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This thread is for anyone who has had a baby after a loss or losses. Here we are~~<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/thumbsuck.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Thumbsuck"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/bf.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="bf">:<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/fly-by-nursing2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Fly By Nursing2"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/fly-by-nursing1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Fly By Nursing1"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/bfolderchild.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="bfkid">:<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/femalesling.GIF" style="border:0px solid;" title="Femalesling">::2b fbabe:<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/bftoddler.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="bftoddler">:<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/aabfwoman.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="aabf"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/babyboy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Babyboy">:<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/babygirl.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Babygirl">:<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/slingboy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Slingboy">::s linggirl<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/boc.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Boc"><br><br>
5thAttempt and Nathaniel. Mom to 2 boys and 5 angels.<br><br>
Adensmommy (Brandy) and Landon And Aden Allen 3/8/06<br><br>
Anakna4. Mom to Isaac, Ivy, Emma,Anna 11/04, angel 7/05.<br><br>
Ben's Mommy (Sandy) and Morgan; mommy to Benjamin (July 5-7, 2005) and Morgan (March 10, 2007)<br><br>
BethanyB (Brooke) and Payton. Mom to angel Quinn 10/14-10/15/05 and angel 2/06.<br><br>
columbusmomma and Alina; Momma to Jacob(5/02) and angel (9/06)and Alina Rose(7/07)<br><br>
egoldber(Beth) and Amy. Mom to Sarah (5), angel Leah (4/22 - 5/1/05), and Amy.<br><br>
Katana (Alison) and Hailey. Mom to Hailey (5/06), dd1 (10/00), ds (3/99) and 3 angels.<br><br>
Kahaoskat and DS1 - 4/03, DS2 3/05, DD2 10/07, Isabella 10/12/06 Full term still birth, and MC - 5/5/04<br><br>
Kristeremy (Kristen) and Little Man, Mama to 3yo dd & (9/05 & 5/06).<br><br>
Kwren23 (karen) and Zoe. Mom to Alexander 8/94 and Zoe 6/05 and angel 9/11/01 and angel 11/15/02.<br><br>
Len (elena) and Mateo. Mom to Diego (07/99),angel Victor (13/05 - 19/05/05) and Mateo (12/06).<br><br>
littleteapot (Babs) and xan. Mom to Tempest (3.5), Xan (oct 3rd '06) and angel Jericho (born and died Nov 1st '05).<br><br>
lolar2 -DS is Sam, 8 months old. I had a daughter stillborn in August '05.<br><br><br>
Mearaina and Lyni. Mom to M (6/02), R (6/04), angel (6/05), L (6/06) and E (8/07).<br><br>
Mirandahope, Boots' mama (April 17, 2006) , and mother to angel Heather (lost October 4, 2003).<br><br>
Naughty Dingo (Erika) and Athena. Mom to 3 girls and 3 angels.<br><br>
NWt Mamaand Jorga. Mama to Jorga and one angel.<br><br>
Patti Ann (Patti) and Gabriel Griffin. Mom to five great kids-Kelsy 9, Connor 6, Fiona 4, angel Griffin Patrick 9/24/05 and Gabriel Griffin 10/2/06.<br><br>
party_of_seven: mom to DD(9), DS(7), DD(6), DS(4), and DD Reagan Makenna(two weeks), and 2 angels (4/06 and 7/06)<br><br>
Pottermama - Owen is 6, Alyx is 3 and I had Lilah on 9/27/07. Also mama to 3 angels.<br><br>
silverspook - beautiful boy named Eli on 12/21/06 and a m/c in 12/05 beautiful boy named Eli on 12/21/06<br><br>
stayseeliz -Mama to DS (6), DD (3) and DD (born 10/07)<br><br>
taradt (tara) and Kienan. Mom to Cailyn, Kienan, and 3 angels (Faolan, Keena and baby).<br><br>
thalia and lucia juliana 8/2007 and "little turtle" May 2006<br><br>
theboysmama (Nicole) and Cyrus. Mom to 3 boys and 2 angels.<br><br>
Summerland, ds 4, dd Sep. 06, and three angels.<br><br>
kaspar, ds 11 weeks, and one angel.<br><br>
Butterfly_mom-(Liz). Mom to Ethan (5), angel Bailee, born silently at 39W6D, and Erin (9 months).<br><br>
I dug up our group list. If you want to be added/ removed/ or you want to change something let me know and i will take care of it.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/partytime.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="partytime"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/birthday.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="birthday">:Also HAPPY BIRTHDAY to our December babies<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/birthday.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="birthday">:<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/partytime.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="partytime"><br>
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I know it has been slow lately as everyone is so busy but I want to keep this thread going as I needed it so much when cyrus was little. It is December already and TODAY is cyrus Birthday!!!!!!! I can't believe it.<br>
I am trying to put him down for a nap so that i can make his cake. we'll see how a dairy free, soy free, gluten free, egg free, nut free, cake tastes.<br><br>
HAPPY BIRTHDAY CYRUS!!!!!!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/birthday.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="birthday">:<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/partytime.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="partytime">
 

