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What is your feeling towards your DP (most of the time)?

  • Wow, the fireworks are still there! Very happy and romantic.

    Votes: 141 36.5%
  • Initial flame faded a bit, but still very good chemistry.

    Votes: 148 38.3%
  • Friendship or sibling-like relationship. Still physically involved but not too exciting.

    Votes: 71 18.4%
  • Friendship but moving towards the platonic end of the spectrum

    Votes: 21 5.4%
  • Developing an aversion to touch, don't look forward to spending time together.

    Votes: 18 4.7%
  • Major conflict, considering/planning separation/divorce.

    Votes: 15 3.9%
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I'm interested in the experiences of others who have been with their DPs for several years. I know it's normal for the sizzle to fade a bit--what's it like for you?
 

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Yeah... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/loveeyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Loveeyes">: he's pretty swell. We've been together over 10 years now. Will be married 10yrs in August.<br><br>
Anything specific you're after?<br><br>
We have ups and downs of course, but I'm totally in love with him...<br><br>
-Angela
 

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I lust for him daily. If we were not married, I would stalk him incessantly until I finally convinced him with my feminine wiles to take me as his wife. (Luckily, I did not need to resort to such strategies when we were actually dating, although trust me, I would have.)<br><br>
He is amazing, and the best thing that ever happened to me. I met him 12 years ago, moved in with him 8 years ago, got married to him 6 years ago, and look forward to every day of the rest of our lives together.<br><br>
(I know that was sappy but you DID ASK!)
 

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We were engaged within three weeks of meeting. with an ultra tiny little diamond 'cause he's a poor handsome mechanic. Mechanics. oooohh. Army...ooohhhh. Blond, german, muscles, incredible nose, adorable smile, great vioce just natural sweet pipes, good manners, incredible hands, a way of hugging and holding me just in the perfect embrace.<br><br>
Have I mentioned he has talent in the bedroom? God given healthy natural gentle loving talent.<br><br>
Have I said regardless of how poor we are he is the man I'd go shoeless for and wander the earth to please?<br><br>
Have I mentioned our arguments, our worst angry fights involve like one or two loud moments total ever and we always have incredible make ups and he says he is sorry he ever frustrates me because he just wants to make everything in my life beautiful?<br><br>
Have I mentioned he smells like dried mushrooms, ceder wood, ferns, and fresh bread all in one and it's natural? somehow the combination drives me utterly crazy.<br><br>
So yes... I do think I love him. We're pretty tight in life.<br><br>
I have to wait another two weeks to see him....he may be home for my birthday!
 

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We're still madly in love but life gets in the way of showing it in any healthy manner. Someday, when the youngest 2 are old enough to be babysat, we'll go do wild monkey love stuff again. (been together 9 years, married for 7)<br><br>
I marked Wow.
 

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My husband and I have been together for almost 7 years and have been married for almost 5 years. When we first got together, we couldn't be in the same room without touching one another, but now we're less touchy feely, but much more emotionally there for each other.<br><br>
I voted "initial flame has faded a bit" as our passionate moments have gone by the wayside after having the baby, but we're hoping the kiddo starts napping independently soon so we can resume relations and bring that back into our marriage. For now, our intimacy comes from heartfelt conversations and tender embraces.
 

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We've been married for 9 years and after 3 kids and many ups and down in life we are still totally madly in love. Some days the flame seems a little lower but it's definitely still there!
 

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We dated for just shy of a year (didnt live together or have sex) and have been married 13yrs now. At this point in time we are going thru a ruff patch. I chose the option Friendship or sibling-like relationship. Still physically involved but not too exciting. It could have been the one below that because I just dont care if we are intamite anymore. I am trying to get past some major aversions right now.
 

