Attitude of DP about Homebirth?

I still remember the first time I mentioned homebirth to DH. He said NO way. And something about how horrible the clen up would be. Luckily, he came around fairly quickly after I started reading him more info. Now he is a huge homebirth supporter.

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my dh did not want to have homebirth because he thought it would be messy (it was) and smelly (it was) and he didn't want to forever have that stuff in his mind whenever he was in our bed. that's ok - she came by surprise 5 weeks early anyway, so she needed the hospital stuff & was xferred to nicu 2 days after birth.

in hindsight, although i used to think homebirth would be great and i really admire women who do it, i am just too much of a hypochondriac to go that route. i need the security of knowing that if something went wrong, i am right there with all the hospital stuff.

besides, i liked how they waited on me hand and foot at the hospital, frankly. pathetic, i know, but when you live 1500 miles away from your nearest family members and you are new to your community, you gotta take your coddling where you can get it.

Dh was supportive from the beginning...he's just like that

DH was very supportive from the beginning, even being twins.

Well, there wasn't really an option for me...DH pretty much had the same attitude that he's had toward every pregnancy/birth/parenting/medical issue that's come up, he trusts my opinions because he knows how much I research things before I do them (I haven't always been that way, but that's another thread ).

Sometimes I wish he was more interested and supportive, but it's definitely better than being adamantly opposed!

So where does a DP who says "homebirth is fine and it really is your choice and I would never keep you from it, but I'm going to want to talk to the midwife and get reassurance about how emergencies would be handled" fit?

You need a "somewhat nervous but supportive" category.

i answered that he thought it was my desicion because that's just what he said when asked by our midwife. but he was also very supportive from the beginning.there's just no way he would think for a minute that he would tell me where i should birth.he would have been supportive no matter where i chose to birth because he trusts me.he's a good man!

whenever i see a thread about convincing someone's partner about homebirth i just want to scream "it's not his choice".but then i remember it's not that simple.and i remember how lucky i am.

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Same here.