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OMG. Ok...breathe...<br><br>
My 2yo DS has been absolutely IMPOSSIBLE to manage in the recent past...but even worse over the past week. His sleep habits have deteriorated from sleeping most the way thru the night (only waking to nurse around six) and regular naps to thrashing around throughout the night, crying out for me, comfort nursing ALL. THE. TIME. and then being tired and cranky ALL DAY until he FINALLY resigns himself to a nap by 3pm. Then he's *mostly* happy in the evening and we start it all over again. I am really, really, losing sleep (and patience) here. I'm a very single mama so there's nobody to pick up the slack when I need to sleep. Anyone have any suggestions? I do have a lot of stress in my life right now but other than that I've been trying really hard to keep him on a normal routine of some sort. He's never reacted to stress like THIS before so I don't see how that's the culprit. Growing pains? His two year molars have been trying off and on to come in but they don't seem to be the issue right now...I don't think, anyway.<br><br>
Anyway...just looking for suggestions, ideas, words of wisdom or just a plain ole hug! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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FWIW, it sounds like a maturity growth spurt- his brain is growing so rapidly that his behaviour can't keep up with it. The stress could trigger the growth spurt, in that he has more stimulation to become emotionally aware, but it probably isn't the root cause.<br>
Age-old mantra: this too will pass. Even this will pass....
 

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I so, so, so feel your pain. My beloved ds became One with Twoness recently, and my cheerfully independent happy kid morphed into a whiney dramatic clingy oppositional kid. He's also doing the night nursing--we just got him a toddler bed because he asked for one, but now he won't sleep until he's facing me with his head on my pillow, body pressed up against mine. Oy. Add to this the various holiday travels--some a great deal less successful than others--and it's nuts.<br><br>
All this is to say, from our sample of n=2, this is normal. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"><br><br>
My hat really goes off to you as a singler, too. Thumbs up to you for meeting him where he's at. As he's going up and down the emotional roller coaster of being a quickly-growing toddler, he'll have you as a steady straight line to orient himself.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">All this is to say, from our sample of n=2, this is normal. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"></div>
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Thanks for the laugh <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"> and the kind words. OMG...yes! He now has to sleep with his head ON TOP OF MINE sometimes! SHEESH. And he'll wake up whining "mama hold me pleeeeeease" so I try to hold him and what does he do? Pushes and kicks at me screaming "NO!" Only to start all over again five seconds later.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:<br><br>
Helen: A developmental growth spurt was my first guess but it has gone on forever. Then again, we, too, had the stress of traveling (A LOT) over the holidays, we recently moved, his dad is being a UA Violation and causing me grief from 1,600 miles away and I'm currently gainfully UNemployed...searching like crazy for a job while trying to get my ducks in a row to start back to school full time starting this summer! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:<br><br>
And I WONDER why my child is acting like he is!
 

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Oh mama, wish I were there to help ya! Props to you for doing it all by yourself (I am always in awe of single parents!) Is there ANY way to have time alone to yourself...not just to look for a job, but just go away and have something to drink or shop, or even just a change of scenery? Maybe a friend could watch him for even an hour...I know it helps me a LOT. My oldest will be two in March and she has been screaming for no apparent reason lately too. It is so hard to figure those things out. It will pass...on to bigger and better things!
 

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mytwogirls: It's been really tough lately to get a break because my SIL is my saving grace when it comes to that and she's due any day now with her second little one! My light at the end of the tunnel will be this Friday night. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"> My mom will probably have a night of hell with DS but my sister bought tickets for us to see Patty Griffin, Shawn Colvin, EmmyLou Harris and Buddy ******! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"> I'm SO, SO, SO excited and it's soooooooo needed! It will be my first break in a while.
 

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You are doing so much! Hang in there-<br><br>
I think he just wants more attention as you do more things
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I'm sorry you're going through this. It sounds like you have it figured out between your stress (trust me, it has much more an effect on them than we realize) and his developmental spurt.<br>
Like Helen said, it will pass. Eventually. It really will. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> in the meantime!
 

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Awww...I knew I could count on my November '05 mamas for some hugs! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><br><br>
Keep your fingers crossed for a good night of sleep for us tonight, will ya?!
 

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My 2.5 year old DS has been increasingly cranky, oppositional and generally difficult for the past 4 months or so. I was pregnant and just had a baby recently, so I thought it was the stress of the new baby, but after reading this thread I can see that it might also just be "being two".<br><br>
I can't help feeling upset, though, when he spends half the day being miserable. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> I want my little boy to be happy!
 

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Ah, I am soooo glad to see that I am not the only Mama going through a terrible 2 period. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> K has become so difficult to get to sleep. It all started New Year's Day. I mistakenly thought it had to do with his being up later than usual the night before. Nope. He will go down calmly. Then proceed to jump up and down in his crib and yell Mama. And will add on a sad little cry. This can go on for an hour and a half. Me going in holding him, him pointing to his crib, me putting him down and leaving, him jumping up and down crying/calling me. I started holding him longer before putting him down. Then he would point to the crib. Ahh!<br><br>
I thought that K had all his teeth-but he today he was pointing and touching the back area of his gums. Maybe it is his two year molars? Any way for me to check?<br><br>
I hope that it gets better for you soon, Mama!<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/cold.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Cold">:
 

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my lovely, helpful little girl has been replaced with a writhing, tantrumy, stuttering, "I want to do it!" yelling little child.<br>
I think she's going through a growth spurt.<br>
phew!!<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">my lovely, helpful little girl has been replaced with a writhing, tantrumy, stuttering, "I want to do it!" yelling little child.<br>
I think she's going through a growth spurt.<br>
phew!!<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"></div>
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You just described DS to a TEE! Well, except he says "NO! MY do it!" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll">
 

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perhaps the toddler body snatchers have recently hit full force...DS has turned from a sweet all the time little tot to a cranky, whiny, tantrumy little guy who LOVES LOVES LOVES to NOOOOOOOOOOOO<br><br>
I'm just hoping it will pass...and trying not to strangle him <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hide.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hide">:<br><br>
I have noticed that if I let his attitude get to me at all it gets much worse so even at his grouchiest I try to act like he's being perfectly pleasant. Like today, we went out for lunch to Olga's...I specifically chose Olga's because he loves it...well as soon as we got there he starts saying "no, i not eat, i don't like food, i don't like olga's" etc. and I'm all "ok, this lunch is going to be great, what should mommy order" he quieted down a bit but when I tried to figure out what he wanted he said no to every suggestion so I just happily said that he didn't have to eat lunch and he could color while I ate...as soon as I said that (maybe because he felt like he had control of the situation) he told me what he wanted for lunch...and ate all of it! So it really did turn out to be a good lunch!
 

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My DS1 was like that for about two months, beginning precisely on his second birthday. It was really, really, really hard - especially with the new baby - but it passed. Hang in there!
 

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Whew...yeah...I guess it all started right around his birthday! I thought people were joking when they talk about the "terrible" twos. I try to not look at it that way, I try to keep things in a positive light and understand that he is just really trying to come into his own in so many ways but D*MN is it hard! Sorry all you other mamas are going thru or have gone thru this, too! It's HARD!!!
 

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yes, she also suddenly has a TON of energy and is bouncing off the walls and totally demanding that we play with her constantly!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/bow.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="bow"> to you, and all single mothers. You are amazing.
 

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