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I just found out I'm having a boy in January -- a month after our daughter Zoe turns 3.<br><br>
I understand mothering a daughter... I understand being a daughter.<br><br>
She is the capstone of 4-generations of women, and I feel like I'm passing all of our souls into her. My grandmother, mother, myself and my daughter are an unbroken circle that I cherish and that I'm so proud of.....<br><br>
But a son? Honestly, I don't get it.<br><br>
I can't imagine it.<br><br>
I can't wrap my mind or my heart around it<br><br>
So please tell me, is raising a son different?
 

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I love raising boys! I have two boys and a girl, and to me the boys are "easier". I know some women will differ, but i really feel like the day in and day out of little boys are just simpler.<br><br>
I know that some girls are tom boys, but my girl is a real girly girl. this i love. i love all aspects of little girls and "know" what to do...after all, i am a girl myself! however, little boys are just....delicious! my boys are rough and tumble, sensitive, deep souls....who have total disregard for their bodies! they jump from the top step, sleigh down the stairs, and although i am sure girls do this too, it seems in our house the boys do it.<br><br>
Raising little boys to become strong sensitive men can be a challenge. i so want to do it right. thankfully, they have an awesome father who leads by example. but i am very close to my boys, they tell me everything and the last five years with the "baby" have been probably the best five years of my life. I want my boys to be good husbands and fathers. and they way they are right now, it seems like the women they marry will indeed be lucky. lets keep our fingers crossed......<br><br>
Congratulations!!
 

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I have a son but not a daughter, so I can only speak from that perspective....but when I was pregnant, I confess I REALLY wanted a girl. I felt disappointed when I got the ultrasound even though I knew I was having a boy, I had held out hope that maybe my intuition was wrong. Anyway, I can't even begin to explain how differently I feel. I LOVE my boy. I LOVE being a boy's mother! I would never want him to be a girl. There's something about having a boy that makes you feel so feminine. It is wonderous to know that I am shaping his fundamental understanding of women...and the future choices he makes in regards to the woman he chooses to be in his life (assuming of course that he's not gay) will be based on this understanding. There is something really special about the mother/son bond (similar to the daughter/father bond)...in my family and in dh's family esp now that they are adults, the boys are protective of their mother in a way that is so beautiful...it is chivalry in its sweetest form. For my dh and for my brother...their mother can do NO wrong. If more women realized this they'd be thrilled to have boys!<br><br>
Its also really sweet to see your husband's qualities in your little man...my son has dh's sense of humor (his best quality) and it is SO delightful.<br><br>
On a pratical level...you really get to experience your tomboy side...I never realized it would be so fun to get into boy things like skateboarding, sports, robots, cars, etc..(yes, I know I'm gender stereotyping here!)<br><br>
Listen to the song, Godspeed by the Dixie chicks - its a lullaby for a little boy and it will melt your heart!<br><br>
Congratulations!
 

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Boys are truly grand! At this point, I feel as if I wouldn't know what to do with a daughter. It is such an honor and priviledge to watch these three glorious boys slowly turn into awesome men. Boys really do bring out a side in you that I didn't even know was there...I'm so grateful for every moment I get to spend mothering my three boys. You will be too!
 

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Ditto what TranscendentalMom said. I can't even imagine having a girl. In fact, we are planning to have another baby, and I am frightened it will be a girl - what would I do with her? I come from an all girl family, so it was so great to have a boy come onto the scene. And I consider it such an honor to have the opportunity to raise a sweet, sensitive, caring man.
 

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I knew two days after I conceived that I was going to have a little boy; when the ultrasound confirmed it I said "Told ya so!" to all the naysayers <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">.<br><br>
Having a little boy is amazing! It is, like the others said, truly wonderful to know that you're affecting a future husband/father. My son is only 10 months old, so right now my enjoyment of "boy things" is limited to adorable little boy clothing. :LOL I love watching him do things the way his father does, though; it's so sweet! And I'm hoping that by having a strong, attached relationship with me that I'm laying the foundation for a good, strong, loving man of the future. It's too cool! I love my little man, and I wouldn't have him any other way. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
Another note: as was recently mentioned in a thread about ap and boys, boys are more fragile than girls at every stage of development. Makes you feel like you're doing something even cooler, raising someone so fragile to be someone so strong. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">.
 