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Add me please..<br>
DS1 - 4/03<br>
MC - 5/5/04<br>
DS2 3/05<br>
Isabella 10/12/06 - full term stillbirth<br>
DD2 10/07<br><br>
As for me, I am not in a good place right now, and I think I am about the only one from PAL graduates who seems to be loosing it.<br><br>
I keep calling DD2 Isabella.<br><br>
I keep thinking Isabella would be a year old right now, and be doing x, y and z.<br><br>
We just found out or daughter has hip dysplasia and I am upset, because when I had her 6 1/2 weeks ago, I was so thrilled to have another little girl to dress up like I have wanted to do for 4 1/2 years now (since I had DS1). But the first few weeks of DD2's life I spent changing clothes every feeding due to happy spitter/reflux - now I am down to about 2 changes a day. And now with this, if she goes in the harness I still don't get to dress my little angel in cute little clothes..which is hurting me.<br><br>
I am really starting to feel a bit depressed and upset over everything of the past 7 - 8 weeks.
 

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khaoskat - I added your info. I am so sorry that you are having a hard time. I started this thread when cyrus was a month or so old bcs i was having a really hard time also. You are not alone. I found that even though I was holding this beautiful healthy baby I kept thinking that I should have a child that is x old or that is already doing x, etc. I also got really depressed. I don't know if you saved your placenta but I took mine after a while bcs the depression was getting so bad. PM me if you want for info.<br>
Sorry that you are not getting to dress dd like you would like w/ the spitting up and the harness. Maybe you could buy lots of cute dresses or tops with a cute pair of baby legs and dress her in those until she doesn't have to be in the harness anymore. Of course there are always bows for her head (even if they have to be attached w/ something sticky).<br>
Hang in there mama and know that you are not alone.<br><br>
Cyrus's party was yesterday and it was crazy. I only invited 4 families but we all have a lot of kids so there were 27 people in my 14oo sq ft home <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">: Since it was a baby party I lined up 5 high chairs for the babies (since i have the equipment co. I have plenty of baby stuff) It was great.
 

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What?! It's December!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">: Oh were has the time gone.....<br><br>
Nicole ~ Thanks for starting the new thread (and on time at that!!)! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> Now how in the heck did Cyrus turn 1 already?! Did the cake turn out yummy?? I'm glad you had a great time with a full house. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"><br><br>
khaoskat ~ Welcome! I'm so sorry everything seems so blue right now. It must be so hard when you can't dress your little angel in her pretty outfits. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br><br>
moma justice ~ Welcome mama! It sounds like you have your hands full and are taking everything in strides. I too am pondering family size... it's a tough choice.<br><br>
Viki ~ I'm glad Ewan is cooperating and letting you get some time with your arms free. That's great that you can be there for your mom and look after her. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> My dh and I both have 2 other siblings, so 3 total. I think that's the number we'll go for too... although I'll have 4 kids but raising 3.<br><br><br>
I pm'd Brooke a while back and she recently responded. She doesn't frequent MDC much anymore but she wanted me to say hi to everyone for her. Hopefully she'll be back when she feels up to it. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/heartbeat.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="heartbeat"><br><br>
Stomach growling now.... need to find something to eat while Morgan is napping...
 

