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OK. So. I am trying to not be nervous about this. I got a "24 hour notice of entry" this afternoon, notifying me that the landlord and the investors are going to be entering my apartment sometime between the hours of 9 and 5 tomorrow. I'm planning a homebirth and am due on Monday.<br><br>
The first thing to come to mind is, what if I'm wandering around my apartment moaning and naked and in the throes of labor when they decide they just have to enter my apartment and inspect it??? I worked in property management before becoming a fulltime mom, and I know that legally they can come in now no matter what now that they've given me this bs notice.<br><br>
AND my midwife has been peppering our appointments with these lovely little tales about how when people adamantly don't want their baby to be born on a certain day, that it ALWAYS is.<br><br>
My husband says, it's not a big deal. You probably won't go into labor tomorrow.<br><br>
I say, when your birthing privacy is at stake, then open your mouth.<br><br>
There is always a debate as to whether or not you should/have to tell your landlord that you are planning a homebirth, let alone a waterbirth with a tub! That might actually be against the lease. The last thing I need is to be evicted with a newborn.<br><br>
Others tell me, just call the office and tell them you don't want them to come to your apartment. There's some problems there. If I leave out the part about the homebirth, they'll think I'm hiding something else that is against the lease/illegal. If I tell them it's due to the fact that I am having a homebirth, I may be met with ignorance and the apartment manager contacting the district manager asking if homebirth is legal or not, and they might try to stop me from having a homebirth in these apartments. Or someone will call the police and it will be a pain in the a$$ and my birth experience will not be peaceful and calm and private like I want it to be.<br><br>
I know that homebirth is completely legal, and know that I have the right to have my baby wherever I choose. But most people react to my decision in a puzzled, fearful, why-in-the-world, didn't-you-know-thats-dangerous, you crazy person kind of way.<br><br>
This is my plan so far: IF (a big IIIIFFFF) I am in labor between the hours of 9 and 5 tomorrow, I will make up a sign that says "Do not disturb. I am in labor. Homebirth in progress. I respectfully ask for silence and complete privacy."<br><br>
And then I will lock my keyless deadbolts so they can't get in even with their keys. I don't think they will try to bust the doors down! (only crazed maniacs would do that, right?)<br><br>
I can't believe I'm saying this...but please everbody pray that I don't have my baby tomorrow between the hours of 9 and 5!!!!! As my sister told me "Just keep your legs crossed!"<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"> I just don't want anyone to meddle in my affairs, or question me, or otherwise screw up a perfect homebirth.<br><br>
(This coming from a woman who has been impatiently awaiting labor since the day I hit 37 weeks. I'm wishing I hadn't eaten all of that eggplant parmigiana yesterday and today.....)<br><br>
39 weeks + 3
 

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DDCC, could you call and tell them that you are VERY pregnant and would prefer that they come in a few weeks AFTER the baby is born in case you are in labor? You don't have to mention the homebirth, labor happens at home too in most cases before you "head to the hospital", you know?
 

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Also DDC crashing...<br><br>
I think you should just see what happens. If you end up being in labor and don't want them in, then just put that sign up. I can't imagine they would still try and barge in. As hard as it is not to, it's one of those things I'd try not to worry about unless I was forced to (i.e. in labor).
 

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i agree with mama moose. I would call and tell them that you where expecting any day now and that you would prefer that the inspection was moved for a few weeks.<br><br>
I would also NOT say anything about a home birth, but if they ask say that you want to stay at home for as long as possible before going in and labor at home in peace and quiet.
 

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I agree that they'd probably respect your being in labor without mention of the homebirth part -- most women labor part of the time at home.<br><br>
Also, I don't think they can legally break down the door even if they do have the right to enter.
 

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DDCC, if they show up while you're in labor they'll probably just leave. Just have DH or your midwife answer the door and tell the manager that you're in labor.
 

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Also, DDCC - When we had inspections in the past when living in apartments, it was really brief. Like, they were just checking to make sure the smoke detectors were there and working, screens on the windows, etc. I don't recall an inspection ever taking longer than a couple minutes. If you are in labor, especially early labor, I might mention it upon them entering, but just sit in a bedroom or on the couch or even take a walk in the hallway/outside for a few minutes. If you are, like, giving birth - then definitely put up a sign or have your midwife or partner answer the door and explain that you are in active labor and that it's a really, really bad time. They still wouldn't even have to know you are having a homebirth, they would probably assume you are getting ready to head to the hospital. I assume they would check other apartments and save yours for another day.<br><br>
Chances are you won't be in labor tomorrow - but try not to stress about it, even if you are. I bet it won't mess with your birthing plans.<br><br>
best of luck!
 

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How about in the morning, having your DH call and say ask if it can postponed a day as you are having some contractions but not close enough together, per your OB's instructions, to head to the hospital. That you don't feel up to having people around because you are not feeling well from them, and you are not in full blown labor, but are in sort of uncomfortable and moaning a bit through them. Just have them remind the people that this may or may not lead to baby being born that day because it is so early labor or braxton hicks.<br><br>
Or maybe they can, with this information, come to your place first, and walk through, and then be done with it, instead of waiting.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">DDCC, if they show up while you're in labor they'll probably just leave. Just have DH or your midwife answer the door and tell the manager that you're in labor.</div>
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i agree, no mention of laboring at home, just that you need peace and quiet at the moment in your early stage of labor.
 

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I've had an instance where an inspection was planned when I couldn't let anyone in (caring for a stem cell transplant patient who was severely immunocompromised), and she didn't want to share ... I just called the office and told them I was very ill, contagion was an issue, please come another day.<br><br>
And yeah they can legally enter, but what's the worst that could happen if you lock them out?? They probably can't act upon the problem on the spot. You could just hang a note, "I'm in labor", lock them out, and deal with the complaint later.<br><br>
But I'd also agree with those who note that maybe it'd be good to get it over with if you're in very early labor. Call them first thing in the a.m., ask them to see you first since you're due any minute ... no stress.
 

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DDCC I agree with a pp. I'd actually want the inspection done sooner rather than later. I might get dh to call them and say labor could start any day, have them come soon and call before they come so they will know if you're in labor or not. Then it's over and done with. You can feel free to set up tub, labor worry free and enjoy your newborn.<br>
Personally w/ a newborn there's a good change I'd either both be napping midday, or topless as I get back on the nursing train!
 

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Knowing how squeamish most people in our society are about birth, I'd bet money that if they were met at the door by your husband and told in hushed tones that you were in labor just-so-they-know...they'd turn tail and go. Possible that they'd call your bluff but I bet not. I agree with the idea to avoid mentioning homebirth in the call and/or the note on the door but just mention impending delivery and desire to not be disturbed during labor...nobody would know any better.
 

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I'd just let them come... pp is right, our society is squimish enough about birth that if you answer the door in labor, they probably won't want to come in. Or just hang-up your sign, but I would leave the homebirth part OFF the sign. You don't want the entire neighborhood to know what's going on in your apt.
 
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