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I do not know what to do.
Ds will be 2 on Saturday. He is definetly expressing his independence=
as well as lots of frustration.
He is hitting his friends and taking their toys.
That is problem number one. I am trying to react calmy and mostly remove him from the situation and try to talk it out. Ds is very vocal and can have a conversation with me.
I think his behavior is improving- he is for the most part a sweet little kid-
Who I feel is reacting negatively to my and my husbands issues.

2nd problem
HUGE PROBLEM
Dh is not on board with GD- and has hit my son.
 

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For your DH, would he read a book? How about a chapter in a book? How about a one page article?

In Alfie Kohn's book "Unconditional Discipline" there is a fabulous chapter about why punishment, including spanking, is wrong (I think it's chapter 9). An easy read, and referenced to tons of studies and research.

At www.naturalchild.org you can find many short articles. I know there are several about spanking. For example:

http://www.naturalchild.org/jan_hunt/shouldnt_hurt.html
http://www.naturalchild.org/jan_hunt/spanked.html
http://www.naturalchild.org/guest/john_valusek.html

There are many more good ones there. Maybe you could leave a few by the toilet.


Also, hitting and taking toys is very normal for a 2 year old. And no matter how verbal he may be, there's a big difference between understanding and being able to do as you suggest. But instead of writing even more, I'll just refer you back to the site above - they have articles about that too.
 

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I DON'T REALLY HAVE ANY ADVISEFOR YOU, BUT JUST WANTED TO GIVE YOU (oops...sorry about the capitals...i'm not yelling
) a hug. I know how hard it can be to GD, and can't even imagine not having my partner support me in that endeavor. I think I would always choose ds over dh, if it came down to that...I would defend ds to the death if someone was hitting him. I hope you can share some info with DH that will help him to see the light, so he can support you and ds by being a gentle dad/husband.

Peace,

PS. DS turned 2 this saturday, and he too is hitting a HUGE independence stage...the kid who has never tantrummed will now FREAK out completely if I peel his banana or try to help him with...um...anything at all.
 
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