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I don't know if you saved your placenta but I took mine after a while bcs the depression was getting so bad. PM me if you want for info.<br></div>
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No, I wasn't able to save my placenta. We ended up with an ugent c/s because baby turned transverse during the middle of delivery. I think had she not stuck her hand out of the uterus into the birth canal and out of my body she probably would have continued to turn heads down. Which then ment, since there was no means of turning her, we had to have a c/s.<br><br>
Which is another thing I am upset over --- I am comfortable with the decision to have the c/s because I know it was necessary...but it doesn't mean that I have to "like", "love" or "embrace" my c/s and what it means for future pregnancies or how my recovery has been.<br><br>
I think we might do a bit further research into her hip issue and possibly get a second opinion. We called the place we are supposed to go on Wedensday to find out what that apt is about..and we got nothing but a vague answer about review and exam and possibley start treatment. We tried to find out if they started treatment what we should bring (ie should we switch her out of the infant carrier, because she has almost outgrown it and there is not really any room for her legs to be spread open; should we bring spare clothes to put over (or under) the harness and what do you recommend).<br><br>
We don't have that tiny 6-7 pound baby at birth. Right now our daughter is the average weight and height of a 3-4 month old. So, since we got basically no answers, I am just going to go up with her dressed in what she normally wears now (several cute footed play outfits I have purchased that are a heavier fleece like fabric) and in her normal carseat.<br><br>
I cannot believe that she is almost out of her carseat size wise. We purposely purchased a new infant carseat with a higher height limit because our boys outgrew the old one by 3-4 months of age. We never considered her outgrowing it weight wise by or before then as well. It really looks like she might outgrow it weight soon. She is gaining like 10 ounces a week (on average the last time I weighed her). If she kept/keeps that pattern up, she is only go about another 6 - 8 weeks before she is getting close to the upper weight limit of the infant carseat.
 

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Hi, I guess I belong here! I had a m/c in 12/05 and I had a beautiful boy named Eli on 12/21/06!
 

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i just have a second - but - happy birthday baby cyrus! i can't believe it, nicole! how did that happen...<br>
love to everyone.<br>
i am a little swamped - moving to the west coast again, it's bittersweet. boone grows like a weed and is so damn pleasant that sometimes mamas give me that look of, "whatever, easy baby. no fair." i don't mention the fact that dd woke up at least every two hours at least for three years. i just let them bask in all my cake walk glory. life is good. i've been a little blue at times too. trying to really watch my nutrition (not easy on the gluten free, egg free train, huh nicole?) and trying out raw dairy. i think sometimes a new baby just reminds you of the weight of the world. i think i'm also realizing how traumatic some of dd's babyhood was. i tried so hard to just be grateful that she ONLY had eczema that i never really felt (for me or for her) how difficult it really was. i sometimes wake in the night as boone roots around to nurse holding his tiny hands as if to stop him from scratching.<br>
have i said all this before?<br>
but mostly i am good.<br>
and i think about you all often.<br>
more later.<br>
and love,<br>
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DS1 - 4/03<br>
MC - 5/5/04<br>
DS2 3/05<br>
Isabella 10/12/06 - full term stillbirth<br>
DD2 10/07<br><br>
As for me, I am not in a good place right now, and I think I am about the only one from PAL graduates who seems to be loosing it.<br><br>
I keep calling DD2 Isabella.<br><br>
I keep thinking Isabella would be a year old right now, and be doing x, y and z.<br><br>
We just found out or daughter has hip dysplasia and I am upset, because when I had her 6 1/2 weeks ago, I was so thrilled to have another little girl to dress up like I have wanted to do for 4 1/2 years now (since I had DS1). But the first few weeks of DD2's life I spent changing clothes every feeding due to happy spitter/reflux - now I am down to about 2 changes a day. And now with this, if she goes in the harness I still don't get to dress my little angel in cute little clothes..which is hurting me.<br><br>
I am really starting to feel a bit depressed and upset over everything of the past 7 - 8 weeks.</div>
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Sorry, I couldn't read what you wrote without posting to give you a <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br><br>
I'm so so sorry that you are struggling right now.<br><br><br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wave.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wave">: everyone I'm sorry I have been MIA. Life is so busy around here with the new babe. She is a blessing though....so so sweet.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> to all of you.
 

