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Can anyone stand another message from me, today? (Who is this crazy newcomer, anyway? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/duck.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Duck">: )<br><br>
Maybe I'm just determined to be stressed about something today...or perhaps I'm avoiding larger issues... In either case, it just occurred to me that we may have a potential birthday buster on our hands.<br><br>
DD1 was 8 weeks premature and her birthday is on November 7. The entire family and birthing team worked our tales off to get to 37 weeks, 4 days with DD2. We had a beautiful home birth on December 2.<br><br>
My EDD, 40 weeks--which I can't imagine ever getting to, is 11/25!<br><br>
Anyone else see a potential conflict of interest here?<br><br>
Stop laughing!<br><br>
Anyone else been in this position before? Any tips for keeping the birthdays special?<br><br>
We may be moving out of state in Aug or Sept for a one-year assignment and then returning in summer 2008. We won't find out if or even where until...well...Aug or Sept. (Ahh...there's that elusive larger issue...)<br><br>
I'm not even sure what we're going to do about our birth team, let alone having family, friends and kids' friends to help with general stuff and the birthdays.<br><br>
Our extended family has been painfully unreliable about practical support after the births of our children. In all fairness, it has a lot to do with distance and work, etc. I just wish they wouldn't offer at all rather than neglect to follow through at the last minute...but that's another rant.<br><br>
Sorry for being so long-winded. Just need to vent and ask for some advice, etc. Thanks for "listening."
 

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I have all birthdays in July and Aug and it's tough. I have NO advice, because I am REALLY bad at birthdays -- even if they WERE separated out, I would still be bad. Sorry. Bummer..
 

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My DD's share the birthday of 11/28.....We keep it special for each of them by letting them pick their own birthday stuff and cake and if they dont agree we woudl get seperate things just on a smaller level....we sing Happy Birthday seperately and make sure they get seperate gifts....I think all in all though they will come to view their birthday as special because its SHARED between the two of them and hopefully will get to where its not seperate at all.
 

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My DS was born Nov. 19th and this baby is due Nov. 6th. I guess there is always the possibility that this babe could come late and have a birthday really close to Gabriel's. I went 9 days early with him and DD was born on her due date.<br><br>
This could be very interesting!
 

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In my family, my Dad's bday is December 25 (and yes, we're Christian, we celebrated Christmas), my brothers is December 30, my mom's is Jan 12 and mine is Feb 6...oh and James is Jan 30. LOL we just have LOTS of cake over that 1.5 months or so.<br><br>
Just make each celebration their own. I'm sure people will pressure you to combine but personally, I wouldn't. My MIL does that with 4 of her kids, one is late Feb, one mid March so she has a combined party the first weekend in March. Then she has 2 in October and has a combined party for them.<br><br>
Have them on seperate weekends, even if you take up every weekend in November (LOL) let them have their own decorations, their own 'theme' their own party...make it special for all of them. It will mean a zillion times more work....but ya know.<br><br>
But I guess if your kids are agreeable you can pick a central weekend and have 'Birthday Weekend' and have a gigantic party for all of them. 3 cakes, 3 happy birthday songs, 3 blowing of the candles...and presents for all. That would help financially cuz you could do fancy stuff if you're into that, like a horse party or something, where you get a horse and let all the party goers ride horses. GL!
 

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Thanks for all the good advice!<br><br>
I should clarify that I'm not really worried about future years...just THIS one! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
I'm worried about making dd1's birthday special when I'm about to or just have given birth and making dd2's birthday special when I'm a few days to a few weeks postpartum!<br><br>
Especially if we end up being in a strange place with no support system or community...
 

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No advice here as I am worried too! My DS was born on November 22nd the year before last. These two babies will be close together in birthday and age. if this is a boy, I have a feeling they will be sharing a party! Maybe that will be more special though. My birthday is Dec 18th and it has always been something everyone forgets and so I rather it just be me and Hubby and the kids, so I tell few people. It is very personal to me. So birthdays and odd to me anyway.<br><br>
I wish you the best of luck!
 

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LOL, okay for THIS year I'd delegate the birthday planning for both parties to DH. Instruct him to get the cakes and stuff (store bought if necessary). Buy the presents now (or at least prior to the 'I'm too huge to do anything' stage), wrap them, whole 9 yards so you don't have to monkey with it then. Just make it simple this year. Make it special, go to or order in their favorite resturant. Have supper, cake, open presents.<br><br>
Good luck!
 

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we have huge cluster bdays in our house,, just under our roof nov 25 (me), Dec 1st (Ds 1) Dec 21st (DS 2) , just for fun my MIL's is Dec 27th and my nephew is Nov 13th.. not that there isn't thanksgiving and Christmas thrown in there just for fun!!! I feel your pain, technically, I am due nov 7th but both my boys were a confirmed full 42 weekers, so who knows!<br><br>
I remember throwing DS1's 10th bday huge and PG and miserable on Dec 8th that yr (my technical DD was dec 7th) 15 ten yr old WILD boys going crazy, it was crazy!! actually , I think it will be MUCH harder this yr with a NB and trying to do two bdays and TG and xmas, I think I'm gonna take a free pass on the holiday cooking this yr (again!)<br><br>
good luck, I'm sure we will all figure it out!<br>
LAura
 
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