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Ok, so my mom thinks I should take my kid to the Dr. because he's still wetting the bed at four years old. Apparently I, as a child, would also wet the bed. The doctor gave me some "medicine" to cure me of that problem. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/jaw.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="dropjaw"> *shudder*<br><br>
So, I would like to know:<br><br><b>age at night training:<br><br>
boy or girl:<br></b><br>
and, any strategies for helping Sam along.<br><br>
He is a very heavy sleeper at night. When we try to wake him for any reason, he just falls back to sleep or cries miserably.<br><br>
We put him in Happy Heinys and he's drenched in the morning... about 95% of the time.<br><br>
???<br><br>
Thanks, mamas!<br><br>
(Eli, on the other hand, stays dry all night at 9 months... Yay EC!)<br><br>
xoxo pam
 

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Well, my 27 month old dd stays dry at night and then completely soaks her diaper as soon as she wakes up. However, growing up all the girls in my family (only two of us!) had the same problem which we outgrew as we got older. My mom used to wake me up in the middle of the night to use the potty. I think most of the time I didn't even know it! It worked though, I think she did it at most for a year, but I was young and weeks seemed like years. Anyway, she didn't do that with my sister and she wet the bed a lot longer. (Oh, by middle of the night, it may very well have been 11 pm when she went to bed.)<br><br>
A friend of mine had the same problem and her mother got her the magic pill, but she told me it has something to do with the muscles not being strong enough or something. I have no idea, obviously, other than we eventually outgrew it. If it makes you feel better then take him to the Dr., maybe something else is going on. Or maybe he's just a regular kid.<br><br>
Oh, one other thing - my parents had one of those wet pads that go across the middle part of the bed to keep the sheets dry. Maybe the diapers don't make him uncomfortable? I remember waking up as soon as I would wet, so maybe if he just has regular old undies on it would be more uncomfortable? I don't have any HH though, so maybe those don't have a fleece inner. Just some thoughts.
 

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Pam- I wouldn't worry about bedwetting at age 4. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> Kids attain dryness at different ages. After 4 or 5 years of age about 10% of the bed wetters will become dry each year. Medication is certainly not needed at age 4. You can try restricting evening fluids and waking him to pee before you go to bed. When he's a little older you can have him do visualization exercises where he lies in bed imagining himself asleep, feeling he needs to go then waking up and going to the bathroom. That helps make the mind-body connection that a full bladder is a reason to wake up. It's really just a matter of his brain maturing and his bladder maturing. If you or your DH wet the bed it does run in families and typically the kids will be dry at approx. the same age that the parent was. Another possibility after age 6 is a bedwetting alarm to wake him as he starts to pee to accelerate the process. They have a high success rate with older kids. If (and this is a big if) it is still a problem when he is old enough for overnights or sleep away camp then could be the time to *consider* medication but it really isn't necessary and I only rarely recommend it situationaly (sp?). You certainly could run it by your Ped. he/she may have some helpful handouts. It's not a bad idea to check a urinalysis to be sure there is no chronic UTI or anything going on. Rarely does it show anything and further tests are not usually needed. And if you are wondering, yes I am a Pediatrician. I rarely admit that on internet boards and don't give out a lot of advice over the net but wanted to let you know your son is normal and doesn't need any *magic pill*he will do it when his body and brain are ready. If you have any other concerns feel free to PM me. Monica
 

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Pamela,<br><br>
Emelie was completely night-trained at 3.<br><br>
Meredith is now 3 years and 4 months and RARELY has a night that she doesn't wet the bed. She also sleeps VERY HARD. When she's awake and she and her sister are 'chatting their way to sleep,' she will get out of bed to go potty. So, I really think it is a matter of her being such a deep sleeper.<br><br>
I wouldn't worry about it yet, to be honest.
 

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I think it depends, and I've heard boys take longer. My dd was dry at night by 32 months but whenever dh travelled she would wet the bed- which was once every 3 months or so. She is a light sleeper and wakes up to tell me if she has to go. She can now take herself-- but I wonder if how deep the child sleeps affects it. I think it varies so much from child to child.
 

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Parker started staying dry about 99% of the time right when he started pt'ing... I'd say about 3 yrs 2 mo? Now (3 yr 8 mo) he is more wet than dry... probably 99% wet in the mornings. *sigh* I'm not sure what happened. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rolleyes">:<br><br>
I agree that you shouldn't worry.
 

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Lorrie was 1 year<br>
Valerie was 13 years old<br>
Zeke is 3 and still wears diapers at night<br>
Alek is not looking at anything but diapers.......LOL!<br><br><b>It has been my experience that people from the last century are very ignorant when it comes to using the toilet.......LOL! Like as if it were their business or something!</b> <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rolleyes">:
 

