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<p>So my brother had to move recently on 10 days notice the house he was renting was being forclosed on and the bank was taking possession. CRAPPY landlord and friend which makes it worse did not inform them sooner this was a possibility. Anyway he sent us over a day before the deadline to take anything we wanted. There were craft items etc from one of his ex's and a ton of books etc that the downstairs tenant had left too. It was a disaster zone. I decided sitting in the middle of it all while my 5 year old looked for treasures in the boxes that I want/need to have the security of being able to comfortably move with about a weeks notice. I also love the sleek modern minimalist looks I see whenever I manage to get to watch HGTV. Problem is I am a bit of a paper and baby items hoarder. I know I really dont need to hold on to this stuff and its holding me back but I keep false starting on my clean up. In hopes of gathering some steam to keep me rolling to completion when I stumble I was hoping to gathering a small tribe to join me. I am not comfortable posting anything personal on any other areas of the Mothering boards due to my ex's girlfriends stalking behaviour.</p>
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<p>I need to learn to let go of so many things and get organized. I am working on it. </p>
 

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<p>I was very minimalist when I moved into my apartment three weeks ago, I had a couple of rolling suitcases and a duffelbag. I have unminimalized quite a bit thanks to goodwill, salvation army and st vincents. Now  all my clutter is building blocks and puzzle pieces. But man they are everywhere!</p>
<p>Seriously though I would get a few large duffel bags or suitcases and pack like you were going on a two week camping trip (but with a kitchen instead of a campfire because replacing pots and nice utensils is a pain). Then whatever you don't pack because you doubt you will use it in two weeks give away on freecycle or craigslist.</p>
<p>If you think you will have to move in a hurry another thing that rocks is sending a large box of important but not needed at hand stuff to a trusted friend or relative for safe keeping until you get settled in. I did that with a bunch of my stuff as I was getting ready to leave my ex, I sent two packages to my moms house.</p>
<p>It also depends on what type of vehicle you have and if you plan on moving furniture or not. If you don't plan on moving furniture you can always leave them on the curb as free items if you have to move in a hurry.</p>
<p>Also for the things you are holding onto think of all the mamas who got out of dv situations with next to nothing and how awesome it would be for their babies to get the items you have laying around for free then call your local shelter and donate. I sure know I'm thankful for the women who have done that in the past.</p>
 
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<p>If you donate stuff, it will be used by people who really need it, and remember the organizations will give you a form to fill out to file with your taxes. So it's a win-win. </p>
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<p>I am on such a tight budget now that I have a hard time parting with anything because I know I won't be able to buy craft supplies when I want them. But now, as I'm also trying to declutter so I can actually DO some crafts and sewing projects, I find the less stuff I have, the more I can do in the space I have. Lately I am getting rid of stuff I've had forever that I've never used, and am getting more creative with asking in my local mommy groups and freecycle for things I want.</p>
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<p>Me me!!! I know I will be moving some time in the near future from a huge house to something far far cozier. The only furniture I will be taking is the beds and a table with 2 chairs and a bench. I get to keep all the personal items used to make this house a home, such as books, pictures, plants and all the kids toys etc. Here we have storage galore and it is almost all used. The kids and I need to go through everything and donate or sell what isn't used/wanted!!!</p>
 

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<p>Me!  I'm in!</p>
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<p>We're planning to buy a house this summer, and while we really have very little furniture, we have so much junk.  I need help (permission, really) getting rid of DD's stuffed animals, and silly toys, and old CRAP while still thinking in terms of having another LO in the future.  I just don't want to pack all of this *#(@ up.</p>
 

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<p>Great timing on this thread. I was just saying that I'm dying to do a really deep declutter -- when I'll have the time to actually get to it is another story. It's looking very much like my boyfriend and I will be engaged and moving in together in the next few months, and I'd love to do a really good pre-move declutter.</p>
 

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<p>Excellent timing!!</p>
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<p>I am listing my house for sale at the end of the month and I need to declutter like crazy and purge so much of the stuff that has accumulated in 4 years.</p>
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<p>Wow... perfect timing!</p>
 

