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Hey all,<br><br>
Am I really starting the thread as late as Dec 3rd? I did not see another one around here.<br><br>
What are you all doing?<br><br>
xo,<br>
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Looks like everyone is busy with all of the holidays and such.<br><br>
We just returned from a two-week stint in St. louis visiting our families - whew! DH went back a week earlier than Kiernen and I did, and let me just say NEVER AGAIN will I do such a thing - at least not until Kiernen is older. I can parent alone at home, but not away - Kiernen and I were both a mess! But we are happy happy happy to be home and in our own space again.<br><br>
This year we are getting a tree for the first time in many years, and we are so excited! It has been years since we decorated for the holidays, and I cannot WAIT to trim the tree WITH Kiernen! And put his little presents under the tree.<br><br>
I just watched Polar Express for the first time when we were with our family, and I am so back and forth on the whole Santa thing - what are all of YOU doing about Santa? The magic part of the holiday is so important to me - I feel it is an integral part of the holiday. But I just have no idea what to do about Santa. It is prevalent in our family to believe in Santa, and part of me sees no harm there - that magic, etc. But....
 

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I'm torn about the Santa thing, too. And since Henry's big half-sister still believes in Santa and is SURE to be telling him that Santa will bring him gifts, that makes it even harder!<br><br>
For now I think we'll just say, "When you wake up on Christmas morning you'll have presents under the tree!" and if *he* wants to make the leap that Santa brings them, he can. If he out and out asks us, we'll say, "Some people believe that." We'll see if this plan works!<br><br>
We're getting our tree next week. I can't wait to see how Henry reacts! He's been talking about Christmas trees for a long time now. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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hey mamas! hey deb! hey chasmyn! newmama!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wave.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wave"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/grouphug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="grouphug"><br><br>
we are on our 2nd week of this cold/cough so haven't updated in awhile!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/fever.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Fever">: now poor J is suffering...<br><br>
hope everyone's doing wonderfully and not too busy!<br><br>
-nonny
 

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Deb, ur mailbox was full so here's my PM for ya!<br><br>
We live VERY close and we would to meet you guys!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"> right after Justin's cold recovers, we will think of a time and place!<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/heartbeat.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="heartbeat">nonny
 

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subbing... don't do the christmas thing here - so no help...<br><br>
A funny.<br>
Yesterday morning I was nursing Tehila while sitting at the computer and Gedalya came over wanting to nurse. He looked at me and at Tehila and said: Tehila, bottle!<br>
Gedalya had seen his cousin get a bottle while they were visiting us over Thanksgiving.<br>
So I told Gedalya "I'm sorry, but my babies only nurse."<br><br>
We were just rolling.
 

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happy december, mamas!<br><br>
we're just getting the final touches on opening up harvest restaurant - next week <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:.<br><br>
just trying out webshots...let's see how it works for me.<br>
here's some shots of laurel and i heading out to a halloween party...<br><a href="http://good-times.webshots.com/photo/2013304370102635805fRdbWd" target="_blank">mama belly</a><br><a href="http://good-times.webshots.com/photo/2527899340102635805BgGtFk" target="_blank">laurel does her own face painting</a><br><a href="http://good-times.webshots.com/photo/2705225040102635805kvswNL" target="_blank">gramma made the witch costume, dada painted the belly</a>
 

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Jeremy, I love the pictures. Laurel made an adorable witch and you have such a beautiful belly!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">subbing... don't do the christmas thing here - so no help...<br><br>
A funny.<br>
Yesterday morning I was nursing Tehila while sitting at the computer and Gedalya came over wanting to nurse. He looked at me and at Tehila and said: Tehila, bottle!<br>
Gedalya had seen his cousin get a bottle while they were visiting us over Thanksgiving.<br>
So I told Gedalya "I'm sorry, but my babies only nurse."<br><br>
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That's hilarious!
 

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Hey everyone.<br>
I think we all have been very busy. This time of year gets that way.<br>
We celebrate Christmas, but I have also been torn about the Santa thing. I believed in Santa when i was a kid and it was magical and I didn't feel betrayed or lied to when i found out. I thought it was cute that my parents went aong with it and stuff. Same with the tooth fairy. But.... somehow it doesn't feel right to me. We are doing a few gifts and stockings. I might say that Santa filled the stockings. Not sure yet.<br>
We are getting a big snowstorm today and it is great. The boys and I went sledding today and played in the snow. Oh, I love it.<br><br>
Anyone going to homeschool? I am pretty sure we are. I have a 4 1/2 year old as well as my 2 year old. My eldest hasn't been in any school and he loves learning the way we have been doing it, so we might just stick with that.<br><br>
I'm still nursing E and I am still happy with that, but nights have gotten harder ( or I should say early mornings ). E isn't taking well to restrictions or limitations on the amount of times and I am getting worn out. I know it will work itself out, as it did with DS 1 , but i am in the thick of it now. E and I have to come up with a compromise soon because I want to continue to enjoy our nursing relationship. I am iffy about it right now! i think he is 100% in favor of it<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">, but I am iffy!<br><br>
Lots of love to you all,<br>
Kerri
 

