[beru]

First, some background: I slept with my baby until she was about 6 months old (separate from my husband). But the older she got the more she wanted to nurse. I can't nurse and sleep at the same time, so I put limits on it. When I refuse, however, she won't sleep. She will fuss and complain. My husband has slept with her a couple of times without me and she sleeps great like that. However, I don't like it because my husband has a CPAP machine for apnea and he is very heavy. I am worried about the safety. She now usually sleeps in her crib, which doesn't fit in our room. Our bedrooms are tiny. I don't like her sleeping alone. She has a hard time falling asleep in the crib and when she wakes up at night, she wants to see us (she averages 2 wakings per night).<br><br>
Here's my question. Her 4 year old brother loves her and we have told him that when the baby is older, they will share a room. He has told me outright that he wants her in his room now. My baby girl is 9 months old. (She is a big strong girl but not at all verbal.) Do you think that's too young for them to sleep together. I was thinking of putting the mattress on the floor and putting a gate in the doorway that my son can get over to go to the bathroom. I may have to wait a little longer to be comfortable with it but I did want soem input.

 

[angela&avery]

Well I think it depends on a lot of things.. if the room is kid safe, if the babe is ready for that.... only you know, based on maturity, etc...<br><br><br>
Most people think its crazy, but I put my 13 mo old in his own bed in his own room across the hall from us.... he was just too big for the crib and slept very well on his own (our movements always made him restless)... We put it against the wall with a bed rail and a body pillow so he wouldnt fall out.<br><br>
He was ready and did great!!

 

[mommy2abigail]

JMHO, but I would be fine with that. I would do it with my two now, who are 3 and 5 months. My 5 month old is VERY mobile, and I trust that if someone rolled over her she would let everyone know.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"> Only you know your kids and how deeply they sleep and how mobile/vocal they are though.

 

[BathrobeGoddess]

If they are sleeping in the same bed then I would say no it isn't safe. I don't think its really safe to put an older toddler shild with a child under 1 1/2 years or so, not just because they can trap the baby against a wall or something but because toddlers a generally a bit rough with babies. Toddlers and infants shouldn't really be left alone at any time. However, if you are going to have them share a room, in different beds, I don't see why that wouldn't work! Good luck!