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I don't think I'm allowed to mention the name, but it's one of the most frequently received through free subscription....<br><br>
Anyway, this month they had an article about a family who ended up having their dog put down because they feared that the dog was a danger to their child.<br><br>
Did anyone see it? If so, what are your thoughts? I found it really disturbing and felt as if the owners themselves were more to blame than the dog. I was wondering if others felt that they really seemed to handle the situation poorly.
 

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Ah, I found the article online:<br><br><a href="http://www.parenting.com/parenting/article/0,19840,1624596,00.html" target="_blank">http://www.parenting.com/parenting/a...624596,00.html</a><br><br>
This is the part that disturbs me:<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<table border="0" cellpadding="6" cellspacing="0" width="99%"><tr><td class="alt2" style="border:1px inset;">Until one day. Wilson was curled up on my wife's lap on the couch when Isabelle decided she wanted to snuggle with Susan, too. As our daughter climbed closer to her mom, Wilson, apparently feeling cornered, lunged at her and bit her tiny hand. I didn't see much — just a flash of teeth — but I heard the snarl. It was all over in half a second. Susan hugged Isabelle, and I glared at Wilson, infuriated. I hated Wilson, but I also hated myself for hating him. I knew that in his little dog brain, he thought he was doing the right thing, maybe defending Susan or defending his turf. He actually seemed repentant afterward.<br><br>
"What happened?" Isabelle kept asking. All through the night, I heard her repeat those words. The injury wasn't bad, just a small red scratch, but that was enough.</td>
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This is the incident that caused them to put the dog to sleep. The thing is, if the dog had been displaying dominance issues, why was still being given couch privileges (which would reinforce his sense that he is high ranking in the pack)? Also, the bite was so small that it seems clear that the dog was not truly attempting to hurt the child--he was asserting his pack privilege as his owners had "communicated" it to him. At least that is my take. I can't help but feel bad for the dog <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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The world is full of people who get dogs and shouldn't have/don't deserve them.<br><br>
Our Nellie so so so good with the baby, and I think that's in part to her sweet nature, and in part because of how we trained/raised her. Dogs learn what they live, too.<br><br>
Also, since we got Nelle when I was pregnant, we had a back up home just in case things did not work out with the baby.<br><br>
People should be more responsible.
 

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Well, and I also worry about the message that it sends to the child: if you do something bad, we can send you away forever <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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Some people really shouldn't have pets. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> I am sad for that dog and the child as well.
 

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Is it wrong to hope they don't get another dog? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br>
My beagle and my 14 month old DD are the best of friends. But I NEVER assumed she wouldn't ever be nipped. And, honestly, I think I'd blame myself most of all. And unless she were horribly injured or the dog just went totally postal...putting Dakota down wouldn't even enter my mind. So sad. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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Not only do I worry about the message it sends to the child about if you are bad we can send you away forever...but what does that child grow up thinking about pets? That when they are bad or hard to deal with you just kill them.<br><br>
This is my BIGGEST peeve when it comes to people and animals. I have 7dogs ~ of which a few have snapped and even caught my son when he has been coming at them or been just a little too rough (albeit he is a pretty tender 1 year old). I have always been right there to intervene and mediate the situation. I would NEVER think of putting my animal down for such an instance. It is so sad how disposable our society has come ~ particularly when it comes to our animals. I always think ~ what if their children got into a fight and hit each other or god forbid bit one another ~ would they have the 'biter' PTS? Obviously not, so why would you do it with an animal so immediately? There are very few situations that warrant putting a dog to sleep for biting issues IMO!<br><br>
One more reason for me to hate this particular magazine!
 

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My SIL got me a year of "that" magazine. Ick. I leaf through it and pitch it. So, I didn't see that article.<br><br>
I'm glad I didn't. That's just awful. And, so many people will think..."Hey I read it in this magazine, so it must be the right thing to do!"
 

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<div>Originally Posted by <strong>Leta</strong> <a href="/community/forum/post/8232738"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border:0px solid;"></a></div>
<div style="font-style:italic;">The world is full of people who get dogs and shouldn't have/don't deserve them.</div>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/yeahthat.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="yeah that">:<br><br>
So, you've met my neighbors then?
 

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So I just got an e-mail from the magazine's fact checker--they're going to print the letter to the editor that I wrote about this article <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue">
 

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<div>Originally Posted by <strong>EVC</strong> <a href="/community/forum/post/8887940"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border:0px solid;"></a></div>
<div style="font-style:italic;">So I just got an e-mail from the magazine's fact checker--they're going to print the letter to the editor that I wrote about this article <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"></div>
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Care to post the letter? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/loveeyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Loveeyes">:
 

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<table border="0" cellpadding="6" cellspacing="0" width="99%"><tr><td class="alt2" style="border:1px inset;">As both a parent and a lifelong dog owner, I was quite angered by your<br>
June/July 2007 article "What to do about Wilson?" Ultimately, the fault<br>
lies not in the dog who was only behaving the ways that dogs have been<br>
programmed by nature to behave, but in his owners who failed to understand<br>
this and take appropriate measures to correct the situation before it got<br>
out of hand. For example, the living room couch should be a place<br>
exclusively reserved for high ranking pack members (i.e. people). A dog<br>
with dominance issues--like Wilson-- should have lost couch privileges a<br>
long time ago. By allowing him on the couch--where the incident took<br>
place--Wilson's owners themselves provoked the dog's biting of their<br>
child.<br><br>
In the article, there is no indication that Wilson was an agressive dog,<br>
but there is every indication that his owners continually sent him mixed<br>
messages about his place in the pack hierarchy. As a result, a fine dog<br>
was unjustly sentenced to death, and their children learned a chilling<br>
lesson: animals are disposable.</td>
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I was a little upset when I wrote it. I think if I had cooled down a bit first, I would have written it differently. Oh well, at least someone stood up for the dog.
 

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Good letter!<br><br>
Also, I do want to say that even dogs that are not "kid friendly" do have the potential to do very well in childless homes (or homes with much older kids/adolescents). This doesn't sound like a euthanization situation....I feel bad for the dog<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br>
I have a friend who adopted a 2 yr old cocker spaniel that bit their child. She wanted her dad to dispose of it, but before he had a chance to , I helped her find a new home with no children and the dog did just fine in her new home.<br><br>
A dog with severe aggression issues, however would be an understandable candidate for euthanization.
 
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