At a Loss Re: Wraps

I've been thinking about the wrap thing for awhile. I am generally a loyal rebozo user. Started out with a homemade fabric "rebozo" (or several, bec. we lose things easily), but when I finally tried a real rebozo I was amazed at the difference in comfort with a woven shawl. Dd got older, and I got interested in trying a wrap, so I made one out of an old T-shirt-textured sheet. I liked the security for awhile, but ended up ditching it because it was this huge bulky thing in my bag that trailed all over the sidewalk while I spent a full 60 sec. tying dd in only to have her want to get out and nurse 10 min. later! I concluded that maybe dd and I are not wrap people. Esp. since I should mention, I'm not one to leave a sling tied while I take dd in and out of it. If I don't have it freshly tied each time, she always seems to end up leaning away from my body or otherwise slightly off.

But over a year later, it is summer and I am wanting to take 2.5 yo dd on long walks/hikes, so I started putting her in the Backpack Carry in the rebozo, barely missing the fringe. Remembering the huge difference rebozo weave made, and having heard nothing but amazing raves about Didymos fabric, I thought, maybe I should try an actual diagonally woven wrap, after all.

So this morning I got a new Girasol in the mail.

It seems SO THICK and bulky relative to my rebozo, completely apart from length (jogged my weak memory about the 60-sec-tie-with-toddler-squirming-and-wrap-all-over-the-sidewalk phenomenon). Because of this, any advantage in vertical strength was overriden by my inability to wrap and tie tightly enough with all that coarse bulk. It didn't feel any more secure, just like I was wearing a large blanket wrapped all around my torso.

I've seen Guatemalan perraja/rebozo shawls of regular length (not long enough for 2-shoulder carries), and I can imagine where this fabric might feel comfy for that. So that makes me think maybe I am just missing the wrap concept.

Am I doing something wrong?

TIA,
Erin