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Just wondering if anyone else is pregnant after a loss(es)?<br><br>
I have one DD and have had 4 m/c's. I finally had testing done before this pregnancy. I apparently have some blood clotting issues and I am being treated with low molecular weight heparin this time around. Hoping it will do the trick.<br><br>
I am cautiously optimistic, but it is really hard sometimes. I so want this to work out...<br><br>
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I had a MC back in Feb. It was very early on, at just 6 weeks. I'm so sorry you had to experience that 4 times. It must be hard to connect with your new pregnancy and expect a good outcome. Sending you sticky baby vibes...I hope your meds do the trick and you'll be on this forum for the next 8 months or so!
 

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I've had 3 chemical pregnancies this past year. I was nursing my (just turned) 2 year old and weaned her the same time I got pregnant with this one. I wasn't intending to get pregnant for a while since I'd just had that miscarriage this last cycle. I don't know if weaning her gave me back the hormones I needed or what but I was shocked when I saw that BFP at one day late. Before they were just really faint positives that never darkened up but instead went away. I haven't lost any of my BFP pregnancies before but I'm still worried about this one and definitely taking it one day at a time. It's a hard roller coaster to ride, that's for sure.<br><br>
Best of luck to all of us!
 

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Thanks for starting this thread.<br><br>
I learned (via an ultrasound) I'd lost the one called Spirit in my siggy at 11.5 weeks--growth had stopped at 8.5 weeks. I tried but didn't m/c naturally so had a D&C at 15.5 weeks. The one called Hope I lost at almost 5 weeks. I've also had at least 1 chemical pg and probably more. And I'm 43.<br><br>
I'm also feeling cautiously optimistic. Definitely much more cautious than my other pgs. I'm going to have an ultrasound at the end of next week--<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/fingersx.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="fingersx"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/fingersx.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="fingersx"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/fingersx.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="fingersx"> that we will see a heartbeat. I'm usually a pretty low intervention person but I think that will be worth it to hopehopehopefully help me relax.
 

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Sending you mamas lots of sticky vibes and other positive, relaxing thoughts.
 

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I mc this January and i am really scared about this one. I was 13 weeks when I mc the last one. I just found out today and we are only telling one person each with death threats if they tell anyone else until we see or hear a heartbeat! SO at what week can you hear a heartbeat with a doppler? I am a rather fluffy person.<br><br>
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I've lost my baby last July when I was few days shy of 12 weeks. Now I'm pregnant again. Even though this pregnancy was planned too my first rection when I saw the positive test to burst in tears because of fear to lose another baby and go through the same hell.<br>
We told our parents and sisters, our 3 year old son who checks on me every morning to make sure the baby is still there.<br>
I think I was able to work through my fears with a lot of positive affirmations and EFT, visualizations and relaxations. The baby is very kind to me as well because she/he keeps sending me tons of nausea and other pregnancy symptoms to let me know everything is normal.<br>
Good luck to all of us!<br><br>
Thebigfam, I think the erliest you can hear the heartbeat with the dopler is 8 weeks, but they also might miss it because it is so early.
 

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I am having some minor bleeding and I am afraid that this might be miscarriage #5 <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> Will update....<br><br>
Sending lots of sticky vibes to all of you....<br><br>
Tracy
 

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Oh, I hope not, Tracy. Sending lots of sticky vibes to Germany <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/goodvibes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Goodvibes">
 

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Tracy, I hope it's something minor. I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers.<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/goodvibes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Goodvibes"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/goodvibes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Goodvibes">
 

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I am also pregnant again after 2 miscarriages (one at 8 weeks and one at 4.5 weeks, just 5 days after my BFP).<br><br>
Tracy - any updates? I have everything crossed for you, girl.<br><br>
How is everyone dealing so far? I know that the for most people who have had a M/C the first tri is incredibly difficult. I haven't really been jump up and down excited yet, it just seems so surreal still. At four weeks I am already worrying about symptoms and trying to differentiate between "knowing something is wrong" and "worrying something bad will happen again." I don't believe it in my heart, but at times I think - maybe I am worried because this is another pregnancy that won't last. I know for real that I am really just worried because I have had two that didn't last. I hope that makes some sense...<br><br>
Sticky vibes to us all!
 

