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I have been quite sick with this pregnancy and DH has been great at picking up some of the slack around here. That being said, I feel like we've done nothing but argue since I got pregnant with this child and it is driving me crazy! I know I am a little hormonal and being sick hasn't helped but I swear it is like he IS my toddler...both of them say/believe/argue the exact OPPOSITE of whatever I say/want to do,etc. I pointed this out to him yesterday b/c he was doing it in front of our 3 y.o. and I commented that no wonder she argues with me all day long she hears him do the exact same thing. It is seriously taxing.<br><br>
Any tips? I've tried to be more easy going or whatever but being sick and pregnant, I can only take so much!<br><br>
Here's an example: I simply suggested that we try to plan a carribbean/beach vacation b/f this baby turns 2 so we can all go and only pay for 3 seats. DH went off about me not wanting to go anywhere nearby and went on and on about how unsafe it is to travel with kids to the Carribbean! He is seriously paranoid about this but I just sat there stunned b/c all I had done was SUGGEST it for you know ....sometime within 2 years of October!! WTF man?!<br><br>
<sigh> vent over. Any tips or co-miseration at least?
 

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Oy vay!! No suggestions from me, I'm afraid - but you do absolutely have my sympathy. I can <b>totally</b> relate. Like you, I am prone to being perhaps a little more uh... <i>impatient</i> in my current state, HOWEVER.... conjuring a disagreement out of nothing is something that myself and my DH <i>excel</i> at, on occasion. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/argue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="argue"><br><br>
I think you should tell him: <span>"okay, it's FINE, honey - if you don't want to go to the Caribbean, I <i>completely</i> understand. I'll go on my OWN. You can look after the kids for a couple of weeks, can't you, darling?"</span> Bet he changes his tune pretty quick! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/mischievous.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="mischief">
 

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No suggestions but I'll commiserate. My husband has been doing a lot more of the childcare/housework but, umm, how to put this? He frequently gets very resentful/petulant about it? I'm probably paranoid and overly sensitive (ok, I know I am), but I feel like he feels like I'm lazy and not totally exhausted. (At least the nausea is finally starting to pass.)<br><br>
He hasn't disagreed with me that much (other than "you change the diaper" "no, you change the diaper"), but he does gang up with our two year old against me... mostly about breastfeeding. I'm not weaning her, but she'll ask to nurse when I don't want to and I'll say "no" and he'll take her side. This pisses me off. A lot.
 

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My DH gets pouty and sulky very easily at the moment. Drives me crazy! It's not like I'm asking him to do everything, just the odd thing every now and then. Sheesh.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">but he does gang up with our two year old against me... mostly about breastfeeding. I'm not weaning her, but she'll ask to nurse when I don't want to and I'll say "no" and he'll take her side. This pisses me off. A lot.</div>
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OMG. My husband does this too. I'm glad he understands and supports BFing on demand, but I really don't think it's necessary for a 2 yr old!<br><span style="font-size:xx-small;"><i>Posted via Mobile Device</i></span>
 
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