I am definitely glad I am not the only one dealing with this sort of thing.
Originally Posted by BrandiRhoades
What's his diagnosis, if you don't mind my asking? People with unipolar depression issues are pretty different from those of us with bipolar, and my experience is with bipolarity.
I am not sure what exactly is his diagnosis, but the radical mood swings and spending sprees lead me to believe he is bipolar. He is taking effexor with a T3 which is used to treat both.
Originally Posted by PlayaMama
i sometimes feel like i'm an emotional hostage because i can't be upset about anything or else it will send him into a tailspin. it really really sucks to feel like you're walking on eggshells anytime someone is in a bad mood so it doesn't get worse.
luckily, we're in a good phase right now and i haven't been feeling this was at all lately. plus, my dh is extremely caring and supportive about helping around the house, i never have to ask about that stuff at all.
hugs mama. it's not easy.
YES, that is exactly how I feel sometimes! I wish however I didn't have to ask for help though. That is one of our biggest problems. It seems any responsibility when it comes to home is definitely a trigger.
Originally Posted by Blu Razzberri
Literally anything can set him off, and make him irritable and angry. I also get blamed, and we (me and the kids) are the "cause" of his problems (which is an emotional rollercoaster in itself, because when he's happy, we're the best thing in his life). I find myself being the cheerleader, trying to stop him from getting upset; as well as being the superglue that holds it all together when he is.
Again, this is exactly the way it is with us, too. and when he isn't entirely self focused he is very, very loving and caring.
Originally Posted by anyalily
My mom was depressed and disabled most of my childhood and it is too much sometimes to deal with it in my husband.
This is where I get particularly frustrated with my self. Despite all the really good things about him, when it gets bad, it's really really hard and I am miserable a good portion of the time and have little support, yet this is the man I chose to be with and REALY, shouldn't I have known better????? Would a functional relationship been to alien for me? Am I trying to get the love from him I didn't get from my mother and perhaps I am trying to "fix" him because I couldn't "fix" her. See what I mean, I have issues.
I also worry about the repercussions on my children, particularly my girls, and what kind of relationships they will choose. I do not wish this on them.