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I had an m/c nearly 4 wks ago, I was 11 weeks. We are moving in February and have decided to wait on TTC until the summer to get settled in the house and just chill. We have had one HELL of a year so need some peaceful time. I am also looking at applying for a full time job in the summer but would then want to give it some time before TTC. So basically I am looking at about a year before TTC unless I don't get the job which will make it the summer. It just feels like a long time at the moment, I thought I was going to be holding my baby in May but now I could be looking at 2 years nearly.<br><br>
The choices we are making are right for our lives and our family but I still feel sadness and longing which I can't seem to shake. Anyone else in the same boat?
 

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anyone?<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment">
 

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W are waiting too. It isn't exactly what I want to do, but we don't have insurance right now and its just not economically feasible. We just moved in October, and dh started a new job. I think it will be several months before we start ttc again. If it happens before then I will be tickled though.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I'm so sorry momma! We're not waiting for anything but conception & time still feels like it's passing too slowly & taking too long. I wish you calm & serenity in your journey. Do what you feel in your gut is right.
 

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I think so... yeah.<br><br>
We lost our little one just over a week ago. I was due in May also so I know exactly how you feel about supposed to be holding our little ones soon, now it seems so far off when that will actually happen <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
Anyway, right as we learned the baby no longer had a heartbeat, we didn't know if we'd want to try again... ever. Then a few days later, we were already in the mind set that we would still like to, but not any time soon. At least a year. Now I'm on the fence about when. Maybe spring, maybe longer. I don't know. I do know that I want to wait several months, for reasons that I KNOW are right for me. Lose some wait, do everything I can to get as healthy as I can, etc...<br><br>
But still I am having this feeling inside that I just want to be pregnant again so badly. Like, now. Which I know is totally normal, but not right me at this time, but still it is a hard one to come to terms with. So I know just what you mean. The choices can be the right ones, but it doesn't take away the sadness over things just not going the way you had hoped for.
 

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I can relate to the "hard to wait" part...<br>
After our stillbirth, dh wanted to immediately try again but I read that one should wait for the uterus to recover, and also a pregnancy actually does put quite a strain on the body, what with hormonal and glandular changes, so we decided to wait. I have read that 4 months is the minimum, but I think it is different for a miscarriage.<br>
I think you have to go with your family situation and also how your heart/gut feels. There is actually only so much that you can plan for.<br>
We waited because we wanted to give ourselves the time and space to grieve and mourn. I read of a mum who had a stillbirth and immediately trying again and had a healthy baby but she said because she did not have the time to mourn she felt awful a year after; so this may be something to consider.<br><br>
It is also hard when you have friends with due dates near to yours, seeing their babies... or hearing other people being pregnant. But I can see signs that my body is fatigued so i am doing my best to nurture my body as much as possible until we try again in a month or two...<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">s it must be hard. I wish you all the very, very best... ...<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment">
 
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