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Don't worry, your heart will fall in love soon enough!! (Honestly I felt the same way, but my vision of life has been greatly broadened by having my dear, sweet, precious son!)<br><br>
Just remember......his genital integrity is as important as your daughter's.....so, for his sake, and for the sake of your relationship with him, please keep him intact.<br><br>
Congratulations on this wonderful new soul!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
Oh, and in answer to your question, my son is different than my daughter, but a lot of that could be due to personality as well as gender. Both of them melt my heart! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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I agree with mamajulie, you *will* change as soon as he arrives. I too had a girl first and when she was almost 3 1/2 our son arrived (he is now 5 months old). Even though I thought I wanted another girl throughout the pregnancy, I can't imagine our family without our happy little guy. dd is a fantastic big sister and loves her baby brother so so much it's amazing, I can't wait to see them grow up together and stick-up for each other, to have ds protect dd and things like that. I also think it's good for kids to grow up around the opposite sex since it could (but not always) give them some insight that might be useful when they are adults.
 

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Having sons is definately diferent from having daughters.<br><br>
I am more challenged with my sons, they are more intense, active, but they hold their own charm that is quite different from a girl's.<br><br>
I am blessed, indeed, to have both sons and daughters.<br><br>
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I love having a boy, Cathryn is my mini me, she looks just like I did when I was younger, and I love her to death, but with PJ, I seem to have bonded better with him, but I guess thats my fault, with her I was so afraid of "breaking" her, with PJ I co slept with him, and did alot of things different, cause I wasnt so afraid this time...<br><br>
but my only real good advice is to always remember to point him down, and keep a towel handy, lol....
 

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That's what I was gonna say!! LOL:LOL<br><br>
But seriously,I had a hard time wrapping my heart around him too when he was still inside. I knew I loved this little being I was carrying, but there were a lot of personal & emotional issues in my life when I was pg with ds. And I too really wanted another girl. But when he was born all I could say was, "Here you are!" and I cried & cried...He's been my little man ever since & I love him dearly.<br><br>
All your doubts will melt away with your heart.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br><br>
But, oh, that little boy will have a lot of estrogen to deal with in his life!!!!!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/nod.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="nod"> WOW!
 

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I was so afraid to have a boy. I knew I was going to have one first, as there hadn't been a girl born into ds's family since 1947. And sure enough, there he was.<br><br>
It's true what the other mama's have said. You just fall in love, and that's it. The greatest joy of my life has been to be with my son and have a bond with him and have him depend on me and watch him grow.<br><br>
He is so different from my dd, who made her appearence nineteen months after ds. But I love the differences. He brings something different and necessary to my life, and it's wonderful.<br><br>
Congratulations and enjoy!
 

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I wanted a girl so with my first pregnancy, and had a boy and let me tell you I wouldn't change it for the world. Joseph is the most amazing being that ever walked the planet(I know I am biased) and it melts my heart to see him develop. He goes from being truck obsessed and gun play, to carrying around his baby doll and stuffed dog(Bucko) and giving them kisses telling me how he loves them. He asks me to give him kisses and hugs all the time and at night when he sleeps he grabs my finger tight. I am having my second boy, and although at some point I would like at least one daughter, I also am feeling like my purpose in life is to raise awesome men. I think this world is in short supply. An awesome book for thinking of raising a boy is "Real Boys, Rescuing our sons from the myths of boyhood" by Pollack. It put into to words alot of things I already thought and gave me a good foundation for fighting the stereotypes of boys. I feel that boys are more sensitive than girls, and it is important to keep that intact while guiding them through all the pressures they will face. So congratulations on your little cherub, and know that being a mother of a son is amazing.
 

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When my mom was expecting me, my dad wanted a boy. But when they had me instead, he decided that girls were better, because he loved me (and then my sister) so much.<br><br>
When I was expecting, I thought for sure I'd have a girl. I had all kinds of girl plans. But now I have a boy, and I've decided that for me, this boy is better than a girl. Or anyway, that <i>this</i> boy is the best possible baby I could have had. Everything about him is good.<br><br>
But I like boys and girls equally much.
 

