some things but i was still spoonfeeding him somethings. and i started spoonfeeding from the begining and he still nurses. 2 or 3 times a day, but i don´t think the spoon has anything to do with it. my opinion.
 

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My baby is about the same age as yours, and we breastfeed and spoonfeed. I give her pureed organic food. Part of the reason I don't do table food with her yet is because I still haven't been able to get my crap together enough to start cooking decent, healthy meals. (Working on it!) She is high-needs and I have NO time to spare to cook. I don't want her eating the junk that we end up having every night. She has very little interest in solids period right now, but I still want her to experiment with tastes and textures, and I want it to be healthy.<br><br>
She eats maybe a total of three ounces of puree a day, if that. I would like for her to start finger foods but I don't feel ready yet, and I don't feel that she's ready. I believe in Mommy intuition. I think the general rule is, if your baby is thriving and you feel good about your system, then by all means, proceed.<br><br>
I agree with the above poster who said that with puree it's easy to overfeed the baby if you're not aware of their cues, so that's something to be careful of. I can easily tell when C is not hungry or uninterested, so I don't keep stuffing her.<br><br>
I think your menu sounds great and healthy. I might steal it, actually. :p
 

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we do a little of both. i will spoonfeed the messier stuff, but i give ds a spoon or let him grab handfuls at the same time. i think he's a bit older than your LO (will be a year old on the 29th!) but we've gone like this for awhile. also, with things like yogurt, i'll give him something to dip into it. (he likes zweibeck toast best.) i'll give him a spoon-bite, and then let him dip the toast or whatever and suck on that for a bit, and then offer another bite.<br><br>
one thing i won't do, tho, is the 'just one more bite' or try to spoonfeed when he doesn't seem interested. when it seems like he may not want anymore, i'll give him a loaded spoon and see what he does. if he takes a bite, i'll continue the meal. if he smears it everywhere, i'll let him play for a bit and then start cleaning up.<br><br>
my 2 bits of advice: learn to read the table-food cues just like you did for bfing. eventually you will be able to tell when your LO is 'done' by the way they act. remember that the experience is more important than actually getting most of the food into your LO. don't be afraid of messes, in fact encourage them (to a point)! that's the way to learn. good luck, and HTH
 

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There are a lot of posts under Life With A Babe where someone talks about feeding DC with a spoon and a lot of people respond with the "no, no, only when they are ready and can get the food themselves with their hands."<br><br>
I also take it with a grain of salt. Do what works for you. My DD is 6 months and she gets most of her food via my breasts. But she also gets stuff on the table she can pick up herself (rice cake, soft pear chunks, fish....) And she gets stuff like applesauce and blended fruit/yogurt drinks from a spoon. I can't imaging applesause any way except a spoon. I know her cues. When she is done eating table food, she turns her head and closes her mouth. And sometimes she wants a boob right after. She is telling me what she wants. Sounds like you are listening to your babe and what she wants.
 

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I don't have a problem with spoonfeeding, although I've heard others here say that they won't give solids until their child can feed themself. But I think that's more an opinion or preference than anything else. I spoon fed my son after 6 months and he gradually started to learn to feed himself finger foods and eventually with a fork or spoon. I don't think it hurt how or what he eats at all. If it's working for you, I wouldn't worry!<br><br>
Just wanted to add, my son was VERY good at telling me he did not want any more food. And I never pushed it on him!
 

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I believe that has to do with the fact that your child will eat more food when spoonfed than when self-feeding. Until your child is able to feed themselves, and are still EBF for the most part, feeding is experimental and a fun experience, not for nutrients. Additionally, I believe the post some PP's were referring to was a post regarding a 4 or 5 month old being spoonfed and dropping nursing sessions.<br><br>
The fear is that the child being spoonfed at an early age is not able to clearly communicate fullness to a parent and may "overfill" on less nutritious foods, leaving less room for the highly nutritious breastmilk. Whereas a child that self-feeds is on a learning curve and as their "need" for food other than breastmilk occurs, it is usually at the point where they naturally have more manual dexterity and can self-feed to appropriate fullness. (Does that make sense the way I said that?)
 

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Seriously, if we didn't spoonfeed, DS would barely eat anything but breastmilk. And at 15 months, I'd like to have him able to eat a sandwich in time for prom. What you're doing sounds GREAT (I wish I was that good with food!) and keep it up! It sounds like you're tuned in enough to your baby not to overfeed when they don't want it.
 

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Thank you for all your replies and support! I'm very relieved to hear supportive comments about my spoonfeeding, and I do very much try to be in tune with DD's desire for more food or to stop. She seems very in tune with her needs.<br><br>
I began giving self-feeding another try, and this time I'm liking it more because I'm not excluding spoonfeeding altogether like I did last time, and I discovered a new great thing with self-feeding--keeping her in the high chair longer entertaining herself with food while I do stuff! This has gained me a little more freedom than before.<br><br>
I do have a question though, and maybe I should start a new thread with this: my 10 month old daughter, being new to self-feeding, does not know how to chew very well. She swallows food without chewing very much at all. Is this something to be concerned with or will she catch on pretty quickly?
 
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