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I was just wondering how many of us are from single mama or divorced families. My mother and father seperated when I was 3 and my father was not involved in my life very much. I'm wondering if that has anything to do with the fact that I, myself am going though a divorce? I wonder if seeing my mom raise me alone for a few years gave me the strength to leave my ex and raise my DS on my own? I wonder if I take less BS because I know that I CAN do it on my own?<br><br>
I really think that not having my own father involved in my life has made me very protective of my DS.<br><br>
Anyone else from a divorced/seperated/single mama family? Do you think it had any impact on your own single mama-hood?
 

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Hi<br>
I am not but my stbx is. I think those who have been through a divorce understand what I'm going through so much better than those who haven't.
 

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While I am not, my parents had a horribly abusive relationship and to this day I still wonder why they put up with it from each other..<br><br>
I think it's from watching them abuse each other and NOT getting divorced that taught me to leave my abusive ex-h... Odd, I suppose, but it's how I feel. I always thought they would be better off without each other, but they never even seperated...<br><br>
(I don't know if I technically belong on this board, I'm not single at the moment, but was for some time.)
 

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Of course you can post here! You've been there and I'm sure you can offer some great advice.
 

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I come from the happiest, calmest, most best friend parent family I've ever met - my parents stated dating at the age of 14, married at 18... and they've now been married 28 years.<br><br>
Dh's parents - same deal. Teenage sweethearts, insanely happy together, married at 18... now married for 29 years.<br><br>
We both come from happy, well balanced homes. I'd like to know why the hell we couldn't pull off the same. We're so damn NORMAL is makes my toes curl...<br><br>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2"> Thank you! I feel so awkward even reading here sometimes, as I've been living with SO for a year now, and the single-time seems so far behind me...
 

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Hi mombmsm<br>
I lurk on the blended families boards once in a while and see lots of your posts, and there's no way I'm going to belong on that thread anytime soon. It's nice to see you here. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Yes. My parents have been divorced for almost 6 years. My dad is still very much in all his kids lives (heck, he took us all in one by one as mom slowly kicked us out once we got to the age that child support stopped. She never actually kicked anyone out... just strongly urged them to leave once the money stopped coming :LOL ). My ex's parents are still together. His dad was a drunk many years ago, his mom took the 2 kids and left til he got sober then they got back together. I still hear about "Well, if we could work our problems out I don't see why you 2 kids can't" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:
 

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Yes. My dad left home when I was 5 after numerous affairs. I did see him alot though. He was a crappy husband, but a really good father. Unfortunately he died when I was 13, so I guess you could say I did do some of my growing up without a father.
 

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Yep. My parents separated when I was 6 and divorced when I was 12. They've always remained extremely close friends... are to this day. My childhood was much better for it.<br><br>
My one sadness in this divorce is realizing that ds' dad and I won't have the same kind of relationship that my parents did. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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Not from a divorced family here. My parents just celebrated their<br>
45th anniversary last February. Of their four children are two boys<br>
who refuse to get married (both in their 40's), my Sister who was<br>
divorced in her 19th year of marriage and myself the daughter who<br>
refused marriage while pregnant.<br>
I have wondered from time to time why/how my parents who had a<br>
pretty typical, healthy relationship could have four kids (other than<br>
my Sister who really did put a effort into her marriage) that really<br>
want nothing to do with marriage.
 

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From a divorced family, dad abandoned us when I was 3 mo.<br><br>
And my mom's family had wonderful lovingly married parents...5 kids...but all four of the kids who got married got divorced.<br><br>
My dad's family, parents happily married, 4 kids, only my dad got divorced (but twice!) though two were widowed and one remarried.<br><br>
Ex's mom's family, no divorces but some really bad marriages (including ex's mom and dad)<br><br>
Ex's dad's family, 4 kids, 2 still married, 2 divorced 3x each and remarried again.<br><br>
On another note...my great-grandparents (mom's dad's parents) were divorced...pretty unusual back then.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/offtopic.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="offtopic"> Jster, I noticed that you are in the gulf coast, me too <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 
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