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By that I mean, without a doctor.<br>
So how many of you also take an unassisted approach to your children's healthcare? We chose UP/UC for our son and are doing the same for our current pregnancy. Our son has never seen a doctor...however, I know we are lucky, he is almost 20 months and has had only 2 minor colds and 1 fever (that he slept off in 3 hours). I'm an herbalist and feel confident in dh and my ability to treat most things and we consider our grocery and health food store spending to be our healthcare costs. Anyone else like this? Just curious!<br>
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I am not doing UA parenting, but I wanted to comment on your user name. It was my daughter's nick-name before conception, when we were having a hard time conceiving. I love the meaning, Life. Your user name brings back some special memories. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Yes, we are for the most part...<br><br>
Our last son was born unassisted/unattended and for the most part our healthcare as a family has become that way as well...<br><br>
We have seen a chiropractor though and I do consult my doctor at times....and it is that type of relationship...a partnership when I feel needed...rather then the way I used to handle healthcare (going to the doctor, nodding, and then obeying!!! LOL)<br><br>
I am learning about herbal care for our family more and more...I grow our own herbs and vegetables and have a few books on herbal medicine...<br><br>
Would you recommend any books/websites?<br><br>
~Charlene~
 

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yes, that is what we do.<br><br>
There has been only one time in the last 2 years that anyone in our family has seen a doctor, and it was my husband who gashed his head on a corner cabinet, and I could see his skull. He needed staples.<br><br>
Other than that, we have dealt with everything with rest, homeopathy, Reiki, and herbs.<br><br>
We have had many colds, stomach bugs, mastitis, UTIs, coxsackie, mumps, and many other minor illnesses. All without a doc.<br><br>
I love it, and know its right for our family. Just like birth, it would take a true emergency for us to see a doctor.
 

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my daughters are 4 and 2 and both have *never* been to the doctors, and I'm proud of that!<br><br>
I keep them well through a balance of good whole food, exercise and energy protection.<br><br>
They've *never* been on antibiotics, and have never been vaccinated either.<br><br>
They are strong kids because of that.
 

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Thanks for the replies! I'm glad I'm not the only one. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/innocent.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shy"> In our area, our "strange lifestyle"<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> is not accepted and there aren't any doctors who would be supportive either...so between my being an herbalist and dh being a massage therapist, we do it ourselves. For me, I feel that not having negative input (too many mamas in my neighborhood are trying to bulk up their kids or make them talk sooner to please their docs) really helps me listen to my gut when it comes to keeping us all healthy.<br>
The only chemical meds ever used in our home was by dh after the only doctor visit any of us have had...he took aspirin after having wisdom teeth pulled with no meds, only nitrous! Ouch!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">: (Oh, and he proceeded to through up the aspirin.)<br><br>
Our grandmothers knew what to do to treat all kinds of stuff...my mom remembers what her mom did for her when she had German measles...and no dr. was involved. It worked then, why not now?<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"><br><br>
USAmma, you made me smile...no one has commented on my username before and I'm glad it brings good thoughts to you. I like it too!<br><br>
jiva<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/duck.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Duck">: Disclaimer: I'm not dissing people who use doctors (who knows, I may need one some day too), I was really just wondering how many chose not too.
 

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We do more or less, except for the much against my insticts visit this past week (I posted about it in the lactivist forum). Zoe has been to the DR twice in her life and Grace hasn't been since the last time she received a vaxx at 1 and she is four now.<br><br>
Next babe will be UP UC
 

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I have not UP/UC'd, but went to a midwife for care. Learned about herbs in my school, and have been applying that knowlede to caring for my family for the last four years. I acknowledge and understand when situations are out of my scope and will therefore visit someone who can help me. We are lucky that our insurance will cover just about ANYTHING out there, so when we see a care physician we go to a Naturopathic Doctor (ND) unless other care is needed. We have only had to go to a non-ND care giver a very few times since we've been together (8 years).
 

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Doing a UP/UC and not planning on having "well-baby" checkups (what a term... ugh) or anything like that. Sure, if he breaks his arm or something, we'll see a doctor. But, just like a pp said- its just like birthing- it would take a true emergency to get us into a doctor's office or hospital.
 

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Allopathic medicine we save for true emergent situations, and even then, sparingly.
 

