what does AP stand for?
Originally Posted by maya44
Your ds is 8 and you don't let him take a walk with a grandparent you trust alone? And not because of his feelings or concerns, but because of yours?
You are not going to find many parents, even here, who agree with this. Your MIL parented in a different way? I think almost everyone parents is a different way.
I think that this is not a helathy form of attachment on your part. It sounds like you are terrified of the world and are engaging in some "magical thinking" about your need to always have your children in your sight outside . I am not trying to be rude or snarky, but I really think that you need to talk to someone professionally about this,
I think that this is sort of sad for your kids. Children deserve to form bonds with loving trusted relatives other than their parents. While I don't think that an overnight is absolutely necessary an hour or so of true alone time (without mama being on their heels) is.
What are you telling your child about people by doing this?
At what age will you allow your child to be alone with a loving trusted grandparent?
Originally Posted by aulait
Actually I do not label myself as AP. I am sorry for any confusion about that. See from posts I've read referencing AP, it seems that keeping your children with you is a major part of it, so my intention was to attract those sorts of parents who may have faced the same uncomfortable situation, and therefore have helpful input on the topic.