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<a href="http://consumerist.com/tag/american-airlines/?i=5019618&t=american-eagle-kicks-autistic-child-and-his-mother-off-plane" target="_blank">Consumerist article</a><br><br>
I saw this and thought of you ladies (and gents) I hate the consumerist, (in general) but I was glad that this got attention and the mama didn't just let it slide.
 

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I saw that <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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disgusting......<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Ugh. That sucks. Also, don't read the comments. That's all I'll say about that.</div>
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Don't read the comments there? This was already posted elsewhere on MDC and I don't recommend reading the comments THERE, either. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/angry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="angry">
 

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I just did. Wow. I do agree, though, that maybe the mom should've brought the boy's car seat, but the FA yelling at him and tugging on his seatbelt like that? That's so mean! I know tight seatbelts are protocol and everything, but it's not right to yell at a two year old, autistic or not.
 

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I have flown a lot with both my kids (most of it when both were two...and both my kids do have special needs, as well as being especially high energy kids). The vast majority of my experiences have been positive. But I can tell you that the minute a flight attendant starts being unfriendly, uptight, anal, or overly-directive, my kids pick up on the flight attendant's tense energy, and it starts a huge cycle that just makes things really bad for everyone. The best thing flight attendants can do is present a relaxed, friendly, helpful attitude that communicates understanding and partnership with parents.<br><br>
As a fairly frequent traveler, experience tells me that getting boarded and settled in, stowing bags, getting seatbelted, and taking off is commonly the most stressful part of travel for all kinds of travelers. And flight attendants (among whom I have a close friend) should keep in mind that the building of stress begins even before boarding...disrupted sleep schedules, waiting in long lines, running late in some cases, trying to find the right gate, etc. etc.<br><br>
Most of us, autistic or not, two years old or not, calm down and settle within 10 or 15 minutes after takeoff. The flight attendant and pilot were really misguided in contributing to the escalation of the situation. And from the standpoint of the child's status as an autistic individual, this is especially bad. I am shaking just reading about it because on any of our trips, I could imagine this having happened to us if someone was so misguided.<br><br>
Traveling is hard on folks. It really is. My parents just returned from a trip to my younger brother's wedding, which they took by plane. My father is a frequent flyer, my mother flies very infrequently because she couldn't even tolerate it back in the days when flying was a better experience. They each posted about flying on their blogs after returning home:<br><br><a href="http://ragtagsf.blogspot.com/2008/06/12-people-big-trouble-part-1.html#links" target="_blank">http://ragtagsf.blogspot.com/2008/06...t-1.html#links</a><br><a href="http://colin-quodlibet.blogspot.com/2008/06/flying-has-gotten-really-bad.html" target="_blank">http://colin-quodlibet.blogspot.com/...eally-bad.html</a><br><br>
I hope the mother continues to use this experience to help raise awareness, and perhaps the rest of us should join her.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I just did. Wow. I do agree, though, that maybe the mom should've brought the boy's car seat.</div>
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My children scream-- SCREAM-- bloody murder in their car seats. They have motion sickness associations with it. And neither can sleep while restrained in a car seat...well, dfd if she is really tired, but not ds...no way. We have learned they do much better flying if we don't use car seats. I think it is too easy for those of us on the outside to assume we know what this mother "should" have done.
 

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oh how awful. that was very poorly handled byt the flight attendant. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/angry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="angry"><br><br>
great posts sierra!
 

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THIS is where I belong. Thank you for your compassion and understanding of this woman and her child. These are the posts I needed to read on this topic.
 

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I'm really sorry that this was posted elsewhere and received a bad response. I don't have children but I read this and thought of all the mamas here that do have children and special needs kids. I though it was good that this mom came forward about the filght attendant. Thats the only way that policies and things are going to get changed.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">My children scream-- SCREAM-- bloody murder in their car seats. They have motion sickness associations with it. And neither can sleep while restrained in a car seat...well, dfd if she is really tired, but not ds...no way. We have learned they do much better flying if we don't use car seats. I think it is too easy for those of us on the outside to assume we know what this mother "should" have done.</div>
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I just meant that if it is something that was familiar to him. If it doesn't work for him, then of course it wouldn't be a good idea, but if he was okay with the car seat and he liked going in the car, then a car seat could've helped in this situation. There wouldn't have been an argument over how tight the seat belt should be and it could have helped to calm him down a little because he had something that he was used to there. I know hindsight is 20/20, especially when that person wasn't in the situation themselves, and I don't know how this particular child feels about his car seat, but it sounded to me that it really could've helped given the circumstances.
 

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acannon, I see your point but just think it is so hard to know anything from our vantage point.<br><br>
Oh, and I liked the comments on the linked site that said something to the effect of, "a two year old is not generally going to be a danger to the safety of a flight." I think it is important to keep it in perspective that this child is still an itty bitty.
 
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