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My six-month old rolled off our bed onto a tile floor last evening <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> (almost 24 hrs. have passed.) She landed on her back and I don't know if she hit her head. She screamed, then cried for about ten minutes or so. I nursed her and she calmed down. She usually falls asleep when she feeds, and she did, but I only let her sleep for about 15 minutes. Afterwards she was normal, but a little groggy, I'm hoping because I woke her when she wanted to be sleeping. For the rest of the evening she was alert and pretty much herself. I let her sleep last night but roused her every so often to make sure she was fine.<br><br>
Today her activity level has been pretty normal but she seems a little subdued. She has been smiling and squealing but she seems to be taking more time to complain than usual and she hasn't babbled today, though she has been making her other usual sounds. I haven't found any bumps on her head, and there are no bruises on her body. But I'm so worried that she has some kind of invisible head injury. My husband thinks she's fine and there's no need to call the doctor or go to the hospital. (He actually rolled off the bed in the very same room at the same age forty years ago!)<br><br>
The horrible thing is that this is the third time she's fallen in the last week. Last Thursday it was from her changing table. I bent down to get something from one of the drawers. She actually fell onto my arms and I nearly caught her, but then she fell to the tile floor. So she actually fell to the floor from about two feet. She seemed to land on her side, but I don't know if her head made impact first. I brought her to the hospital that time, but they found nothing wrong with her. The next day, she managed to escape from her car seat (I didn't buckle her in- I should have known better!) while it was on the floor. I found her lying next to it after hearing a thud and a scream. She only cried for a couple of minutes afterward and had no bumps or bruises so dh and I figured she was fine.<br><br>
I am so angry at myself that I've let all this happen and I'm frightened that I've really hurt her. I've waited until now to post this because I'm so ashamed of what I've done. I'm afraid to take her to the doctor because of how many times she's fallen in the last several days. I'm afraid that they'll want to take her away from me because they'll think incapable of caring for her. (And all my self-doubt makes me wonder if I am!)<br><br>
Right now she is smiling, squealing and cooing. If she were hurt would there be some outward signs?
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">: I get upset when my LO falls off of the bed, too. So far he's done it four times. I've posted a thread on here about it, and lots of other moms do, too, and moms of older children will tell you that they've had it happen lots of times. I'm sure she'll get through it just fine. She's probably forgotten all about it by now. I don't think she's injured at all if she's playing and if you were able to get her calmed down. Babies that are more seriously injured by falls do show outward signs. <a href="http://www.askdrsears.com/html/8/t082300.asp" target="_blank">Here's</a> a list of outward signs to look for. I do empathize with you, though, and you're definitely not a bad mom. You were very loving and caring with her when she was hurt and that made all the difference.
 

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I think sometimes a bunch of thigns will happen in a row. That happened with my ds. He hit his head on the shopping cart handle and I rushed him to the ER. I laugh now because he was perfectly fine practically by the time we got there, but at the time I was very, very worried. And they did in fact question me very hard at the ER regarding what happened. Not long after he hit his head, he slipped in the bathtub, and then I bumped his head on the doorjam in my house. I was feeling the same way as you, but it's really OK. Don't be ashamed! Just be careful! Maybe you could buy some of these to put in areas where your little one plays. <a href="http://www.softnsafe.com/" target="_blank">http://www.softnsafe.com/</a> I've seen them for next to nothing at places like Big Lots and was actually planning on getting some for my ds. Don't feel bad though...it happens....they're tough little creatures <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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It sounds like she is fine mama. I wouldn't worry about it anymore. Just make sure to start taking the necessary precautions for a rolling baby! If you co-sleep, lower your bed to the floor and/or install a bedrail and either start buckling her onto the changing table or stop using it. My son fell off the couch when he was 10 months old and got a huge knot on his forehead. He still has a scar. It happens to the best of us <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I would bet anything that it happens at least once to most people, but it's not something parents go clamoring about b/c there is always someone ready to jump to conclusions.<br><br>
The change of activity can be attributable to many other things and possibly to her not getting to sleep as usual by your arousing her <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> Your LO sounds fine.<br><br>
You're not a bad person or parent; we are only human.<br><br>
I keep a hand on my son at all times when not on the floor. If I cannot get something without being in contact, I pick him up or just leave it be if I don't need it right this minute. I've avoided several falls that way.<br><br>
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<div style="font-style:italic;">Today her activity level has been pretty normal but she seems a little subdued. She has been smiling and squealing but she seems to be taking more time to complain than usual and she hasn't babbled today, though she has been making her other usual sounds.</div>
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Awww Mama...looks like you were blessed with a very active little girl. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><br>
From what you write, it sounds like she is okay. Just love her up and make a mental note of the lessons learned this week...that is the best any of us can do!
 