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Me, too. I've had 3 m/c's, all around 5.5 weeks. After surgery to remove fibroids and no other identifiable problems (I'm almost 38, so I guess that's a potential problem, but my ovarian reserve checked out pretty great), I'm pregnant again. I was a wreck until today, when we had an early ultrasound (6 weeks) and saw/heard a heartbeat. I know it's not the end of worrying, but the RE did say our chance of success is up to 90% now.<br><br>
I know all the ultrasounds are controversial, but it was so worth it to ease my anxiety. I'm back for another one in two weeks, and then hopefully I will graduate out of the RE's office (even though I love them and all the attention when I need it).<br><br>
I was starting to believe I'd never even make it this far, so I have total confidence all of us will make it the whole way!!!
 

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Tracy,<br><br>
Any news? I feel like we're on a lot of the same threads - we must be right around the same DD and have a lot of similar worries.<br><br>
Hope all is well...<br><br>
-Cynthia
 

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Hi ladies! I had a loss in January at 6 weeks. I have officially had my bubble burst. I was so confident with my first two pregnanices, always just believed all would be well. This time everything is freaking me out! Nice to have some others to lean on but sorry we all have been through loss.
 

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i had 2 early losses - both more than a decade ago. i have one dd and right now i'm in the "yay i'm pg!" stage. i'm sure if the slightest thing goes wrong i'll be in a panic. it's harder when you've been hurt before, but i am really trying to let the past heartache remain in the past.<br><br>
sticky vibes to you all!
 

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I get anxious one day, and the next I say to myself everything is alright. And next day again when I don't have any pregnancy symptoms I start freaking out that something is wrong. I didn't want an ultrasound but I might agree to one just for reassurance.<br>
I think I am going crazy. I walk around like I'm doomed<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> 6 more long weeks...
 

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<b>Mama Jenese</b> I so relate to what you say about your bubble burst. This is such a different type of worry than my 1st 2 pgs that got this far.<br><br><b>Rumi79</b>, I also really relate to one day anxious another everything alright. I'm a pretty low tech interference gal, but I am doing the early u/s. For me, I think it is worth it to either lower the anxiety or know sooner rather than later.<br><br><b>Tracy</b>, still thinking of and wondering about you.
 

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I also have never had an early ultrasound (well except to confirm that I lost last time) My Doc. offered me one for this pregnancy and I think I am going to have to go for it. At this point I think a little piece of mind would go a long way!
 

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I had two boys then a m/c at 12.5 wks immediately followed by a m/c at 6 wks. then i had a son and then I had a daughter. My first pg after m/c was insanse, I did have an early us bcs I hadn't slept in over a wk. It was very necessary. That is the only us I had during that pg. I didn't have any us w/ my daughter and although I was more freaked out than w/ ds1 and ds2 I was definately more relaxed than w/ ds3.<br>
The thing about pal is that a loss takes away your innocence. You now know all of the many things that can go terribly wrong and it is extremely unsettling. Having had several healthy babies after my 2 losses is so weird bcs there isn't really a place where I fit in.<br>
This current pg was not planned and has been really hard bcs as much as we were not wanting a baby right now I even more would not want a m/c or loss of anykind.<br>
Sticky vibes to everyone.
 

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Thank you ladies for thinking of me<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/innocent.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shy"><br><br>
I hope everyone is doing well and able to keep their anxieties at bay.<br><br>
As for me, no real conclusive update. I went to the doctor on Tuesday morning. I really hate this doctor and every time I have seen her I say that I will find someone else....Unfortunately I have never switched. I am living in Germany where I don't speak much of the language and despite really disliking this woman, there is some comfort in the familiarity of a place and knowing that she speaks some English. Anyway....<br><br>
After waiting 2.5 hours to see the doc, she sees me for maybe 5 minutes and does an ultrasound. I don't believe she saw anything at all, although I can't be sure (should have been 5 weeks 3 days). The other doctor in the practice did an ultrasound a week ago Thursday and did see what she was supposed to, although it took her some looking. So, the doc on Tuesday said she needed to see what my HCG numbers were before commenting on the ultrasound (assuming that when your numbers reach a certain level you are expected to see certain things on the ultrasound). The labs had already gone out for the day, so she indicated to call her at 5 on Wednesday. What do you know....I call at 5 and the answering machine picks up saying that they are already closed. Furthermore, Thursday was a holiday here and the whole practice was taking Thursday and Friday off. Good news is that the bleeding was only on Tuesday night/Wednesday morning. Total amount was fairly light and not even enough to account for a period. Bad news is I have a sh**ty doctor! I guess I will find out more on Monday and will likely have another scan. Crossing fingers that something miraculous will have happened.<br><br>
Sorry for the novel.<br><br>
Thinking of you all.<br><br>
Tracy
 
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