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I haven't done UC yet...but I do want to comment that I think you, the OP, are likely going to be all your ds needs, barring any emergency. You're an herbalist and that alone should be enough for non-emergent things. I'm very jealous actually...it's something I'd love to be! Well baby checks are such a blasted waste of time and money....they really are. I'm terrified of CPS though...that's my reasoning for taking ds now, to have a paper trail to show that YES I am concerned about my son's health. I've stopped vaxing and we refuse certain medical treatments for religious reasons...so I'm always afraid that could be held against me.
 

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We use a chiro weekly.<br><br>
I also have a traditional midwife on hand as needed.<br><br>
We are vax free and only seek conventional med for emergencies.
 

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My babe has never seen a Dr. - the older kids haven't gone in nearly 4 years.
 

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My son went for *one* well-baby at 1.5 months.<br><br>
We haven't been back and aren't planning to. I'm learning all I can about natural medicine so we never do (barring a serious emergency, of course)! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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First off let me say I really admire all of you ladies. I would love to do up/uc but dh and I would be too concerned after having a c-sect last time. Maybe if this baby goes well the next one will be ua. And I am an herbalist and so do treat ds for everything he comes down with. I really don't take him to the dr except for well baby visit (which don't seem necessary). The only reason I take him to well baby visits is because I'm worried about the need to cover my butt....isn't there a concern that cps could get involved? I spoke with a naturaopathic dr once who said that since nd are liscenced in ma i need to be seeing a md regular so that dss can't acuse me of medical neglect. is that just her opinion, my state or something everyone ua parent has to deal with? thanks
 

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It's funny that I stumbled upon this thread because just yesterday, my 7yo dd told me as we were on our way to the walk-in clinic (first time she'd seen a doctor in a long long while) : "Mom, I don't have a doctor so you and dad are my doctors, right?" I replied with a "sort of" kind of answer. Makes me smile today. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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We also use allopathic medicine at a minimum. I did take my son to a few "well baby" visits, but then I was like uhhh...we dont vaccinate, so whats the point? Part of it was that I wanted to establish a relationship w/ the ped I found. (supportive of non-vax, very anti-circ, and an X homebirth midwife!) We've since moved.<br><br>
He also went to the DR. when he had a SUPER high fever (103.9 with tylenol) and I could NOT figure out what was wrong. Turned out to be Roseola, so now I'll know for the next babe.<br><br>
We do go to the chiro regularly.<br><br>
But as many PP mentioned, we prefer to use western medicine for emergencies, and use alternative meds (herbs/homeopathy) for most everything else.<br><br>
Unfortunately my poor stepsons go to the dr. on probably a monthly basis, and have had so many rounds of antibiotics its not even funny. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
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I worry about CPS a little. I mean, someone could call because they saw my two-year-old running around naked in 50-degree weather. It could happen. What we did was find a doctor who wasn't going to hassle us about the well-child checkups. I think it helped that she was an FP -- she had more going on than making money from vaccinations. I just called up her office, I said I was her patient, and that I'd like to add my children as well. This was also in part because, around here, you can't get in to see a doctor unless they already have you listed as a client and have your insurance info checked out. So in the event that one of my children should need to see a doctor, we would have someone we knew to go to and not just have to go to urgent care and take whatever hack they assigned us to. And then I could also say, if anyone asked, that "our family doctor is _____". I wouldn't have to say that my kids had never actually seen her. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"> Although that's not even technically true, as they come to some of my appointments with me. So she did meet them, she just didn't do anything for them. We're in a bit of a bind now because she moved to another state. I've been getting by with, "Our doctor was Dr. ________ and we haven't found a new doctor <i>yet</i>" and then try to divert the asker's attention by talking about why she left and expressing my outrage about it. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> (She wanted to be able to attend VBACs and the local hospital doesn't allow them anymore.)<br><br>
So no, three of my four children have never been to see a doctor. Three of my four children have had newborn exams done by midwives. My last has never been checked out by any professional. Another poster said that they'd been lucky that they've never had to consult a doctor. I don't know if I consider it so much luck as just what happens when you treat your children well, feed them good foods, make sure they can attend to all their bodies' needs, etc. Yes, I know there are freak things that can happen. But I bet the vast majority of people would be and stay healthy if they'd just do those simple things.
 
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