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<table border="0" cellpadding="6" cellspacing="0" width="99%"><tr><td class="alt2" style="border:1px inset;"><i>Originally posted by DebraBaker</i><br><b>Having sons is definately diferent from having daughters.<br><br>
I am more challenged with my sons, they are more intense, active, but they hold their own charm that is quite different from a girl's.<br><br>
I am blessed, indeed, to have both sons and daughters.<br><br>
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That was so well said I am just gonna qoute you<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"> I had a dd first and could not imagine being a mom to a little boy, but it is absolutely amazing. It is such a gift for me I get a view of the world and life from 2 different perspectives. My parenting adventure with each of my children has been so different, they are so different but they make me a more rounded mother. I always say with my dd I fell in love with motherhood with my ds I became a better mother. You will love it!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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My grandmother had 3 sisters, my Mom has 3 sisters, and I have 3 sisters. I was blessed with a little boy!! At first when I found out that I was going to have a little boy, I didn't quite know what to think or do. Once my ds was born it all made sense. It is quite magical having a little boy.<br><br>
It truly is the best thing in the world. You will discover what a terrific gift they are soon. Congratulations!<br><br>
Another funny thing is that our last name is Mann, therefore my ds is really My Little Mann.<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue">
 

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I, too, came from a very female family. I wanted a girl so much when I was pregnant the first time. I couldn't even imagine having a son. I thought I wouldn't know what to do--thought it would be awful.<br><br>
Well, let me tell you--it is great! My mother (who has 4 girls and one boy) says there is nothing like the love of a little boy. They are just so special. I ended up wanting a second boy (and got one)!<br><br>
Luckily, though, I do have 3 nieces so that I can have a bit of special girl things too!<br><br>
It is wonderful--you just won't believe it!<br><br>
Congratulations!
 

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One more thing: don't believe it when people try to scare you with horror stories about boys being wild, slower to learn, etc. My two are quite smart, sweet, gentle, sensitive, and affectionate.
 

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Congratulations! Sons are beautiful.<br><br>
I have only one child, a son of course. When I first became pg, I felt in my gut that we were having a boy. I then spent my entire pg convincing myself it was a girl because I had a difficult time "wrapping my mind around" (my exact words!) having anything other than what I knew (I'm a girl for goodness sakes!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">). Also, it seemed really strange that I could have someone of the opposite sex living right inside me! A girl! Does this sound really silly? As I type it, and have now lived it for 32 months, it seems strange to have ever felt this way.<br><br>
Needless to say, the tables have turned. My son arrived, much to everyone's surprise (everyone thought I was having a girl), and from moment one, we were in love! He's beautiful, warm, affectionate, creative, happy, smiley, giggly, full of amazing love! Ok, and I also happen to now know the names of every single piece of heavy machinery down at the construction site! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"> But seriously, after he was born, I found myself saying, "I can't begin to imagine what it's like to have a girl. I just can't wrap my mind around it." *my exact words!*<br><br>
I think sometimes it's just very difficult to imagine life with something (or someone) we haven't come to know yet. Before I had a child, I tried hard to imagine what life would be like as a mother. And it seemed the more I thought about it, the less I could comprehend it. And so the parenting lessons began in utero: <i>Never stop striving and trying to live life in the moment!</i>. I do imagine that once your son arrives, you will know exactly what life is like having a son (and a daughter!) and have a hard time imagining what life was like before!<br><br>
The best to you!
 

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I don't know if they're "different" because I, too, have only a son (so far) and I love being mommy to a little boy! My boy is: sensitive, inquisitive, exceptionally verbal, and active. He isn't cuddly, nor has he ever been (but that's just him), but his rare kisses on the lips and strangling around the neck hugs are priceless. Seems like I'm in the minority, because I wanted my first baby to be a boy, and now that I am pregnant with #2, I would love another! I find it to be challenging to parent boys, to make them comfortable being who they are instead of leading them to believe they need to fulfill the male stereotype. I get so much energy from my ds each day. He keeps me going! He's the best. You will love yours unbelievably, as I probably will a daughter if I have one next.
 
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