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<p>I've spent the last couple of months decluttering my house because CPS stepped in since I'm a hoarder.  My house looks great now, but this isn't just because I've put effort into things.  I've moved some of my clutter to the already-full garage and the car, so I still feel I am "overflowing".  It's just so hard to change my habits, and it's overwhelming since I don't know where to start decluttering the garage.</p>
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<p>In a way though, decluttering is very freeing.  I get so attached to useless things, I think it's an emotional security issue for me.  Yet decluttering a relief in itself, since clutter (ironically) bogs me down.</p>
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>kythe</strong> <a href="/community/t/1349535/april-abolish-clutter-anyone-else-in#post_16934536"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style=""></a><br><br><p>I've spent the last couple of months decluttering my house because CPS stepped in since I'm a hoarder.  My house looks great now, but this isn't just because I've put effort into things.  I've moved some of my clutter to the already-full garage and the car, so I still feel I am "overflowing".  It's just so hard to change my habits, and it's overwhelming since I don't know where to start decluttering the garage.</p>
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<p>In a way though, decluttering is very freeing.  I get so attached to useless things, I think it's an emotional security issue for me.  Yet decluttering a relief in itself, since clutter (ironically) bogs me down.</p>
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<br><br><p>How about reading through freecycle in your area and giving things away to people who want them? Or sell things on craigslist? Bet you could have all new furniture or buy all your Christmas presents with what you make off it all. </p>
 

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<p>Count me in, please!  I need to have our house listed with a realtor by June 1st.  I come from a very "great-depression-mentality pack-rat" kind of family, so for years I kept a lot of things "just in case" and also held onto things with any positive emotional association (my mom does this, but we are both reforming now, as we are both preparing to move!)  I've worked on my clutter tendencies for years but it's coming down to the final stretch here.  I don't want to have to pick up extraneous clutter for showing the house, and I don't want to pack extraneous clutter when we move.</p>
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<p>I still insist on keeping a healthy amount of useful just-in-case preparedness kinds of things, but I do use them or find them worth caring for.</p>
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<p>I feel like it's a big block that I am chipping away at, one chip at a time.  I keep thinking, will I ever get to the end?  But I'm starting to feel like I can and will.  The question now is, will I get it all done by June 1st?  Probably not, but I have to make peace with that and just resolve to do the priority things first.</p>
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<p>One of my favorite techniques is limiting what I keep by the size of the storage container.  If I have one book too many for the book box, I have to get rid of one book.  Also trying to have uniform shape/size storage containers when possible so the storage looks tidy.</p>
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<p>Also my kids and I play "keep or toss" fairly often.  Clutter in a pile, and I hold up one thing at a time and ask "keep or toss?" and require a quick answer.  I will wait a few days before donating things in case someone has second thoughts about one item in particular, but usually it's out of sight, out of mind.  I guess it makes it easier that my kids didn't seem to get the packrat gene.</p>
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<p>I'll also make a pile of unclaimed stuff -- and I'll say to the kids, okay, take responsibility for anything you care about and I'll deal with the rest in my own "special" way.  If you care about it, take it now and put it away.  They know "my way" includes the trash can, recycle bin, and donate pile.  It's not a threat, just a practical reality of what happens when I get to decide about stuff I consider junk.</p>
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<p>I really want moving to be as easy as possible.  But I am also planning to stay local and I'm too poor to replace good things I need/use, so I don't have to be minimalist (as if were moving cross-country or something).</p>
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<p>And I don't know what our new place will be -- large or small. </p>
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<p>I feel decluttering is like peeling an onion.  Peel back one layer and it looks great, and then you realize there is a whole other layer to peel back, and then another, and another.  I wonder what happens when you get to the end of the layers?  Hopefully I will find out soon.</p>
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<p>Decluttering has been hard work for me, but it has been soooo incredibly rewarding.  I love my tidier house.</p>
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<p>Good luck and keep posting about your journeys.</p>
 

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<p>I cleaned and decluttered the front hall and bathrooms today both of which help me to feel I have made progress. The kitchen is a work in progress. And I have also started on a box full of collected papers one of my big downfalls.</p>
 
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