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Hi everyone!<br>
I like the beginning of the month when everyone checks in...<br><br>
Santa - I'm unsure of this too, but Lily doesn't believe in Santa anymore, so I think we'll just take this one as it comes. NM, I like that response, "some people believe in that".<br><br>
Nursing - still going strong here. A few months ago I was getting really uncomfortable with nursing, but now I'm in a different place with it. A is very attached to her "milkies and switch sides" and I'm just iffy too, Kerri. But, since it means so much to her and I don't HATE it, I keep rolling.<br><br>
No baby here this month, which made me sad, but we will keep trying until next April (my 43rd bday). We shall see!<br><br>
Annabelle is in a fun place right now. She's talking a lot and started parroting some things (I heard a "Jesus" from the back seat today <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/duck.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Duck"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">, but it still takes some skill to decode some of her language. I'm open enrolling her in three public school pre-schools for next school year (one is our public Montessori) and I'm excited to think that she might be in school next year four or five half days a week. I learned with Lily that I definitely have less and less to offer in terms of SAHP stuff the older my kids get. I am great with babies and toddlers, not so great with preschoolers and school-aged kids! It's good to know one's strengths and weaknesses, no? If she doesn't get in to one of these programs, we'll look for other alternatives. The rub is that I have to earn enough to cover tuition, so it can't be TOO expensive.<br><br>
A is also skipping about two naps a week now. Anyone else? This is a hard adjustment for me, but also gives us more freedom to get out in the pm. Typically, I have to be here at 3:00 when Lily gets off the bus, so we are limited after nap time.<br><br>
Holidays for us will be pretty low-budget (as usual). Of course, we make the most of it and the girls are happy no matter what. Our tree and some additional lights are up already and we're playing holiday music pretty much every day. We went to the Parade of Lights on Saturday night and A loved that so much. This Sunday we'll go see some music at the library to keep the energy going. We're hosting Christmas brunch this year, so we are looking forward to that too!
 

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Hiya there mamas<br><br>
Glad to see this thread. I was starting to wonder if it didn't exist. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:<br><br><br>
Chasmyn~ <<Hugs>> traveling to other peoples homes IS hard to do. Hooray for returning home. and Yay on decorating the tree/house. Have fun!<br><br>
Nonny~ I hope the ick at your house passes very soon and your sweet boys feel better.<br><br>
Tikva~ thanks for sharing that funny story.<br><br>
Jeremy~ I will keep my fingers crossed for you and your DH to have the restaurant open smoothly and be an instant success! You're belly is beautiful. How far along now? And laurel is such a little doll.<br><br>
Kerri~ I think its great that you're going to homeschool. We're looking into the Montessori school here. I am not a patient teacher. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> And think its best I don't homeschool.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"><br><br>
Kate~ I think its wonderful and important that you recognize your strengths and weaknesses. Cheyne is also skipping naps and then wanting to stay up late which makes me grumpy. I too am having a rough time adjusting to this.<br><br>
And for us. . . well life feels pretty busy even though its not really. LOL, I'm sure how that works. But possibly a side effect of being preggers and having 2 dcs. We are looking forward to Christmas/ Solstice and the lights and what not.<br><br>
CHeyne LOVES lights and when we put up our tree, He took a deep long breathe in and sighed, "oooo Kissedmes. . " (Christmas in Cheyne lingo). It was very sweet. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/luxlove.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="throb"><br><br>
This age is fun and so very challenging. He can go from being so incredibly sweet and affectionate (like rubbing his palm against my face and smiling and saying "love you Mama"<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/loveeyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Loveeyes"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> to behaving like a tazmanian devil. I mean wild man!! Running all around jumping on the furniture, kicking me if I try to put clothes on him, Attacking the cats with his big trucks, etc. sigh. Its a lesson in patience on my end for sure.<br><br>
Well, thats my short update for now. I have my 16 week appt. tomorrow morning. Yay! Its always fun visiting the midwives.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Deb, ur mailbox was full so here's my PM for ya!<br><br>
We live VERY close and we would to meet you guys!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"> right after Justin's cold recovers, we will think of a time and place!<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/heartbeat.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="heartbeat">nonny</div>
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Okay, cool! I'm working close to Shady Grove Hospital starting on Dec 10. Once I get into the job, I'll have a better feel for the place and what my hours are etc. I hope everyone at your house feels better soon!<br><br>
ALL -- I got a consulting position not far from Nonny. We'll see how it goes. My heart is breaking because I worry I won't see O enough. At the same time, there's a good chance I'll be able to work from home and that would be wonderful -- because then I would be able to see O a lot. Unfortunately, it's not yet possible for me to stay home FT and finding decent PT work is hard!<br><br>
I am blessed to have a good family, loving childcare and a beautiful toddler. So, I'm being thankful for what I do have.<br><br>
Things are looking up. Thank you for your support last month.<br><br>
xoxo,<br>
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I put O in a preschool. She seems to like it. She's verbal enough to tell me stories, which I find comforting. However, my gut says to get her out. A few times I noticed one teacher speaking harshly to a child. One time (today) the teacher was speaking harshly and changed her tone mid sentence when she saw me. Another time, the teacher never saw me and I heard the whole thing. It did not make me feel good about this one teacher.<br><br>
Our regular child care provider had to quit with one day's notice. She had a serious illness in her family. We are using another person -- a neighbor -- and she is so loving and kind. Now, I wonder if O could go there full time and we remove O from the preschool all together.<br><br>
On another note...We're going back and forth on the second baby. In a few mom's groups, I'm one of the few who's not pg. I want to be sure I'm getting pg because I want to and not just because of that normal human herd mentality we all tend to have. I am leaning towards it though!<br><br>
I want to stay home if we have a second baby. We live in such an expensive area though! We'll figure this out somehow.<br><br>
Katie -- You said you are better with babies. That's funny to me, because I think I'm the opposite. I am so good with the preschool age of silliness and so on and not so great with babies. I think it's the constant nursing and not having time even to make myself a sandwich that is hard for me (with babies). Maybe I'd be better at it a second time.
 

