well, just in case, this is what one of the military mamas I know sent me
if she is military, then she needs to get ahold of EFMP. They do have some stuff. There is a support group on post. They have meetings and outings and stuff. They also have a special needs care person thingy that is for military. I believe. I would have to look that information up though. But the EFMP would be able to give her all this information and more.
Here is the link to the EFMP webpage.