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Kalyn day trained around 33 months on her own and was consistently not having accidents by 36 months. She's not a very heavy sleeper. She never getsup togo in the middle of the night and usually doesn't go to the bathroom right away when she gets up. She's only had 2 or 3 accidents at night since she completely trained about 1 year ago.<br><br>
That being said, I wouldn't worry about it. I believe they have a higher chance of night wetting if one of their parents wet the bed as a child. That could be a myth I don't know, just something I heard. It's not uncommon for a child his age to wet the bed.<br><br>
Now, my 17 month old wakes up dry and goes potty on the toilet. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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Both my 5 yr old(6 in Nov) son, and my 4.5 yr old dd still have accidents at night. DS is nightly, dd is about 2-3 times a week. They both got up in the middle of the night to pee when they night nursed, and as soon as they night weaned, they started having accidents. I really think for us it is a matter of how deep they sleep. I don't limit drinks because I have a friend who when she was little had her drinks limited past a certain time at night and she still remembers laying in bed at night, sooo thirsty. I just can't imagine it. I say hang in there, and in a few years, if it is still a problem, then try the doc. That's our plan anyway.<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> Debi<br><br>
edited to add my 9 month old holds it all night, then pees first thing in the am too, and we're not practicing ec. Maybe I should get a little potty for him to go on in the am. Couldn't hurt.<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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My 14 month old was dry all night from six months until recently. We'd wait until 20-30 minutes after he woke up to change because if we did it immediately he'd be completely dry. The last few nights he's been waking up in the middle of the night and staying awake - we couldn't figure out what was wrong until we finally thought to check his diaper. It was soaked. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> Bad mommy.<br><br>
Anyway - back to the original topic. I remember having accidents as late as 2nd grade (and that was during the day). It was very embarassing, but the worst part was that I worried about having to go to the bathroom all the time, but I think I was too embarrassed to ask. (Teachers are not always the nicest people.) I would just give it some more time and don't feel you have to put extra pressure on him because that may make it worse.
 

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DD day trained herself at 29 months exactly.<br><br>
Now, at 4.5 years (1-2-99) she still wets heavily 6 out of 7 nights. We're not worried, yet, just trying to find something for her to wear at night, lol<br><br>
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Catherine- 26 months (not a heavy sleeper)<br><br>
Thomas- 26 months (somewhat heavy sleeper)<br><br>
Claire- she's 21 months now and is dry 50% of the mornings 100% at naptime<br><br>
Is it bothering him? Does he tell you he doesn't want to still wear diapers? If it's not an issue for him, then I wouldn't sweat it, I think most kids outgrow it <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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My daughter - Night trained immediately as soon as she potty trained at 3.<br><br>
My son - He is turning 4 in 2 weeks and will wet the bed if I don't take him to pee at 1am, and sometimes even if I do!! I don't know what to do about it, but I am hoping he will eventually grow out of it.
 

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OK, my turn to chime in <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
Michael- ds 6 1/2 was dry from about 9 months on. Since potty traing at 26 months has had maybe 2 night time accidents.<br><br>
Jacob 4 1/2 (5 Dec) has not had a dry night. I have tried everything with him. Used to use the pull ups, tried just undies, tried waking him before I went to bed, then did the trainers.<br><br>
Our experiance with him is: pull ups were uncomfortable for him, undies were great but he sleeps so hard he was literally sleeping in his urine all night long, a wet bed does not wake him up, waking up before I went to bed was useless because he was so out of it he would fall asleep standing there and I would be trying to wake him and he hardly ever peed.<br><br>
That's when the trainers came into play. I decided since he was going to sleep through it even in a soaked bed, I would feel better knowing he was comfy on the inside, the reason for the fleece lining.<br><br>
Both dh and I were bedwetter's and the one thing that haunts dh is the fact that his family made a big deal of it. He was so stressed that he continued to wet the bed. He was on the medication, the buzzer when they start to pee, and a few other things.<br>
In talking with people and our ped, it is not uncommon for boys to have accidents nightly up to age 8. Most good ped's will not do anything for accidents until at least 6.<br><br>
Don't stress about it. He will eventually get bladder control at night. You are not alone and it is more common than you think <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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Eli (5/4/99) is dry about 50% of the time. We will have stretches where he is dry for a week on end and now we have a week where he has been wet every night.<br><br>
From talking with our ped, he sees no issues whatsoever. Also, he said not to limit water etc....they will stay dry when their bodies are matured (it has something to do with some hormone that is produced at night).
 

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DS (age 2 1/2) is potty learning right now and rarely wets at night. I wouldn't worry about it until the child was old enough to be bothered by it themselves (around 7 or so when sleepovers start from what I've observed in other children.)<br><br>
I wouldn't limit fluids in the evening, kids should drink if they are thirsty or they will be learning to ignore thier body's signals, which is counterproductive to night-dryness, IMO.
 

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Noah is almost 4 1/2 and rarely stays dry all night. His ped assured me it's normal and it'll happen when he's ready. However, I was told to limit fluids at night, which I feel terrible about when he's complaining he's thirsty so I'm glad to hear the pp who said this is not a good idea. He sleeps hard so I think his body just doesn't wake him up to use the toilet. Otherwise he's been daytime trained since 2 1/2.<br><br>
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Noah (4), Joshua (2) and c-section 10/16/03 Sarah
 

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My boys were both dry at night, wetting during the morning nursings before they learned to use the toilet during the day. My babe who just turned 3 never has an accident, wears undies all the time. Unless he got some dairy into his system, then we put dipes on him because we will always have night wetting (and frequent daytime potty trips). The 6 year old will have night wetting if he gets dairy as well. So for our house night wetting is another (in a list of) atypical allergy manifestations! I have always wondered if others have night wetting as a sign of allergy as well.
 

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Roman was dry at night from at least 7 months. That's when I first noticed it, but he was probably dry before that. He was peeing in the morning while I was playing with him before changing his diaper.<br><br>
Eva's 3 years old, and she's still not dry at night (or during the day either).<br><br>
Nadia's 6 months old and also not dry at night.
 
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