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After fighting it for oh, about 9 months, we finally gave in and bought a crib today.<br><br>
I must say, I absolutely despise cribs. The sight of one makes me nauseous. We had so many other plans.
<ul><li>First, buy a King. No dice - I would definitely smother the tiny thing or kick the baby out. Sleeping with me is like sleeping with a toddler. Only bigger.</li>
<li>Then, DH was going to build a little baby bed. We decided this was pointless, as it would be so small it wouldn't last very long, and we worried about climbing-out babies at naptime.</li>
<li>Recently we decided we would buy a bouncing baby hammock thingie to hang from the ceiling. However, after further investigation, we found lots of parents having trouble with "bounce-dependent" kids who could absolutely not find sleep without some sort of bouncing sensation.</li>
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Tired of all the research and knowing we just needed to get something, we threw in the towel today - and just bought a plain ol' crib and a plain ol' mattress (which we're wrapping to keep the scary nasties at bay). Took the front off of it, and side-carred it to the bed. This mama will still be co-sleeping and rolling over for easy boobie access, but the crib will protect the babe from the horrors of me and my flailing appendages.<br><br>
It's a good feeling to have <i>one thing</i> checked off the list, but it sure as heck is hideous looking in there. Maybe I'll grow accustomed to it. Maybe.
 

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I used to think cribs were great. we bought a cool black one the first time around and never ended up using it. Now I don't think they are so great. But I will tell you this. There are pros to crib sleeping and occasionally I wish my son slept in one. Sometimes it just works best for the family and if that is the case..so be it.
 

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I did the same thing with my ds crib....<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue">
 

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we actually end up using a crib eventually. i like them because of the "you know they are in a safe place" factor.<br><br>
each of my kids fell off the bed at some point in their first 6 mo and that is SOOOO scary IMO. so, we had to stop naps in our bed and move them to the crib. at least there i would know they weren't going to fall to the floor while they slept.<br><br>
the only way i can keep my 2.5 yr old napping for 3 hrs a day at this point is by using the crib LOL. otherwise she'd be all over the room and would never sleep and would be soooo mean and cranky. good thing she likes the thing, right <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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We did the same thing. DS never slept in it. When he was itty he would only sleep right up against me. Apparently my body/brain knew that my sleep depended on staying still and not flailing because I went from an abusive sleeper to someone who doesn't move AT ALL when sleeping as soon as DS was born.<br><br>
Hopefully it works out better for you than it did for us <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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i honestly think that we would not have gotten one if my brother didn't offer his up.<br><br>
currently, it's a storage container in the baby's room... which will just be a place to chill (glider, changing table, and dresser) rather than actually being where baby sleeps.<br><br>
we have a bassinet for naptimes right now. when baby outgrows that, we'll probably actually buy a mattress for the crib if only for naptimes.
 

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Your baby may surprise you. My ds hated the crib, but my dd loved it. She would play in it happily for up to a half hour or more after waking once she got old enough to sit up and reach for things. (I would stock her crib with a few toys and board books once I caught on to what she wanted to do.) It was fun to hear her babbling and giggling to herself over the monitor. She's still the kind of person who needs her "alone time" -- just like her mom! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"> When ds was on the way and it was time to transition her to a "big kid" bed, she took a long time to want to give up the crib. She liked playing on her new bed, but when it came time to sleep, she wanted to be in that crib. Had I known how much ds would NOT like it, I would have just let her keep it! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
Just remember that a crib is just a piece of furniture. It's not bad in and of itself -- it all depends on how you use it. It may look like a cage to you, but your child won't see it that way unless he experiences imprisonment there against his will. (Doesn't sound like your babe will have that problem. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> )
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">We did the same thing. DS never slept in it. When he was itty he would only sleep right up against me. Apparently my body/brain knew that my sleep depended on staying still and not flailing because I went from an abusive sleeper to someone who doesn't move AT ALL when sleeping as soon as DS was born.<br><br>
Hopefully it works out better for you than it did for us <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"></div>
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I also went from being a crasy sleeper to being perfectly still. I could sleep in one position all night when ds was first born. Before then i sort of slept ninty different ways across the bed but mostly diagonal. Ds would not sleep at all in a crib or bassinet, so having him right next to me was the only choice and i had to learn to adapt quick. otherwise i never would have slept. i can't say as i was fully asleep because i woke up everytime he moved but i was never really tired in the morning. i think i got way more sleep that the mothers i know who had their babies in a crib and got up to feed them in the middle of the night. I think all babies are different and parents have to end up finding out what works for them...but it is usually after the baby comes. some many of our plans changed as soon as the baby got here...haha
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Your baby may surprise you. My ds hated the crib, but my dd loved it. She would play in it happily for up to a half hour or more after waking once she got old enough to sit up and reach for things. (I would stock her crib with a few toys and board books once I caught on to what she wanted to do.) It was fun to hear her babbling and giggling to herself over the monitor. She's still the kind of person who needs her "alone time" -- just like her mom! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"> When ds was on the way and it was time to transition her to a "big kid" bed, she took a long time to want to give up the crib. She liked playing on her new bed, but when it came time to sleep, she wanted to be in that crib. Had I known how much ds would NOT like it, I would have just let her keep it! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
Just remember that a crib is just a piece of furniture. It's not bad in and of itself -- it all depends on how you use it. It may look like a cage to you, but your child won't see it that way unless he experiences imprisonment there against his will. (Doesn't sound like your babe will have that problem. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> )</div>
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No in your DDC, but<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/yeahthat.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="yeah that">: .<br><br>
DD despised the crib. MIL insisted on buying it for us before her birth as the inlaws baby gift to us. DD was never as happy as the day we disassembled it. We kept it in our closet b/c of guilt. Just before DS's birth I contemplated selling it. Well, good thing I didn't. He loves it. He needs his space. He still sleeps with us at night once we go to bed, but his crib is his kingdom at nap and bedtime,<br><br>
Plus, it kept DD off of him when we were first getting used to our new family unit (ie, when she had to be on top of him).
 

