[AngelBee]

As Jesi said in June thread:
This thread is for mamas and papas who "leave it up to God"

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children are "like arrows in the hand of a warrior. ... Happy is the man who has his quiver full of them" (Ps. 127:4, 5, NKJV).

Welcome!

 

[jillybeans]

thanks angela! So have you picked out a name for the new little one yet?

 

[AngelBee]

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Originally Posted by jillybeans thanks angela! So have you picked out a name for the new little one yet?

No...we haven't finalized one yet

Dh and I have a few we like, but can not agree on one

 

[cfiddlinmama]

I'm here! It's so hard to believe it's August!

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[MamaFranklin]

What is everyone doing with the rest of their summer?

 

[Kidzaplenty]

It's not supose to be August yet! It only supose to be spring, with all the flowers blooming and the air is warm....

I must have missed it this year.

'cuz it's HOT here and everything is dry and dying!

Oh, well, life goes on.

 

[bamamom]

we got a minor storm today..but it was a drop in the bucket compared to what we needed!

 

[bamamom]

trying to keep myself from testing

 

[MamaFranklin]

I won't be testing for a long time... with EBFing... AF doesn't return until baby starts solids... and as much as I want a quiverful... I don't want them all right now.

 

[MamaFranklin]

Scroll down on my blog and look at the picture of my husband... he really does look like the "fuzdad" emoticon

 

[Rikki Jean]

I always want to get in on this thread, but I always forget until there are like 2 zillion pages (or maybe just a quiverfull of pages

) and I feel like that's way to late in the game to jump in. So, here I am.

I have a question for everyone here- how do you deal with close friends or family that are whatever the complete opposite of quiverfull is? I guess that's called taking matters into your own hands. Anyway, I'm really having a trial now being loving to my SIL and BIL, because they're very anti having kids anytime soon, if ever. They've only been married for almost a year, so I guess I can almost understand that "not right away" mentality (although I believe it's purely selfish). But the other day, I found out that they had discussed BIL getting a vasectomy- he's only 23! My SIL was also asking me about getting her tubes tied (like if I knew anything about it), and I told her that you have to actually have a baby to do that. She said, "okay, well maybe if I have one or two kids, we'll do it after that".

Sorry, I'm totally venting here. Really, I just need some serious guidance on how to deal with this situation, spirtually and lovingly, you know? I even suggested to them that they chart if they're really that concerned (again, not something I practice or really support, but it's way better than any chemical or barrier form of birth control). BIL thinks that it's stupid and doesn't understand how it can possibly be effective.

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I really just want to show them that God really is in control, and that he loves children, and loves for us to have them! It's so frustrating that people will "let" God be in control of their finances, their everyday lives, and having food on the table, but not human souls!

So, how do you guys deal with these types of situations, without destroying friendships or family ties?

ETA: Sorry for my whining. I have decided that God has had enough of my grumbling, and all I can do is pray for my BIL and SIL to trust Him and allow His will, not theirs, for their family.

 

[judybean]

dang! it's aug 5 and i'm still in denial that august is here!

nak now and the older two are conspiring to do something i'm sure they're not supposed to do

 

[Kidzaplenty]

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So, how do you guys deal with these types of situations, without destroying friendships or family ties?

My situations are a little different, but still have the conflicts.

I have three brothers and two BILs.
My oldest brother abandoned his two children 10 years ago and has just now walked away from his "wife" and her two children (that he was with for 10 years) and is getting married again in October. And he can't understand why we don't really get along!

He thinks children and families are disposeable!

Then my middle brother now has three children and my SIL had her tubes tied so not to have any more accidents (they have 2 girls and a boy, so they have all they want). They think I am crazy, too.

Then my baby brother married a woman older than me that had two children already (nothing wrong with that), however, her oldest one is only 10 years younger than my brother! They now have three children together (which I helped to raise while she was in the military and did not want to get out to care for her children). SIL just retired and is raising my brother and their children (her other children are being raised by her mom). But they, too, think I am crazy because I WANT my children. (By the way, she is very nice, though.)

And my BILs, not to mention my FIL & MIL all think we are crazy too. They think my DH and/or I need to get "fixed" and stop having more babies. After every child they tell us that "this IS the last one, RIGHT!" You would think by now that they would know.

My Mom is not much better, she thinks that I am a failure and have wasted my life.

We deal with these family relationships by just not dealing with them. What I mean is that our QF beliefs and our family size is just one subject that we do not discuss. If it is brought up, we always answer in some cute silly way. Like if they as if we are having another baby we will say something like "well, not today!"

Or if they ask when we are getting "fixed" we answer "We seem to be working fine, can't you tell!"

: That way we keep it light and just don't go into detail. If they insist (which they don't do anymore), we are very blunt and tell them our beliefs and that they don't have to agree.

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At this point we live our life and they live theirs. We don't have a close relationship at this time, but perhaps one day things will change. We do what we have to do and they do what they have to do.

 

[Fruitful4Him]

Hey Everyone,

Finally have enough time to jump in this thread. Our family is QF.. have 4 children who are 7,5,3 and 13 months. Most days I am tired..yet, I cannot imagine doing anything else with my life. It is a good sort of tired.

 

[MamaFranklin]

We aren't quite quiverful... but try to be... but we are UP/UC crazy! So I understand how family/friends can not be so kind... honestly, we just unplug the phone.

 

[trmpetplaya]

Happy August! I can't believe it's August already either...

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love and peace.

 

[happy & blessed]

subbing

 

[jillybeans]

oy august? geeez. This summer is so off for me because it's usually hot and dry, but has been rather mild! Our normal 100 degree days have been around 80! Nothing wrong with that.

My birthday is Friday! I'm going to a local MOPS rummage sale! Woohoo! Saturday I'm running a bunch of stuff to our *small* town's annual garage sale day, so a friend can sell it for me (we're in the boonies!) then I'll be perusing the sales! Saturday night we leave for the airport to fly out to san diego for five days of R &R! It'll be our first big vacation together, and dh's first time on a plane.

Going to Tijuana, the san diego zoo, and some other misc. stuff there. I love SD!

DD is not wanting me to feed her anymore, and wants to do it herself. She already eats so much solids. I am getting rather impatient waiting for af to return.

 

[pfamilygal]

I've been off for a while, but have an question. I am really wanting to be QF but dh wants to wait until Luke is a bit older (around a year or so). We didn't use BC after the girls and conceived when they were around 9-10 mo. So I don't think we'd get pg now anyway. I am still EBF and have spotted randomly a few days, but no real AF yet. And he's only 4 months old.

But last night dh insists on using a condom. It made me so sad. I really had a hard time even enjoying it. Ugh. I know I need to submit, but it just makes me sad.

 

[jillybeans]

That's really hard Tamara, I know. Dh is still on the fence about being qf. Well, sometimes.

I think it is scary for him. Not because he doesn't want a lot of kids, but his concerns have been that he won't have enough love/time for them all(which I think he has overcome now) and that we won't have enough money. We just pray a lot to open our hearts. He knows that no matter how many kids you have, and how much you make, there will never "be enough". But he was raised in the "space two years apart, only have a few kids" mindset (which is odd as he's one of five!)

Do you think that it's fear holding your dh back tamara?