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I am wondering if this is an expected behavior of my 16 month old ds? My ds hits our faces and tries to scratch us. This happens mostly in the evenings, even early evening, but we don't know what to do. I usually say, "No hitting Mama/Papa" and more his hand from our faces. (And this sometimes frustrates him more and his does it again.) I tried to show him the "consequences" by acting sad and fake crying once, to show him that it makes me sad, but this seemed to really really upset him. He started to cry hysterically. My ds rarely hits other children, only shakes his hands at them, if he is overstimulated or someone is trying to take a toy, but he has been doing hitting/scratching us for the past month and we're worried. What does everyone do about this behavior? And is this normal?
 

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I think this is normal. My ds is 19 months old and has started to hit when he doesn't get his way and is tired (usually early evening, too). We have been telling him that it is okay to be angry, but it is not okay to hit, and putting his hands away or putting him down so that he can't hit us in the face. So far that's been working. He does get frustrated, but I really feel like this is something that is not negotiable, yk? so we keep being consistent with our response, and now it seems to be working with less frustration for everyone involved. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> don't worry, I think it's normal. what I don't get is how a kid who has never been spanked knows to hit?<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/confused.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Confused">:
 

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I think this is very normal and you are handling it exactly how I did with my kids. It will pass. He may be frusturated because he can't communicate something to you. I would suggest teaching him some sign language. He will understand it before he does it back to you. My 6 month ds knows signs for more, diaper and nursing. He doesn't do it yet but gets so excited when I know what he wants and I can tell by the expression on his face if I am right. You can teach just basic stuff and even emotions so they have a way to express emotions other than just crying or hitting. You can get a baby sign book. Good luck!
 
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