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Hey everyone,<br>
It is great how everyone is discussing what aged kids they are better with. I had never thought about it much. But,,, now that I do, I think I LOVE babies. I love the first six months so much. I am awkward sometimes in the 2-4 year old stage. I mean, my patience can be short and I can get tired of that stage quickly. I think I will like school age ( I hope ). I know I will like teen years, which sounds crazy. My DH works at a high school and I seem to have a rapport with these kids. they seek me out to tell me all sorts of their secrets , wishes and dreams. I am pretty mellow and patient with them, I guess. I am not very judgmental, so maybe they sense that. Although I wonder if being with these teenagers at DH's school is way different than having your own teenage who says means things to you and hurts feelings, etc.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"> I am sure the teen years will be hard when they are my own kids that are teenagers. I am excited for it, though. I am a sucker for punishment!!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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I LOVE babies. Also to about the age of 4. Older than that I think I need to work on it. I'd neverget tired of the baby age--I'd just end up with too many big kids .
 

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I remember with Lily I really struggled with parenting during the 2/3/4 stage - particularly since her dad and I were going through a really stressful time in our relationship at that time. My sense with A is that she's just so BORED! I watch her through the windows at the Y and she seems so happy being with everyone. She's not social, per se, but just enjoys being with other people so much and I'm just not enough for her at times.<br><br>
Oh, and I do think each stage is easier the second time, although kids are so different from each other. But, I do remember when A was born I just felt so much SMARTER than I did when L was born, KWIM?
 

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My favorite age is pretty much the toddler age. Right now. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> I just don't feel very confident dealing with babies. I need feedback! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
I really, really want to homeschool -- specifically unschool. DH is not on board. However, he wasn't on board with homebirth or not circ'ing or co-sleeping and he is now. So my plan is to do tons of research and throw things at him until he agrees. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> There's just so much I disagree with as far as formal education goes. I have a friend who just (last week) pulled her kid out of K4 -- interestingly, out of the elementary school *I* attended -- because she couldn't take the constant junk food and the influence of the other kids (her son and other boys would run around pretending to shoot and kill each other). The school also locked her son outside in the first week of school. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:<br><br>
And the kids are four and they're working on colors and one letter a week. Her kid feels super smart now because he always knows the answer, but how long before he's bored because he's not being challenged?<br><br>
The teachers are also unteaching her son things she's teaching him (well, teaching him differently, which confuses and upsets him).<br><br>
Watching her family go through this only solidifies my feelings on the subject.<br><br>
I will admit, though, that Henry is very much a mama's boy who doesn't seem to NEED a great deal of socializing. So it might just be that he's a kid who is well-suited to unschooling/homeschooling, while other kids are not. I don't know.
 

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Oh, and Kate, you asked about naps. Henry hasn't taken a regular nap in months and months. He'll fall asleep in the car when we go out to visit my parents once a week (it's a 45-minute drive one way). VERY occasionally he'll fall asleep during a shorter drive or even more rarely at home while nursing.<br><br>
I really don't encourage him to nap, though, because 1) he is inevitably cranky as all get-out when he wakes up and 2) when he does NOT nap he goes to sleep immediately by 7pm and when he DOES nap it can take him over an hour to settle down.<br><br>
I would have thought I'd miss his naptime, but actually it's much nicer this way. We're not at the mercy of his schedule and I have loads more me-time in the evening.
 

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Thanks for the replies about napping. For those not napping anymore, when do you get your work (housework) done?
 
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