Anyone read "Raising our children, Raising ourselves"?

for Naomi Aldort's new book.

You also might check out the NVC booklets: Raising Children Compassionately and Parenting from Your Heart. I found them very short, approachable and concrete. $5 each, I believe.

"Raising Children Compassionately" http://www.cnvc.org/raisekds.htm http://www.amazon.ca/gp/product/1892...138440?ie=UTF8

"Parenting from Your Heart" http://www.cnvc.org/motherin.htm http://www.amazon.ca/gp/product/1892...e=UTF8&s=books

This is another one I just found and like:

Connection Parenting by Pam Leo http://www.connectionparenting.com/p...dex.html#index
http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/193...lance&n=283155

Here are two articles from the NVC site: Raising Children Compassionately: http://www.cnvc.org/raisekds.htm

Compassionate Connection: attachment parenting and nonviolent communication: http://www.cnvc.org/motherin.htm

You can probably find Siblings Without Rivalry at the library too. http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/038...lance&n=283155

Pat

I was wondering about this book too, thanks scubamama, for taking the time to post all that info and the links. I am taking notes and will be reading all the links. BTW the quote in your sig really hit home with me, I am newly commited to raising my children with respect and your quote really sums up my motive behind it. You are an inspiration, I have been reading a lot of your posts lately. :

It is a great book with great concepts!

I must say that the writing style did not click with me. I can not even get my finger on it - may be it was too many examples?

I kinda like Alfie Kohn's style more Or may be it's because he was my "first love"? :

"Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves" kind of made me feel bad about myself. But I am still glad that I read it. I got more from Alfie though.

Bumping

Adding to my reading list... :

I found the book very valuable, especially in learning to separate "my stuff" from what the child really needs, and what is really going on with the child. I also found the ideas of empathizing with the child's emotions while not adding drama or projecting how I would have felt as a child in a similar situation helpful.

In some ways, though, I find myself feeling frustrated and inadequate when I attempt to communicate in Aldort's style and things don't usually go anywheres near what her examples suggest they will. I can empathize and recognize DD's feelings all day, and I will NEVER get, "Oh thanks Mom; I just wanted to know that you understood; I will move on now" instead I get more along the lines of, "Great! I'm glad you understand! BUT I STILL WANT IT so either shut up or give it to me!"

Of three books: Unconditional Parenting; Raising Our Children, Raising Ourselves; and Playful Parenting, I learned much from all of them and all are definitely worth reading but I incorporate more of Playful Parenting into my parenting style than the others and found it the most useful.

I've only just started to read this book... but already I've found some of her suggestions to be helpful. Will post more when I've had the chance to read more

Blessings