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7mo ds has always been fussy in the carseat, but for the past couple of months, he will only stay in it a minute or two before beginning to cry, then scream, until we get where we're going. I have checked and double checked to make sure there's nothing poking or pinching him back there. This situation is heartrending! Nothing calms him down. It's even worse if I sit back there with him while dh is driving; he looks at me with that little tearstained face as if to say, "You're right here - DO something!" But what can I do? We've got to drive the car now and then.<br><br>
We never go anywhere that takes a long time, so the most he's ever cried continously was 15 minutes (though it seemed like 15 hours), but we'ere going to be taking a trip to the in-law soon which will involve at least two 45-minute drives, and I'm dreading it. Has anyone been through this and have any suggestions?
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I remember that time well... I don't remember how many months it was for dd, maybe 2 or 3? but it seemed an eternity. I have found I can not bear her crying like that. We just didn't go many places we couldn't get to by train or bus (we're in the city so that's easier than for many).<br><br>
It was a phase that passed, especially when she was interested in more distracting games/snacks/music/stuff out the window. There is just a period there when they are old enough to know they are trap and not old enough to understand they're going somewhere cool, kwim? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> It's so hard. I feel you.<br><br>
Do you nurse & if so have you tried it in the carseat? Honestly I think carseat nursing should be a division of Olympic gymnastics, lol! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"> During that stage we drove when she was sleepy and I nursed her to sleep (sitting on two pillows and twisted sideways but w/my seatbelt still on. And my boobs aren't very big. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"> ). If she woke and screamed we tried a few distractions but then would just pull over if needed. We didn't always make it places on time, lol, but usually she would sleep. I know this wouldn't work for everyone.<br><br>
When alone I had a couple of usual objects like a broken cell phone, etc. to pass her, a new one every few minutes. I'm sure you've tried that.<br><br>
After 12 or 15 months she liked the car fine & now even buckles her own buckle! So this too shall pass...<br><br>
Good luck,<br>
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My child hated the car seat. I only found a few solutions, and it didn't really improve until he could face forward. Then, he loved it when he could see me.<br><br>
I found playing music AND singing to him helped for short distances. Seemed like my voice was helpful. I would also sing the songs when we were not in the car, so he got to hear the songs while seeing me.<br><br>
I also put a picture of me on the back of the seat. Sounds crazy but it did help.<br><br>
I really limited car travel. I got to stressed to drive and so just decide to travel only when necesary.<br><br>
My little one is 19 m now, and we just finished a 4 hour car ride, successfully. This too shall pass.<br><br>
Oh, Classical music also helped a bit.
 

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Ds is usually ok for most of a short car ride 15-20 mins. but when we've been out for awhile and are on our way home often about 5 mins. from home he starts crying. Singing REALLY helps alot. Sometimes I can sing him all the way home. I'm not sure if it's distraction or the sound of my voice or what but unless he's tired, wet, hot and hungry it usually helps. HTH
 

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Ds was a car crier too. Until we turned him around, forward facing, and from there it gradually got better. It wasn't an overnight transformation. I only drove when I had to, and I would just grit my teeth and ignore him, focus on my driving and pray for good traffic and no stop lights. If I touched him or sat beside him it made it even worse, and I never thought it could get worse. I probably would have ended up in a crash or some serious road rage if I had to drive more often, so I decided limiting time in the car, and just focusing on doing a good job driving when we did have to be in the car was the best solution. And it sucked!<br><br>
You have my complete sympathy, but it did get better, now he begs to go for drives.
 

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Ugh, mine hates the car too, but I think she's getting a little better. The worst time was when my dad who lived in Baltimore passed away and dh had to go home a couple days early because of work. I had to make the three hour trip back with me and dd. She was inconsolable, was screaming and freaking out. Three times I pulled into rest stops, nursed her, walked her in the sling. She would calm down or even fall asleep but once in the seat she'd freak out again. When we were 4 hours into the 3 hour trip <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rolleyes">: and she had thrown up from crying once, I just decided to get a hotel room and try again in the morning.<br><br>
Anyway, that was 2 months ago. She is now 8 months old. I do have a few suggestions that have helped me. 1) If I have a long distance to drive, I try to time it for her naptime. If she's really tired she will conk out right away 2) She likes the Beatles and her American Lullaby CD, and so do I which is important. 3) When I put her in the seat, I tell her many times that I love her so much, and kiss her, and then I make her stuffed skunk kiss her and tell her that Skunk will take care of her in the car (ok, I know it's stupid but she usually smiles when Skunk kisses her) 4)I try to stay as patient as I possibly can. It's really easy to lose it when your child is crying like that. Once I actually yelled at her, and then I recognized shades of my mom's temper and I vowed that in the future if I start to feel like that I will pull over and comfort her instead of yelling. 5) We switched to a Britax Marathon from the infant bucket seat. It's roomier, and I think it's better. 6) If dh is there, I do sometimes nurse in the car. Hurts my back, but that's better than screaming.<br><br>
HTH, I know it's a tough thing to deal with. It makes you feel stuck at home, and it's hard to get your grocery shopping done. Good luck.
 

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Yep, I think everyone goes through this with their baby at least 2 or 3 times in the first 15 months or so. It is sooo nervewracking.<br><br>
I bought a thing called a carseat gallery from a toystore. It basically was a vinyl flat frame that hung on the backseat facing ds with 4 clear pockets for those black/white/red flashcards...but some of the flashcards were color, some were faces. Before the age of 8 months Dante really liked the one we called "black and white lady" and then at some point we started slipping in regular photos of mommy, dad, grandma, etc. It really helped.<br><br>
You know, it's got to be boring and frustrating to be held in by straps and facing the back for an unknown length of time!
 
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