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Babies Can't Tell Time!! Can they??

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My situation:
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I have 9 month old daughters who give me less and less sleep. They had slept until a decent hour in the morning (7) until February, then it started geting earlier and earlier and earlier (6:30, 6, 5:30, 5) until they stuck on 4:45am.

I tried putting them to bed later - still 4:45 am.

Tried putting them to bed earlier - still 4:45 am. Although this way they were getting more sleep at night so there was some advantage.

I was looking forward to daylight savings time thinking that everything would shift forward an hour and they would get up at 5:45. It worked for dd1, but this morning dd2 was up at 4:45!!!!

My questions:
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1) This is really taking it's toll on me as they are also getting up many times during the night and I'm getting 3-5 hours of sleep. Every night before I go to sleep I remind myself to be patient, but I find myself feeling so angry and biting the pillow as a place to put that anger. How can I find peace with the situation and accept my dd's sleeping habits as part of who they are?

2) My dd's were born at 4:45 am (well 4:44 and 4:45) could this waking time have anything to do with it?

3) Any thoughts on how I can get myself to sleep quicker when I go to bed at night and after they awaken? This takes a lot of sleep time away from me.

Hope this makes sense - I haven't had much sleep.
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Well, I don't have any answers for you, but that is very interesting...especially about their birth times. My dd definitely can tell time! She wakes up at 12am...whether we put her to bed at 8,9, 10, or even 11! I don't know what the deal is, but she knows when midnight is!
My question would be when did your babies go to sleep last night and are they getting enough nap time during the day? G is also an early morning riser and when we tried to get him to sleep in later by putting him to bed later, it didn't work. He doesn't have a set wake up time but generally it's between 4 and 5 so I hear your frustration of getting up so early.

As far as getting to sleep. Have you tried going to sleep when they do for a few nights. I do this once in a while so I can get a few extra zzzz's. Maybe set up a bedtime routine for yourself- drink a cup of hot tea then off to bed. When you get there, read a really boring book or work on some puzzles in bed. If your babes are in your room, you can use one of those itty bitty book lights. This usually works to put me to sleep. If that won't work for you- tr doing really deep breathing once you are in bed. Focus on feeling your body relax and DO NOT THINK about anything else- just relaxing and breathing.

I think the time thing, while interesting, is just a coincidence
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Hmmm. My twins can definately tell time too: 11 pm (time to nurse); 1:00 am (time to nurse), 3:30 am (time to nurse) 4:45 am (time to nurse) -- and this is after they've already been nightweaned for two months! They still wake at basically exactly the same times as always!!

I feel your pain about lack of sleep, but it does get better. I think you may have to adjust your bedtime too and just go to bed as early as possible after they do. And catch up on sleep whenever else possible. (I know, easier said than done.)

My MIL had four kids and she said her first one, her dd, woke at 5 am and there was nothing she could do to change it. (And my MIL was a bigtime baby trainer in all respects.) You may just have two earlybirds. (Though the birthtime thing is very interesting . . . )

Regarding getting back to sleep faster, sorry I didn't see your sig: are you co-sleeping, nursing? I know for me personally, it really helped having NO light on at night. If I do everything in pitch darkness, I go back to sleep faster.

Hang in there.
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I have often wondered about the birth time affecting the wake time. My ds was born at 3:20am and it seem like he has always gotten up near that time every night.
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Originally Posted by royaloakmi

My MIL had four kids and she said her first one, her dd, woke at 5 am and there was nothing she could do to change it. (And my MIL was a bigtime baby trainer in all respects.) You may just have two earlybirds. (Though the birthtime thing is very interesting . . . )

Regarding getting back to sleep faster, sorry I didn't see your sig: are you co-sleeping, nursing? I know for me personally, it really helped having NO light on at night. If I do everything in pitch darkness, I go back to sleep faster.

Hang in there.
After a total elimination diet not working for dd's allergies, they are now on neocate (elemental) formula
. One dd sleeps in the room next door and the other dd sleeps in a co-sleeper in the room with me (gonna have to figure out something else when she starts crawling) because they wake each other up. Dh sleeps elsewhere so he couldn't stay with dd2 when I leave the room to be with dd1.

I keep all the lights off except for a small nightlight in the bathroom and can do everything in the mostly-dark unless there is a poopy diaper
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I guess it just astounds me that even with daylight savings time they still got up at the same clock time!!!
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I recently read that babies work on their own internal clock and that often they have a 'set' time to wake up, regardless of when they go to bed. So, moving up or delaying bedtime doesn't make much impact. I also heard that exposure to morning sunlight has a lot to do with it, but my dd doesn't seem affected by the light - actually, she seems to sleep the hardest in the late morning hours. Dh and I are both night-owls, so maybe it's in her genes =) If your child was sensitive to the light, maybe room darkening shades?

ellacy
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