[Pandora114]

That's right.

My DH and I sent her to the IL's house for the night on Saturday *yes an overnighter* And we went through the whole routine thing for bedtime and morning and stuff.

And when we went to meet the IL's for brunch the next morning, my poor DD was listless, and just not her usual happy self. She didn't want to move, didn't wanna walk didn't wanna do anything.

We sat down and I went to get her her breakfast at the buffet table, and FIL went to get her some juice. Well, she chugged that juice back like it was the first thing she drank in a long long time. DH asked MIL if she gave DD her juice this morning before leaving and MIL said this:

"Well she didn't ask, so I didn't give her any"

Yeah, DD just assumes she's gonna get a Rubbermaid jucebox thing of OJ in the morning. I always give her one with her breakfast, she doesn't NEED to ask because I KNOW she is thirsty first thing in the morning. I know her rythim I know her needs.

So yeah, because I'm so AP, DD doesn't need to ASK for what she needs, so, when she's somewhere else, so she doesn't get it...

How can I teach DD to ASK for water/juice if she's thirsty without basicly withholding the fact that she NEEDS liquid. Like I always have one of those Rubbermaid Juice Boxes full of water within her reach at all times. KWIM?

 

[Pandora114]

on the upside, potty learning has started in high gear. I took the diaper off, and she's running around bare bum. Had a poop in the potty, and a piddle started on the floor, but I looked at her and said go pee in the potty, and she stopped peeing on the floor mid stream and ran to the potty to go pee. wow.

 

[Ravin]

My DD learned to ask (by signing) because I encourage her to ask, or to confirm that she wants something I know I'm going to give her. Such as breakfast, or a drink of water, etc. Yes, she always has her sippy w/ water around somewhere, but it's not always right in front of us, and if she's going to take a drink of MY water, I insist she ask first. She signs "eat", "please", "drink", "water", and "nurse", as well as "more", "Shoes", "down", "sit", and "potty". Basically, I taught her the signs because she isn't speaking clearly yet and I was tired of her getting upset and me having to guess ten different things before I knew what she wanted.

I guess I feel that encouraging her to communicate her wants and needs rather than assuming them (whether I know what they are at the time or not) is something I feel is AP. She has to make the transition eventually from having everything she wants/needs assumed to an opinion of her own in the matter...that she developed an opinion before an ability to communicate it probably helped encourage ME to help her with the communication.

 

[Pandora114]

my DD is pretty articulate. I ask her what she wants for breakfast, lunch, dinner and if she wants something *I* am having, I encourage her to say please like "Mommy drink please" *meaning "Mommy I want some of your drink please"*

but the morning juice thing is just so routine for both her and I. I pour me some juice in a glass, I pour her some juice into her juice box. It's as routine as my morning coffee.

But DD just doesn't ask for things out of the blue, like if she's thirsty, she won't outright ask for a drink, she just doesn't recognize the "I'm Thirsty" signal, no matter how many times I try to get her to. Like she goes all tantrumy for no apparent reason "are you hungry?" "NO" "are you thirsty?" *holds out her water* NO! and she hits it from my hand, then like 2 minutes later she's drinking her water like it's going out of style.