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I don't spend a whole lot of time in the CAC forum but I wanted to welcome any moms who might not know about to venture over there if they are having a boy.<br><br>
Definitely check out all the information before you decide to circumcise or not. You may need to start researching now so you can involve your DP in the information.<br><br><a href="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/forumdisplay.php?f=44" target="_blank">Visit the Case Against Circumcision Forum</a>
 

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i cant just attest to the power of the Case against Circumcision. I am having boy #4 and this will be my second intact son. Unfortunately i wasnt so aware of the implications of circ. when my first 2 son's were born (<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> ) and well, my religion had a lot to do with it. After researching and talking to others in the CAC forum, ds3 was left intact, as will be ds4. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I think that's got to be even harder than choosing to leave the first boy intact and going from there. Good for you! It's not easy to change things up mid-stream.<br><br>
This is our second boy and our first is intact as well. No problems and certainly no regrets. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Ours will certainly stay intact. DH is, so thankfully there was no discussion about it.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">i cant just attest to the power of the Case against Circumcision. I am having boy #4 and this will be my second intact son. Unfortunately i wasnt so aware of the implications of circ. when my first 2 son's were born (<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> ) and well, my religion had a lot to do with it. After researching and talking to others in the CAC forum, ds3 was left intact, as will be ds4. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"></div>
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That is amazing that you left your other boys intact. I have a friend that just had her second (we have the same mw) so I asked the mw if she thought she might not circ if I gave her some information and the only thing the mw said was "that would be a very strong mama to stop after already doing one." I never did give her any info, as her reasons are religous and I wasn't ready to give out info. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
Though, like you Passion, I would never be able to continue circing after finding out the information that you did. So glad you looked for it...or at least fell into it. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 

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3 intact boys here (thanks to an old Mothering Mag reprint). The CAC forum has been invaluable over the years when minor issues have come up.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Ours will certainly stay intact. DH is, so thankfully there was no discussion about it.</div>
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Same here <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"> In face DH was the one who was SOOOO adamently against it <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"> We are a couple of intactivists over here. Of course, the only reason he is is because he is intact <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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not sure what we're having, but if it's a boy it will definitely be intact. dh isn't really on board (we live in the midwest and there's a very high circ rate) but i am from the UK where routine circ is unheard of and i put my foot down about it <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"> over my dead body would my son's genitals be modified <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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We don't know the gender either, but if a boy, he like DS will be left intact.<br><br>
DH needed no convincing. He's really super vocal about it. Surprisingly, he feels no bitterness or anger over his own circ'ing - he knows that it's the information his mom had to go on at the time (they've talked about it, and she's anti-circ now too). <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 

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I have found it interesting that of some of my friends in Canada (where circ is no longer covered by health care - at least in Ontario) decided not to circ just because of cost. Seems terrible to me that if it was free that would be reason enough to do it.
 

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We're not circumcising our son, my husband is all for it, especially since he was! He wishes he wasn't.
 

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another intact family here...... and I do love the CAC board.. visit there from time to time.....
 

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Older DS is intact, this one will be too. With DS, I wanted to leave him intact, hubby wanted circ. It came up in conversation with FIL, FIL said something to hubby (to this day I have no idea what was said) and hubby was suddenly ok with not circing. A week or so ago, I checked in again, are you ok with not circing this baby too? And he said "I don't care, we'll do whatever you think is right". End of discussion. But I know when it comes to conversations with his buddies he proudly tells his friends DS is intact.<br><br>
Never been to that website, what convinced me with DS was a video of a circ someone sent me. I said "nobody is doing THAT to my baby for no good reason".<br><br>
My step-brothers son was hypospadias, and he ended up needing circed as part of the surgery to fix the hypospadias (they use the tissue to repair the problem). Since that was done under general anesthesia, as part of a necessary surgery, I see that as important and the parents doing the best for their son.
 

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Ooh, I will definitely be spending lots of time reading that forum. The bf is Jewish, but not practicing, and gives the normal excuses for it, like wanting the kid to look like everyone else, and all his friends say to do it. I personally just don't see the point!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Ooh, I will definitely be spending lots of time reading that forum. The bf is Jewish, but not practicing, and gives the normal excuses for it, like wanting the kid to look like everyone else, and all his friends say to do it. I personally just don't see the point!</div>
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And the wanting the kid to look like everyone else thing is crap since the US circ rate is now down to 56% ! If it continues to drop (please God!) by the time said kid grows up, he'll be one of a very small minority, and saying 'Why, Dad, did you do this terrible thing to me?'<br><br>
Sorry for the vehemence, but my stupid Brother did circ his DS and that was the reason he gave too. My parents are like <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/huh.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="huh"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">: because MY DAD is intact, and that was in an age where HE was the odd dude out in the locker room!!!<br>
They cannot understand my bro's decision, and it makes me physically ill.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Ooh, I will definitely be spending lots of time reading that forum. The bf is Jewish, but not practicing, and gives the normal excuses for it, like wanting the kid to look like everyone else, and all his friends say to do it. I personally just don't see the point!</div>
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Yeah, the whole "look like me thing" is a bit off. I mean circing is cosmetic....what's next getting colored contacts so he has the color eyes we want him to have...or maybe we'll dye his hair at two to make it brown instead of blond since my hair is brown.<br><br>
Look like me, huh! If that's not an ego-attack I'm not sure what is. besides my husband is circed but our son isn't, they both have a penis and there is no disputing that. What can be mistaken about a big penis hanging down (or sticking up <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">)
 

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My dh is circ'd and our boys are all intact. That fact is such a non-issue in our house that I almost chuckle (almost) when people give that as one of their reasons for circ. Our boys are pretty intuitive about most things but as far as them noticing any difference between them and their dad's parts...its mostly a size thing.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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i dont get that either. my partner is circ'd (strange coming from his family but i dont know..and dont talk to MIL about it)....but he realizes its not important to "look like his son". thats just a strange issue in my mind.
 

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This will be our second boy. He'll be left intact just like his big brother.
 
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