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Scale of 1 to 5 (1 the most, 5 the least how friendly are you with the school mums

  • 1 - very friendly, socialise a lot

    Votes: 6 13.6%
  • 2 - socialise now and again

    Votes: 6 13.6%
  • 3 - will chat in a friednly way but not socialise

    Votes: 15 34.1%
  • 4 - smile and say hello

    Votes: 9 20.5%
  • 5 - dont talk to them at all

    Votes: 5 11.4%
  • Other - ie i homeschool!

    Votes: 3 6.8%
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On a scale of 1 to 5 with one being ver close friends, doing the whole car park chat, going for lunch / coffee / shopping and sharing school runs and socialising with them on weekends and 5 being saying hello and then grabbing your child and running where do you fit in on the scale.
 

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At best I'm 4 but usually I'm 5 and running out the door. I have to say that I was pretty shocked we didn't get along much better. I guess most of them are working moms and I just don't seem to have much in common with them.<br><br>
There was a group of moms that I thought I would get along with - but they turned out to have very different parenting (unparenting I call it) styles than I do. Their kids turned out to be bullies - they seem vacant about it as an issue. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shrug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shrug"><br><br>
I do have a group of mom friends with DS's age group - he just turned 3 and I seem to get along with a lot of those moms.
 

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The morning routine is often so rushed, I just drop her off and go. Dd is one of the earlier drop-offs; so I don't see many other moms, and the ones that I do see are bringing their kids to other classes.<br><br>
There is 1 mom that is often there at the same time I'm there, that I sort of know from our church. We sometimes chat a little while we're walking back to our cars. But we're not quite "friends."<br><br>
I chose 4.
 

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One of the highlights of my day is Kindy pickup. Moms get there at 1:15 but the doors don't open until at least 1:20. There are only a few of us (most send for extended day) but we are all friendly. A couple of us meet regularly (several times a week) in the park next door for picnics and conversation. I have had several to my house, and me to theirs, on weekends as well.<br><br>
I look forward to school meetings and family events for my 4th grader because I get to see friends who I otherwise wouldn't see. So if I can sit and whisper to a friend during a PTA meeting, eat some cake, and get out of the house, then it is a totally great (and free) evening.<br><br>
I homeschooled for 3 years, and I enjoyed the social aspects for moms, but I really like the school social scene as well. We send to public religious schools that lean toward the liberal side (complicated school system in Israel) in nice neighborhoods, and I really like the crowd of parents in these schools.<br><br>
Off to pick up ds11, and hopefully have time for a quick chat with a friend while I'm there!
 

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I said 3, but it's barely a 3. From what I've seen of the parents I've met, we have very little in common, and I'm not the type of person to want to hang around with people just because we have kids the same age.
 

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I'm between a 2 and 3, usually. I enjoy talking to the other parents at school and have made some great friends. I do get together with a few closer ones outside of school-related stuff.<br>
My favorite place for chatting is gymnastics. We have a great group of moms that sit and talk while our kids are in the gym. It's one of the highlights of my week.
 

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A few I smile and say hello to. Most I don't talk to at all.<br><br>
We have been in this Montessori school for three years and the first year I really tried. I went to the coffee chat and not one person talked to me and it seemed everyone knew each other. Anyway even after 3 years it is still like this. The faces are more familiar but I still don't feel like a part of the "Montessori family".<br><br>
I decided it is because I am not a thin, pretty, stylish, big house living, SUV driving Montessori mom.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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I said 5. I am very active in the kids Montessori School. I have several friends that i have met there and we go out (use to more now than we do now). I have been to breakfast each others homes etc. Typically we have 3 or 4 of us in the parking lot chit chatting in the am.
 

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I picked 2, but not in the way of chatting in parking lot and going for coffee. I don't chat in the line up; will wave if I we connect eyes...for the few I know.<br><br>
I have met a couple of mothers from my sons school that I really like and we meet in the park after school every so often and the kids run around and we chat - which I consider socializing every now and again!
 

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We have valet so I don't get a chance to chat with other parents in the mornings and in the afternoons she rides the bus to her care center.<br><br>
Now at the care center is I pick her up about 5-ish then yes I cha up a storm with parents, but we don't get together, and Kailey rarely stays until 5, I usually pick herup right after I get back from Pembroke.
 

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I HS but if we did PS it would be a 3 at best. I don't think getting involved with people from DS school would be a good idea. I don't need the drama.
 

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I voted: Socialize a little now and then.<br><br>
Unfortunately (or fortunately - depending on how you look at it), I've bonded with other Mothers that don't have children in the same school as ours.<br><br>
I do hang-out with fellow school Moms in the Summer months though at the local (private neighborhood) pool. Generally that's enough interaction to last me the rest of the year. Most of them are a little too southern-fried religious for my liking. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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Socialize now and then. I am friends with a couple of moms... we hang out together and our boys are friends. We have similar interests and mothering styles.
 

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I voted for option 3, chat in a friendly way but no real socializing. There are four or five moms who I will chat with for a few minutes if I see around the school, out in public, at tee-ball games, etc., but no one I'd consider a friend.<br><br>
One of my best friends does have a child at my son's school, but I didn't count her since we've been friends since elementary school.
 

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one. my closest friends are the parents from preschool. we all love birthday parties (and generally both parents go) so we have time to hang out with each other while the kids are playing.
 

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I voted 3. I have tried to socialize with a few of my sons closest friends parents by inviting them for casual dinners but so far only 1 has reciprocated. We recently had a school fundraiser and we all had a lot of fun but gain it really didn't go anywhere.<br><br>
I have also arranged weekend playdates with the hopes of getting to know the moms but everyone seems to do drop off so they can use the time to get things done.<br><br>
I am actually feeling kind of senstive about this these days..... I was horribly unpopular in grade school and I hated every minute of it. Somethings the kids did to me bordered on abuse. This whole mom's clique thing is bringing back all those horrible feelings. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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I voted "I don't talk to them at all" but I also should have voted homeschool. Only my oldest goes to public.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I voted 3. I have tried to socialize with a few of my sons closest friends parents by inviting them for casual dinners but so far only 1 has reciprocated. We recently had a school fundraiser and we all had a lot of fun but gain it really didn't go anywhere.<br><br>
I have also arranged weekend playdates with the hopes of getting to know the moms but everyone seems to do drop off so they can use the time to get things done.<br><br>
I am actually feeling kind of senstive about this these days..... I was horribly unpopular in grade school and I hated every minute of it. Somethings the kids did to me bordered on abuse. This whole mom's clique thing is bringing back all those horrible feelings. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"></div>
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i was never popular at school, so the clique thing gets to me too
 

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I'm a 3<br><br>
there are a few moms who might become friends, I'm pretty shy though and it takes me a while to make friends. I do enjoy talking with people but it's hard for me to call and make plans. Most of my friends have kids in other schools anyway.<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<div style="font-style:italic;">I am actually feeling kind of senstive about this these days..... I was horribly unpopular in grade school and I hated every minute of it. Somethings the kids did to me bordered on abuse. This whole mom's clique thing is bringing back all those horrible feelings. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"></div>
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It's hard. I do find that a lot of people have already made friends-through playgroups etc, before their kids start school.<br><br>
I've actually made a few friends through volunteering at the school. Even though our kids are in different classes.
 

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DS isn't in school yet, so I didn't vote. However, when I see a baby about his age I always look at the parents and wonder if my DS will be friends with their DC and if the parents and I will become friends. I am looking forward to meeting new people this way since in Small Town USA where I live, many friendships are formed this way.
 
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