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I'll admit that we used a crib almost from the beginning with DS, and plan to do so again with this one. Better write the rest of the post quick before I'm banned. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/bag.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Bag">:<br><br>
Gorgeous, they ain't, gotta agree with you there. But our DS LOVED his crib, so much that we didn't transition him to a big kid bed until he was 3, and only then because I'm pregnant and we didn't want DD to be what kicked him out. And now he loves his "real" bed, spends hours playing there, plans sleepovers so his friends can share his joy (these have not actually occurred yet, much to his distress <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> ), and CAN'T WAIT until his little baby sister can share his room with him... I'm aware that this last one may change about 3 seconds after said little sister arrives in the world.<br><br>
Anyway, he got me to the point of looking fondly at the crib, bars and all. After all, it's just one possible place to get a good night's (or, let's be honest here, 2 hours) sleep, not baby jail. You might just develop a fondness for it after all.<br><br>
And if not, they hold all the unfolded laundry really well.
 

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Just remember that a crib is just a piece of furniture. It's not bad in and of itself -- it all depends on how you use it. It may look like a cage to you, but your child won't see it that way unless he experiences imprisonment there against his will. (Doesn't sound like your babe will have that problem. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> )</div>
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Totally agree here! We were 100% co-sleepers until DD turned about 6 months old. At that time, none of us (DH, DD, or I) were sleeping well because she was all over the place. We gently transitioned her to a crib and she still sleeps there HAPPILY at 2.5. Like Stephanie said, it's all in your approach to it. I have never thought of it as a prison for her - it's just her bed (that happens to have rails around it! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> ).<br><br>
BTW, I think side-carring it sounds like a great solution for you guys! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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We did sidecar our crib at one point. But mostly the crib became a huge laundry basket<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> I wonder what this second kiddo has in store for me. Right now he is in our bed and sometimes the Amby Hammock.
 

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I love our wonderful crib. It is GREAT for holding toys and stuffed animals:) DS never spent a night there.<br><br>
We used a moses basket next to the bed for the first few months, I was really freaked out about sleeping with an infant. But, when his legs started hanging over the basket we started co-sleeping.<br><br>
I did occassionally put the basket in the crib for naps though....just to have a safe spot for him away from the pets.
 

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We also did the the side car method as our bed is too small for all of us. I actually have high hopes that it works out well! Good luck mama!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> I hope that it works out for you as well! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I love hearing all these stories of real-life usage of cribs! Thank you so much for sharing them.<br><br>
Whether or not it came out in my first post, our attitude is pretty much the same as others who posted - baby may love it, baby may hate it. Whatever baby decides, we'll figure out how to work with it. It just seemed the safest route for us, especially at naptime. (I kept asking ladies at my LLL what they do at naptime, and putting pillows on either side of the baby just didn't sound very secure to me.)<br><br>
After about three hours (literally) of trying different furniture arrangements, we finally made the side-car thing work in our bedroom. Now I'm just waiting for the mattress to "air" before I put the fancy cot-death-saving cover on and make it. It just looks so sad in there with no sheets.<br><br>
I really should stop calling it a cage, though ...
 

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we did the side car thing with two of our kids <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> it worked VERY nicely!<br><br>
we have a king now so the babe will be in bed with us, until they start to scoot during naps and then we'll use the pack n play or the crib.<br><br>
there was a mom here that lost her child due to the babe falling off the bed <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> and i have been paranoid ever since then.
 

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I'll admit we also use ours a safe (from toddlers) place to put babies for a moment and a great place for toddlers to nap. Also makes a good holding spot for baby laundry.<br><br>
The biggest downside for us currently is that my toddler strips the sheets when she wakes up from her nap and they are very hard to put back on with a giant belly!
 

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We bought a crib before dd was born. I was much more main stream then <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">. After she got here, breastfeeding changed me into a more attached mama, and we slept together for the first 6 weeks...then she stopped sleeping, altogether. She hated sleeping anywhere...but eventually we got her to sleep in a swing, occasionally in a sling and then found out she didn't liek movement of any kind. Thank goodness for the crib.<br><br>
I hope to not need another this time around, as we will hopefully be cosleeping. And as it turns out, dd wants to sleep with us now too...it really is about doing what works for a family.<br><br>
We never use it for punishment...but sometimes dd wants to go into her crib when she is emotionally spent and needs a time out, and she only gets her pacifier in the carseat or crib. Since she doesn't want to nurse anymore <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">, she will say "Binker, time out" and we go into her room, she goes into the crib, and she calls when she is ready to come out. She chooses those times. We don't do time outs, perse, but that's what we call it when she needs her time. FTR, mama gets timeouts too <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1">.
 

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We sidecar too, and it's worked great for us. DS mostly sleeps in his crib, but ususally meanders over to be RIGHT next to DH. I am sleeping on the outside now b/c of the frequent trips I made to the bathroom...<br><br>
Oh the joys of figuring out sleep for a new baby... so much to look forward to. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 
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