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<p>I'm wondering if I should take the reigns & plan my own shower.  My mom is probably assuming she would host since she recently hosted my cousin's, but their place is tiny but most importantly parking would be a big issue.  They don't live in the best neighborhood either!  I'm trying to get an idea of where it could be held instead since my friends & family are pretty spread out.  Having it at my home or nearby would mean a 1.5 hour drive one way for some.  </p>
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<p>Anyone planning to rent a small venue for a shower?  Does that seem like too much trouble for what it's worth?</p>
 

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<p>I have been to at least one shower at a small venue...they had invited a ton of people so it just made sense to have it in a place with room for everyone.  It was nice :)  Church halls tend to be nice locations, since they usually have a kitchen attached to the main room, and they are very reasonably priced rentals.</p>
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<p>What if you just casually mentioned to your mom that you have been thinking about what you need for baby and where a shower might work in terms of how many friends etc you would want her to invite?  Then she could take it and run with it...she can still organize and host it even if it's not at her house.</p>
 

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<p>Im having a shower, but my mom and mother in law are throwing me the shower and we usually do it a venue since its easier to have someone take care of the food and location.</p>
 

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<p>I am going to have a shower (kinda) but I'm doing it all myself. I have no family here and my previous best friend has gone completely AWOL. ( I've gotten married and am having a baby and her life is really not together at all and there is some amazing resentment there) So there is no one to plan it but me really. I am going to have a baby shower/come drink all our booze cause no one else is party, which may also be a "last party in the area" if Mike gets one of these overseas jobs.</p>
<p>Most of the people who want to buy me stuff don't live here, So I will also be hosting a "virtual baby shower" for all my family and friends that are far away that keep bugging me to tell them what I want. I am thinking late Feb/ Early March.</p>
 

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<p>I've never been to one at a restaurant but that's a great idea.  Even better if I can pre-coordinate specifically catered food to keep the cost down... that way if they want to order anything more, they can pay. =)  & my mom can take charge of all the silly games and what not, she'll probably like it even more not having to get her house company-perfect. </p>
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<p>My main goal is seeing the people I hardly EVER get to see anymore.  The people who live the furthest away just so happen to also have babies (under 14 months) so I really want to increase the odds of seeing them this last time before I have one & we're all making excuses for not traveling!</p>
 

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<p>I have been known... *ahem* to absolutely despise baby showers. They just were never my cup of tea you know? <img alt="redface.gif" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/redface.gif"><br>
But this is our first baby, and we have really, nothing that we need yet, lots of family that are chomping at the bit to shop, plus the celebration would be fun. So my stepmom told me she would throw me one and let me tell her what sort of things I would like and not like, etc. (does this make me sound like a spoiled brat yet... geeze...)<br><br>
I like the idea of having it at a restaurant type venue - the atmosphere is already set up, food is handled.... and if you're like me and want to avoid some of the sillier parts of a typical babyshower, a place like this would make that easier I bet. I like the idea of everyone being cozy, getting their grub on, chatting, opening gifts, and less stress for clean up, decorating, etc.!<br><br>
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<p>I love this idea of throwing your own shower! </p>
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<p>My sister in law offered to have one for me. But my mother in law jumped in and insisted we have it at her house (2 hours away from where me and any friends I have live), and she said I had to limit my guest list to 4 people so she could invite all her friends. People I've never met! hahaha...MILs. What can you do. So I kinda said "thanks but no thanks" to that impending disaster. It really stung because I don't have sisters, and my mom has been out of the picture for years, so I don't have many women in my life that might do this for me.</p>
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<p>I would love to have something for myself. I don't really like shower games and such. But I think a nice brunch would be great. Maybe closer to my birthing I'll have a "bring a frozen meal" type party. That way I can stock up on what I really want for the babymoon - meals I don't have to cook! - and people won't have to worry about buying gifts (most of my friends are pretty poor :).</p>
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<p>Yeah I also want to avoid all the silly games and stuff, I find them really annoying and sometimes gross or creepy. The whole "guess the chocolate bar in the diaper" thing.. I .... ew.</p>
 

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<div>The whole "guess the chocolate bar in the diaper" thing.. I .... ew.</div>
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<p>.... that's something?? i'm with you there- ew.</p>
 

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<p>Yeah you melt a chocolate bar into a diaper, then people eat it and guess what it is. I just.... really? </p>
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>elonwy</strong> <a href="/community/forum/thread/1291691/anyone-planning-a-shower#post_16203445"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border:0px solid;"></a><br><br><p>Yeah you melt a chocolate bar into a diaper, then people eat it and guess what it is. I just.... really? </p>
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<p>yea, that kind of stuff is exactly what I mean by not my cup of tea....</p>
 

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<div>The whole "guess the chocolate bar in the diaper" thing.. I .... ew.</div>
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<p>.... that's something?? i'm with you there- ew.</p>
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<p>LOL!  We did that for a friend's shower and it was awesome!  But then again, I'm all for toilet humor.</p>
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<p>In fact that friend's baby shower was the best I ever attended and it was totally laid back and fun.  No formalities, just fun, good food, and cheesy games to celebrate the baby.  We did it at a friend's apartment and all of us pitched in to make the decorations, cupcakes, games, food, etc.  It rocked!</p>
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<p>At first, I sort of shied away from the idea of my own shower for some reason, UNTIL I realized just what I was going to need to buy for this baby.  Then I was all in.  I figured that a mellow celebration, like the one I described above, would be best.  But then the reality of life hit me.  I don't have the space, nor do most of my friends, who are now moms and super busy doing it all.  So, I chose a <a href="http://www.pipa-nyc.com/" target="_blank">restaurant</a> and we're going to do it there. </p>
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<p>Funny enough, now I'm looking forward to my shower.  Like someone said earlier in this thread, I don't get to see most of my friends that often due to busy schedules or proximity, so to have them all in one place to celebrate with me is pretty great.  Yummy food and wonderful friends is always a recipe for fun.  And if they just so happen to bring a gift, well even better.  LOL!</p>
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<p>I don't mind the goofy games so much but I'd much rather they gave the chocolate TO ME instead of wasting it!  You don't waste perfectly good junk food on my watch. <img alt="yummy.gif" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/yummy.gif"></p>
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>lyndie</strong> <a href="/community/forum/thread/1291691/anyone-planning-a-shower#post_16204145"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border:0px solid;"></a><br><br><p>I don't mind the goofy games so much but I'd much rather they gave the chocolate TO ME instead of wasting it!  You don't waste perfectly good junk food on my watch. <img alt="yummy.gif" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/yummy.gif"></p>
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