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Been with Dh 13 years this year and we are still madly in love. I get butterflies when I see him still, he tells me that no matter how hard his day is or how mad he is, all he has to do is think of getting home to me and the kids and it puts a smile on his face and makes his day better.<br>
I love to be with him, we miss each other terribly when the other goes to work.<br>
We call and text each other daily and say "I love you" or "I miss you" or something just as mushy <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br>
He always tells me I am the best wife ever and how nobody could comapre to me, and that I take such good care of him. (I always come back with "Whatever liar" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> ) We can joke with each other and not get offended.<br>
I wouldn't be who I am without him.<br>
He is a wonderful provider, great listener and awesome daddy to our kids. Sometimes I just stare at him when he is talking or playing with the kids and it melts my heart.<br><br><br>
There is nobody else on this earth who I'd rather spend the rest of my days with.
 

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Been married 8 years, almost together 9 years and I still fall in love with him daily. Granted, sometimes I have huger love bubbles, but I am still head over heels.<br><br>
I love that even though we might both be physically and mentally exhausted and not be up for intimacy, we always cuddle as we fall asleep. We love those moments and never tire of them.<br><br>
sigh....<br>
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Yes, I am in love with my husband. He was in love with me first and that was very attractive to me. From the first day we met he has called me every single day and made me the center of his world.<br>
In all these years I have never had a reason not to trust him.<br>
We have endured long seperations due to military deployments when either one of us could have chosen to move on and we just couldn't wait to be together again.<br>
We have been through so many things together over the years and always stuck together.<br><br>
I know that if anything ever happened to him I would not remarry because another man could never even begin to fill his shoes.
 

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flame faded when we stopped having sex due to pregnancy complications. We are trying to rev up our sex life again but sometimes we get interupted <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> We are still in love. We still make each other laugh. We still snuggle in bed. We kiss each other often. We work out together. We pinch each others butts. I marked flamed faded, but still very much in love.
 

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Its funny but I had to really think about this one. I love my husband to death. Truly, I cannot imagine being with anyone other than him. He is my strength when I am weak, my logic when I have lost perspective, my comic relief when I forget to laugh, and my CNN when I have spent the day up to my elbows in children. We cuddle together on the couch and I think about how he has gotten so much more handsome in the past 6 years.<br><br>
Unfortunately, life has a way of getting in the way of passion, for us. When we go away together, just the two of us, its always there waiting. But sex at home, with a toddler mere feet away, and a 12 yr old in the next room, is less than perfect. Not bad <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> but not perfect. Bills and debts and financial worries have really impeded us as well. In a perfect world, we would still be carefree and passionate and make love when he comes home from work at noon and every morning before work, but as it is, we always manage to stay best friends even when there isnt much room left for the passion, and its always there when we finally can get back to it.
 

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What does sex have to do with being in love? Yes, we're more in love today than ever, but at a low in our sex life, due to our situation with the kiddo. I don't understand why the poll was all about love = sex. Dh and I have a relationship based on all sorts of wonderful things. Sex is such a small part of it. I'm so happy to have met a man that isn't shallow and doesn't equate sex with love. We have the most intense debates about things like politics and philosophy. He seems pretty satisfied. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Crazily, passionately, madly in love after a decade!<br><br>
He is my ultimate dream come true.</div>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> Same here! Will be 10 yrs. in Sept.! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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Another wow here as well. My dh is amazing. He's one of those people that you just think "he's a good man". He really is, his family is his life, he loves his career, he works just as hard at both. We've been together 12 years, married for 10. We have had some very serious down times, but right now it's truly the best it's ever been (except for those first carefree years with no kids and lots of disposeable income).
 

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Yesterday was our 10 year anniversary, and we are still madly in love <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">. I love my dh so intensely that when I think about him I can't catch my breath, I love him so much it makes my heart hurt and brings tears to my eyes. I wonder how I got so lucky that God blessed me with a man who is so perfect for me. Our sex life, otoh, is not so great, but its hard to be intimate with a toddler and preschooler in our bed and my mom in the other room. We still have the desire, lots of it <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">, just not the opportunity.
 

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Unfortunately, we're currently in a pretty bad space, but I know that we both hope to recapture our better days together. It's a tough road to get there, and we're kind of fumbling right now, but who knows. Hope springs eternal...
 
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