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<<<<HUGS>>>> You are NOT a bad Mom!!!<br><br>
My kids have been to the ER a couple times each (the older 2) and each time they had to go the accident happened when I was *rightthere* -- and the accidents still happened! In fact, my 2 1/2 yo fell out of her gathering table height kitchen chair last night after dinner. It's so upsetting! But it happens...<br><br>
Keep an eye out for the signs the pp linked you to, but I bet your little darling is AOK.
 

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Is this stuff eco-friendly and safe, i.e. no phthalates etc? I can't seem to find a word on the site about it which usually means main stream manufacturing.<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<div style="font-style:italic;"><a href="http://www.softnsafe.com/" target="_blank">http://www.softnsafe.com/</a></div>
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Thanks mamas for all the reassuring responses. DD is a very active babe and now that she's more mobile than before she's become quite a handful. My dh thinks that she was a little less active yesterday because it's been so hot here (and we don't have AC.) Today she seems a little too calm again, but it's still really hot. My gut feeling is that everything is fine, but I tend to overthink everything so I'm still just a little worried, even though she's not showing any of the signs to look out for listed in the Dr. Sears link.<br><br>
I think one of the things we really need to do is get carpets, not only to soften the hard tile floors a bit, but also because as it is now the only place dd and I can play is on the bed and since she quite the roller it's not the best place anymore. And it'd be nice to be able to put her down for a minute whenever I need to without worrying if she's going to fall or wiggle her way to the floor.
 

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DD rolled off our *very high* bed two days in a row a couple weeks ago. It was awful. When I told my friends, they all had similar stories. (some worse). Don't beat yourself up.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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I think the feelings of shame and fear that we sometimes experience as parents are instinctual. They do help us be careful. But please know that EVERY parent feels that way sometimes. You're not a bad mother.<br><br>
I know Dr Spock is not popular around here, but I'll post this anyway. In the section about baby rolling, he says that once your baby rolls, she'll probably roll off the bed at some point. If she cries then seems OK, don't worry. Just posting this to assure you that it does happen, frequently enough that he mentioned it almost as a rite of passage.
 

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I'll bet she's fine. I also want to add to the pp that it's not unusual for several accidents to happen in a short time especially if she's entering a more mobile stage than you were used to. I wouldn't be afraid to take her in, though, if you're worried. Fear of what might happen with CPS is not more important than getting medical care, if you really think she needs it. I'm sure they would not take her---they might follow up with a couple of visits to your house, if anything. Just tell them the truth so there are no inconsistencies in your story. Clearly you are trying to take care of her, if you bring her in---not even sure she's hurt. I think it's a good idea to invest in some rugs in the areas of the house that are risky, but since you're not used to them being there, be careful not to trip over them and drop her! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue">
 

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Oh mama, it's not your fault. I have weeks like that, too--actually, a couple of weeks ago, in ONE DAY, my DS2 crawled off our bed, landing on his neck/head, and also fell out the back door onto our back steps! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> Those accidents were within a few hours of each other. Both could have been prevented by me, so I felt horrible! But everyone makes mistakes. My DS is fine, and I'm sure your DD is, too. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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Oh, yeah. My little one rolled off the bed a few weeks ago. I felt awful and though the world was going to end. He cried for about 45 seconds and was fine. The next day, I put up a bedrail.<br>
Putting down some soft rugs or carpets does sound like a good idea for you.<br>
Babies get thunked sometimes, and it always sucks, but they're usually okay.<br>
My big paranoia is that I'm going to whack my LO's head on a doorjamb like someone else mentioned. We've had some near misses.
 

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My 4 month old daughter pushed herself off the couch the other day. Landed squarely on her head. She cried for thirty seconds, then nursed and was absolutely fine. I, on the other hand, shook for an hour.
 

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That is so scary.<br><br>
I bought one of these <a href="http://www.snugtuckpillow.com/index.html" target="_blank">http://www.snugtuckpillow.com/index.html</a><br><br>
Solved that problem. They say they now have a 100% organic cotton option.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">That is so scary.<br><br>
I bought one of these <a href="http://www.snugtuckpillow.com/index.html" target="_blank">http://www.snugtuckpillow.com/index.html</a><br><br>
Solved that problem. They say they now have a 100% organic cotton option.</div>
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Those look nice, but I notice on the website they say there's no chance of suffocation but never explain why.<br><br>
Are they really firm or something?
 

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Yes, they are VERY Firm. Also because they move and roll (but not too much) they prevent suffocation that way.<br><br>
I've been very satisfied with mine.
 

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Well, a week has gone by since dd rolled off the bed and she's been acting completely normal so I'm feeling much calmer. She's long forgotten it by now and is back to her spirited, very active self. We'll certainly buy some carpets and I like the idea of that long pillow, though I doubt it's available over here. I'll check the website to see if there's overseas shipping.<br><br>
Thanks everyone for your kind words! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"> I was really beating myself up over this.
 
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