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I know there's a baby-led feeding thread here somewhere...just don't have the energy find it and read thru all the posts right now!<br><br>
Here's my situation: DS2 is almost 7mo and has been "dabbling" in solids for about a month. He REALLY wants to eat (makes those "uh-uh-uh" noises when we're eating in front of him and DEVOURS whatever he can get to his mouth) but has a hard time picking up most of the things we give him to feed himself (I've tried bananas with the peel partway on, cucumbers cut the same way, big apple chunks, etc...the only thing that seems to work well so far is steamed broccoli). I've also mashed up bananas, avocados and sweet potatoes (not all at once, of course!) and spoon-fed to him. Just last night, DH was eating some hummus and pita and DS2 wanted some - he was sucking hummus off of DH's finger, LOVED the stuff. I didn't plan to spoon-feed at all but it seems like that's kind of where DS2 is at...anyone have a similar experience? Am I just giving the "wrong" foods for him developmentally, or do you think he's simply in need of a "hybrid" approach?<br><br>
FTR, we don't plan to do processed baby cereals or jarred baby food.
 

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We did a hybrid approach in the end, because that was what worked for DS. He was hungry, he desperatly wanted to try foods, and he couldn't get them in his mouth. I think that respectful spoon feeding is fine. (Although I wouldn't have said that before I got to where I am... I used to be anti spoon feeding at all)<br><br>
We've done some jarred foods, and DS loved them. He's kind of outgrown them now, but his fine motor control has picked up, so he's better able to feed himself.<br><br>
The point of this little ramble is that you have to do what feels right for your baby.
 

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i started off exclusively 'baby-led', as in finger foods only, and eventually started doing small amounts of spoon-feeding, but never forcing him. There are some foods that are just impossible to get down him without a spoon, and I personally felt he wasn't eating enough and was draining me with all the constant b.fing. But opinions vary on this! So just follow your intuition and your baby, and as you go along I'm sure you will be fine. good luck! (and when u find 'the thread', join it, it's good)
 

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I gave DD utensils and she learned to use them pretty fast. We would do scoopable foods like yogurt and she'd use her spoon, and then she learned to stab things with a plastic fork just by watching us do it and imitating. She wasn't hungry for solids that early, though, even though we offered daily and she did mess about with them. Another thing we did was cut things into "fry" shapes so she could grab them. Now she is 19 months, has never been "fed"... she feeds herself with utensils and everyone is pretty impressed with that haha.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">We did a hybrid approach in the end, because that was what worked for DS. He was hungry, he desperatly wanted to try foods, and he couldn't get them in his mouth. I think that respectful spoon feeding is fine. (Although I wouldn't have said that before I got to where I am... I used to be anti spoon feeding at all)<br><br>
We've done some jarred foods, and DS loved them. He's kind of outgrown them now, but his fine motor control has picked up, so he's better able to feed himself.<br><br>
The point of this little ramble is that you have to do what feels right for your baby.</div>
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This has been exactly my experience. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> I like the hybrid approach.<br><br>
And I'll also add that I find it pretty much impossible to overfeed my baby when I spoonfeed him - nor feed him food he doesn't want. He makes it VERY clear when he is all done. Now at almost 11 months, he adapted the ASL sign for "all done" to his personal little sign (he throws his arms up in an X over his face!!) and when he throws that down, he MEANS IT.
 

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With my DS, we would load the spoon/baby "spork" for him and hand it to him. If he wanted to eat what was on there, he'd put it in his mouth. If he wasn't interested, he'd drop it or bang it on the high chair tray. He is now 9 1/2 months and eats a lot more with his hands since he's perfected his pincer, but when we do give him a spoon or spork, he has figured out how to use it. He's not always successful, but he tries to spoon up food that's spilled on his tray. I like this method... he is still in control of the food going in his mouth, but he's able to eat things he can't pick up himself AND he's learning to use utensils at any early age.
 

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For things like hummus, guacamole, and yogurt, I just put a plop on his tray and let him go at it<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> He uses a spoon sometimes, but mostly he uses his fingers and fists.<br><br><a href="http://www.flickr.com/photos/greenmagick328/sets/72157604686785203/" target="_blank">These pics</a> were taken at 7 months and show his first attempt at eating hummus with a spoon<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br><a href="http://www.flickr.com/photos/greenmagick328/2524468101/" target="_blank">This one</a> shows the aftermath of black beans and <a href="http://www.flickr.com/photos/greenmagick328/2550109488/" target="_blank">this one</a> the aftermath of spaghetti (both are around 8 months)<br><br>
Yes, its messy and more food ends up on him, the floor, the dog, etc then his mouth, but he loves it and gets it done.<br><br>
My dd was a little slower about diving into solids, but by 10 months she was using a fork and spoon to feed herself very well...she didnt like the mess so it was mostly "dry" finger foods til she figured out utensils. She would never let us spoon feed her while DS could care less as long as he's eating<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eat.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Eat">:
 

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Hummous is a GREAT first food.<br>
We would offer DD & DS hummous on things that they could pick up - like crackers. Guacamole the same way.<br>
You can also just put a big spoonful on the tray or table & let baby play & eat as he can.<br><br>
Want to add that I believe if the food is on a spoon (like soup for example, I've always fed my babies whatever I was eating), and they are bringing the spoon to their mouths, that is much different than airplaning in the food, stuffing food in when baby is "distracted" or otherwise tricking baby into eating from a spoon just to get a full tummy.
 

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We do a hybrid approach. I think that if the babe wants to eat, let him eat! We often do two spoons when eating things like yogurt or applesauce. Fill one, hand it to ds, let him do what he wishes, then fill the other and trade them. Works well for us. Although sometimes he ends up with both spoons!
 

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We started out strictly finger foods but now it's more of a hybrid. With things like applesauce I'll put some on the spoon and hold it out. She leans forward to take it off. I never put something in her mouth. She leans to me to get it.<br><br>
When I have all the time in the world to deal with the mess I just give her the spoon and hold the bowl. (so she doesnt break it)<br><br>
The vast majority of the foods she eats are finger foods though. If your kiddo is just starting out with finger foods you'll be amazed how clutzy they look at first but how fast they improve.<br><br>
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