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Dd is 11 months and spends the first part of her night in a crib right next to our bed. She will sleep soundly for several hours, past midnight if we don't come in until then and then within 20 minutes of us coming to bed, she's awake and having a really hard time. We nurse, we cuddle... she thrashes and fusses. This equals very little sleep for mama!<br><br>
So here's my question? Is it possible that us coming to bed is causing her to become restless... are we bugging her? Should we be thinking about giving dd her own sleep space?<br><br>
Am so very tired...<br><br>
TIA mamas!
 

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In MY experience....that was our sign that DS needed his own space for most nights. We coslept until 15 mos. It got to the point where he just thrashed and cried and woke up several times per hour. We were all sleep-deprived and miserable. We transitioned him to his crib and he started sleeping much better.<br><br>
It was hard for me to accept for a while, but it was the right decision.<br><br>
Perhaps others have had a different experience, but that was ours.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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yeah, ds started doing that at 8 mo, way earlier than *I* wanted to stop cosleeping. We'd just go to sleep in the living room to avoid potentially waking him trying to get in the bedroom, and inevitably he slept longer and better when we did. I took the opportunity to night wean as well when he got his own room so there were some rough, noisy nights but once he realized that sleeping in his crib all night and letting me sleep in my bed all night made us both happier and friendlier and ready to play the next day, he decided it was worth it.<br>
It's worked out really well for both of us
 

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My dd is 18 months and she starts out the night in her own bed in my room. Usually she will wake around midnight too. I put her in my bed with me because she wants me to and she will thrash a round for about 20 minutes, then i ask her if she wants to go back to her bed and she will say "uh huh" It is rare she wakes up again. She has been like that for almost 6 months now. She would always wake up when I came to bed, no matter how quiet I was, when she was younger, but now she doesn't. Your baby could want her own space.
 

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We just moved our 21-month old son to his own bed and I felt very sad about it, but I'm sure that I'm responsible for some of his nighttime wakeups, so I felt like it was time we give this a try. It's still too early to tell if this will work overall, but I think it may make a difference.<br><br>
You can try putting a mattress by your bed for starters and see how that goes; then she'll still be in the room with you. Good luck!
 

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I think that having her in the room with us is actually the problem. She sleeps great when we're upstairs for the first part of the evening. It's once we come into the room and climb into the bed next to her crib that, within 20 minutes or so she wakes. A friend theorized that when she wakes and sees me, she wants me, but if she were separate, she'd put herself back to sleep. This makes a certain amount of sense as we'll sometimes hear her through the monitor stirring, but then she'll go back to sleep.<br><br>
We recently moved, so it'll be a while until we can try out her own room... it's still the one with all the boxes! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/biglaugh.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="laugh">:
 

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You are all making me think ... ds is almost 7 months old and has been having a lot of very restless nights sleeping with us. But he does very well by himself when he starts out the night. Maybe he's getting ready for his own space. Problem is, I'm not ready! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 
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