[weeirishlass]

Why do I always hear/see people say that? (Not here, obviously!) First, the pacifier is an imitation of the nipple! The breast IS the #1 pacifier!
And second, what the hell is wrong with pacifying a baby?!?!?! God forbid you use your god-given breasts to calm a baby. After all, that's only what they're there for!

Vent over.

 

[Laurel723]

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Originally Posted by weeirishlass what the hell is wrong with pacifying a baby?!?!?! God forbid you use your god-given breasts to calm a baby. After all, that's only what they're there for!

ITA

usually I just lurk here but couldn't help but laugh; I so totally agree with you!

 

[crazyangel06]

just drives you nuts huh !1

 

[Aliviasmom]

I agree. That's what they are there for!

 

[IAMINSANE]

Yeah I know it makes me CRAZY when I hear "I don't want to be a pacifier" well you know the breast is for more than just nurishment for the baby.

 

[mamacatsbaby]

I don't remember where I read it, the LLL forums maybe, but I like the saying "Your baby isn't using you like a pacifier, your baby's using a pacifier like it's you."

 

[kalirush]

The boob is just so *handy*. I can't imagine how I'd fix owies with no boobs...

Julia

 

[Igraine]

Sometimes I think it works the other way for me and my dd.

She nurses and it calms me down (unless she's pinching or kicking me. Silly baby!). Why is calming/pacifying an issue? Do what works, I say.

This is another one of those areas where people get defensive or uncomfortable so they say something stupid. Silence and sitting with the discomfort would be a better idea, but people can't seem to do that I guess.

Oh well. I love bfing my little one.

 

[jarynsmom06]

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That annoys me as well. I was told that in the hospital when ds was born. Luckily I figured out on my own that it was normal for a baby to be on your boob 24/7 and that if he was fussy for whatever reason and I couldn't figure it out...the boob always worked/works.

My cousin had a baby a week ago today and I was in her room visiting when the baby nurse came in...the baby was 24 hours old and just latched for the first time, he had to be on Oxygen for a while and they gave him an IV to keep his sugar from dropping ( I still don't know why they didn't just let her pup colostrum and give it to him, because they had to for the first few days after initial latch because he wouldn't latch on and eat enough...

: anywho)

The nurse comes in and says " You have to be careful now because he will try to use you as a paci and want to stay on your boob all the time, so the paci will be your lifesaver"

SO...after she walked out of the room, I looked at my cousin and said " First of all, he is your baby and you have to find out what is good for both of you, however my opinion is, that's what you are for, to comfort your baby and make him feel safe, if that means shoving a boob in his mouth every 20 minutes then so be it" She said..." I was kind of thinking the same thing but I didn't know what to say"

My cousin is only 18 and been without the daddy since she found out she was pregnant. She is a very shy person anyway, so it angers me that the nurse said that even more, becaues she probably would have had the baby on a schedule and stuck a paci in his mouth in between times. She asks me a lot of questions and I just hope I answer them correctly and can be of some help...

Ok I am finished now...

 

[Jennah_Gole]

Well i see that it can become a bit of a problem when the baby is using u as a pacifier all nite...I think my ds who is almost 4 mths breast feeds constantly all nite and i think that it is not hunger but the need or the want to suck all nite...as soon as he is asleep and i move a little bit away from him he is up again looking for the breast and this goes on all nite. My back is killing me from being in the same position all nite - my shoulder feels dislocated and I can barely move it or hold the baby on that side as it is stuck underneath the pillow all nite ( i breastfeed laying down while trying to sleep).

So I love my baby dearly but to me I have become a pacifier all nite and I think I must find a way to be able to breastfeed him and have him let go of the breast for at least an hour so that I can rest a little.

dont u think?...

 

[ericswifey27]

Another vote for the booby pacifier...can't lose them

 

[justplainbecky]

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Another vote for the booby pacifier...can't lose them

EXACTLY! And you don't have ot wash them off because they don't hit the floor (well, not usually! LOL!), and they come in a nice package.

 

[sunnysideup]

I like that in England a pacifier is called a "dummy." It seems a more fitting name. The dictionary definition of dummy is an "imitation of a real or original object, intended to be used as a practical substitute," making it clear that the "dummy" is a substitute for the breast.

 

[risen_joy]

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The boob is just so *handy*. I can't imagine how I'd fix owies with no boobs...

Amen to that!!

 

[forthebest]

twokids I went through the back/shoulder thing too, and all my dc were at the breast whenever they felt like it hungry or just wanting comfort, which was fine with me until the back/shoulder thing crept in. Totally agree you need your sleep, don't know how to tackle that I just kept on with it have back problems but from abuse of my back by lifting and stuff(just never did it right have to now!)but i guess it all adds up. Maybe other moms will have suggestions, perhaps having a pillow close at hand to prop yourself into a good position might be an answer which does mean waking a bit I think I did that when the shoulder got bad, your ds is very young and it's fairly constant feeding, have to admit when I stopped feeding after my last child I felt so sad, it's such a great thing but you do need to watch your positioning, do try stretching and gentle yoga to release the tension.Can't believe some of the crap shoved at bfing moms it's really starting to bug me, moms need support not exiled and duff advice.

 

[ndakkitten]

Thankfully no one has ever told me not to use my boobs as a pacifier, or I would have lost it!

I have used my breasts many many times to comfort/calm/soothe my 2 sons, and will do so when the new one is born. I agree, they are always there.

Another bonus: I rarely used a pacifier (only when my boobs really needed a break) and hence didn't have to "wean" my kids from their pacifiers. None of this screaming and fighting with my kids wanting their "nookie" like I have so many other parents go through.

 

[ellymay]

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Originally Posted by ericswifey27 Another vote for the booby pacifier...can't lose them

LOL....so true!

 

[MissAnnThrope]

When dfing while trying to sleep I find it very helpful to place a pillow behind my back for me to lean against so I can relaxe somewhat with out rolling over away from baby. And by putting my arm under his head helps with added support and balance. only thing with that is my arm starts to hurt after hours of his head resting on it in the same spot.