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I guess I should join too! I had DD2 Joanna on 10/11. She is such a sweet baby and we're really enjoying her. She has her days and nights mixed up though and I'm soooooooo very tired. She doesn't go to sleep until around 2-3am. I'm just wiped out. And the whole "sleep when the baby sleeps" doesn't work if you have other kids.<br><br>
Melissa, I'm so sorry about the hips problems. You're not the only recent PAL grad losing it. I'm not struggling with health problems with DD but I'm so tired I can hardly think straight. It's starting to affect my mental health. Not good..Hang in there, hon! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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stayseeliz - let me know what you want to add and i will put you on our front post.<br><br>
the cake didn't turn out too bad. We made one w/ wheat flower as well and it was a bit better. I have allergies to dairy, soy, red meat, peanuts and corn syrup. Ds1 is allergic to dairy and ds2 is allergic to egg (i have never given him dairy). We are very careful about the foods that we introduce so cyrus has not had any of the top 8 allergins yet so gluten is out.<br><br>
Welcome to the new mamas. For those of you having a hard time hang in there. Our body/minds play tricks on us. We think we will be so excited about having the healthy baby then we freak out bcs it brings up everything we are missing w/ our lost little ones.<br><br>
mr fussy pants needs me (ALWAYS) so i gotta go.<br>
will post more later
 

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My dad died. I still can't quite believe it. He was wonderful. He was in so much pain towards then end, but he never complained.<br><br>
The kids are good.<br><br>
Will try to keep up better
 

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Kristen ~ I am so very sorry. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> You are in my thoughts and prayers mama.
 

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Could you add me please? Owen is 6, Alyx is 3 and I had Lilah on 9/27/07. Also mama to 3 angels. I will post more later trying to keep up with dc. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">:
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">For those of you having a hard time hang in there. Our body/minds play tricks on us. We think we will be so excited about having the healthy baby then we freak out bcs it brings up everything we are missing w/ our lost little ones.</div>
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Nicole ~ I'm glad your cake turned out good. I can't imagine how hard that must be to keep track of all those allergies! We don't have any history of allergies in our family so I hope Morgan will be in the clear.<br><br>
stayseeliz ~ Welcome mama!! Sorry about your sweet little mixed up baby. Morgan did that to me a little bit in the beginning. I was SO glad when she decided to sleep at night!!<br><br>
PO7 ~ Glad to see you still around! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/heartbeat.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="heartbeat"><br><br>
aileen ~ How awesome. Easy baby. I think Morgan is pretty darn easy. I'll be in for a rude awakening with my next kiddo I'm sure. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
silverspook ~ Welcome mama! Any big b-day plans for Eli?<br><br>
khaoskat ~ <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">'s C/S's just suck. Necessary or not, they suck. You by no means have to love, like or embrace it. You can do that with your baby! I'm sorry your birth wasn't picture perfect. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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Heather ~ <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wave.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wave"> Hey there girl!<br><br>
I love that this thread is picking back up again!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/jumpers.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="jumpers">:
 

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Can you add me? I've posted on MDC plenty, and here once or twice but I figure I might as well get on the roster even if I don't post here a lot. My living DS is Sam, 8 months old. I had a daughter stillborn in August '05.<br><br>
I have a question for those of you who have had high-risk pregnancies after having a living child-- what do you tell the older sibling? Seems like most of the "baby on the way" books and advice just assume that there will, in fact, be a baby. We're not TTC yet (and if we were, DS would be too young to be told anything at all) but I have been curious about this.
 

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Kristen - <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2"> I am sorry to hear your dad lost his fight.
 

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kristin - so sorry about your dad. My mom died when i was 19 and it was really hard. hang in there<br><br>
sandy - how is your house coming along?<br><br>
ok i have added pottermama and lolar2.<br><br>
cyrus is nursing quite a bit since he turned 1. i was joking that since he is 1 someone sent him the memo that he would be weaned. i keep telling him that he has 2+ years left of nursing. ds2 just weaned in oct. Cyrus is still nursing lots at night and no af yet for me. nak<br><br>
hope everyone is well.
 

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Not too picky- Mama to DS (6), DD (3) and DD (born 10/07)<br><br>
Kristen-So sorry to hear about your dad!
 
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