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My 7 yr old ds is running all over me. he's disrespectful, demanding, and doesn't do a darn thing I tell him. He pushes his little sister around constantly (she's almost 3) and has really hurt her a few times. He hits me and does not stay in his room when I try to punish him. Today was a real meltdown: ds and dd were playing in the water sprinkler outside. Ds was playing okay for about 5 minutes then started knocking dd to the ground alot and spraying water deliberately into her ears and face. After increasingly rough play, I'd had it and told them to turn everything off and dry off to come inside. That's when ds took off his soaking wet (with water, not wee) undies and smacked dd across the face with them. I lost it and started screaming at him so loudly I got a headache. I had to ask him several times to get inside and get in the bath. I finally had to spank him. By this time, my mom was in tears (I live in my parent's old house and they live in a new one right next door.) Just a few days ago, she and I had a huge fight over how I was handling ds. She thinks I'm too rough on him, but she's only around at the end of everything, when he's already been a beast with me and puts on the puppy dog "I'm sorry" eyes for her. She doesn't see how much I try to reason with him, deal with him rationally, and it just doesn't work. Of course the screaming and spanking don't work either. Most of my days end up with my son apologizing profusely and me feeling like mommie dearest. What can I do? Should we both (ds and I) go to therapy? Should I let my ex have him for a while? I feel like I'm about to go over the edge...