[thatblondegirl]

did you tell people of the name you've chosen prior to giving birth?
would you ever take the name that someone else said they were going to use for their child?
would you be pissed if someone took YOUR name?
would you discount a name you liked if it had any bad (can't think of the word) 'memories' around it?

there is a name i really like for a boy. i don't know anyone in real life who has it. i'd actually never even heard of it as a name until i came across it on another forum. BUT the child who had this name was a stillborn. for some reason, that makes me hesitate! i LOVE the name. the more i think about it, the more i like it. but i worry that it's jinxed!

but i don't want to tell the name, as i don't want anyone to steal it! lol i would NEVER take someone else's idea for a name, but do worry that someone will take mine.

 

[sunshynbaby]

did you tell people of the name you've chosen prior to giving birth?

Yes, I'm telling everyone! I love the name

would you ever take the name that someone else said they were going to use for their child?

Only if I wasn't close to the person.

would you be pissed if someone took YOUR name?

Only if it were someone I was close with. It would be annoying have to babies with the same name born around the same time, and I would feel forced to pick another name. That isn't right.

would you discount a name you liked if it had any bad (can't think of the word) 'memories' around it?

Yes. Any ex-boyfriend/girlfriend names are eliminated, as well as any name with a negative connotation. There is a name that I really love for a girl, but DH had a gross coworker with that name, so it is banned. That's annoying, but I banned other names for similiar reasons, so I can't complain!

 

[Aufilia]

did you tell people of the name you've chosen prior to giving birth?
Early on DH made the mistake of telling his mother and grandma the name we were thinking of... they claimed to hate it and spent their whole visit calling my belly "Emily" instead.

: Later on when we were sure we did tell my parents and close friends.

would you ever take the name that someone else said they were going to use for their child?
If the other child was in our family and the other couple was pregnant, no. Otherwise, maybe.

would you be pissed if someone took YOUR name?
Only if it was close family. Definitely not someone on a forum. On another forum I visit there are actually a couple children born after DD with the same (uncommon) name.

would you discount a name you liked if it had any bad (can't think of the word) 'memories' around it?
Depends. In the case you described, I would still keep the name in mind but maybe wait until after birth to decide if I wanted to use it.

 

[Michigan Mama]

I generally avoid telling a lot of people the name because people often feel too free to let us know if they don't like it! At least after the birth people are too polite to say anything.

I might "steal" a name if it's someone I don't see very often or if I talked to the person about it first.

With that name you like - I agree that you can probably wait until after your baby comes and see if you think it works or not!

 

[jimblejamble]

did you tell people of the name you've chosen prior to giving birth? Yep!
would you ever take the name that someone else said they were going to use for their child? Yes and no. I don't see anything wrong with it, but as a Jessica with a cousin named Jesse, it can get confusing.
would you be pissed if someone took YOUR name? See above.
would you discount a name you liked if it had any bad (can't think of the word) 'memories' around it? Yes.

 

[KarlaC]

did you tell people of the name you've chosen prior to giving birth? Yep!

would you ever take the name that someone else said they were going to use for their child? If it were 'the' name & I just couldn't find another I loved, I probably would.

would you be pissed if someone took YOUR name? Nope, really I don't think anyone should say 'it's MINE' since there will always be someone somewhere with that same name.

would you discount a name you liked if it had any bad (can't think of the word) 'memories' around it? Mmm Yeah I ruled out a few because well, I just disliked the person it was associated with intensely & I wasn't sure I could dis-associate that feeling while calling my child that name.

 

[mdcanon8765309]

did you tell people of the name you've chosen prior to giving birth? Yup. Only my dad was confused. But once I said, "Like Ian Fleming, the author of the James Bond books," he got it.

would you ever take the name that someone else said they were going to use for their child? Not likely, I've got my own ideas and am not likely to be swayed by others.
would you be pissed if someone took YOUR name? Well, I think the poster who said a name is never really "yours" nailed it. If a close friend took a name they knew I planned to use I'd be a tad miffed.
would you discount a name you liked if it had any bad (can't think of the word) 'memories' around it? Absolutely! I recently heard the girl name I've had in the back of my mind for awhile is the name of a mean character on a TV show. I was crushed and don't know if it's feasible any more.

 

[mariacm]

did you tell people of the name you've chosen prior to giving birth?

We are not telling anyone IRL, because we don't want to hear others' opinions (potentially negative) about the name! After the child is here, much less likely for ppl to say negative things.

would you ever take the name that someone else said they were going to use for their child?

Not if they were in my family and actually pregnant. If my little sis who's not married much less preg said a name I liked, I'd probably use it but tell her first I was going to.
would you be pissed if someone took YOUR name?

Depends on the name... DH thinks it's fine for cousins to have the same name esp if it's a common one, I'm not sure I agree with that... so we might reuse it, esp if it's a different last name. But I'd rather not, and besides I tend to prefer less common names.

would you discount a name you liked if it had any bad (can't think of the word) 'memories' around it?

there is a name i really like for a boy. i don't know anyone in real life who has it. i'd actually never even heard of it as a name until i came across it on another forum. BUT the child who had this name was a stillborn. for some reason, that makes me hesitate! i LOVE the name. the more i think about it, the more i like it. but i worry that it's jinxed!

Nope. EVERY name is associated with a person who has died or a bad person. Esp if you didn't know the mother of hte stillborn, it wouldn't faze me. THink of it as a way to remember the one who passed instead of jinx the one who lived.
That said, I am NOT ok with naming a baby the same name as my or DH's exes. But... the nickname for my fav boy name was my dog's name was a teen, and I still want to use it! The fam will probably think I'm weird, but it's spelled differently anyway and hte dog had a human name!

but i don't want to tell the name, as i don't want anyone to steal it! lol i would NEVER take someone else's idea for a name, but do worry that someone will take mine.

The best way to avoid that is not to tell! If you happen to deliver after another woman who chooses the same name, would you not use it then? If not, how would you react if you delivered first and that same woman later and she used the same name, but you both had planned it ahead? DH has a sister and a close cousin both named Mary. Middle names are different and were used as Mary Beth and Mary Ann type growing up, but I don't think anyone thought it strange, and they grew up together.

 

[chibaby]

did you tell people of the name you've chosen prior to giving birth?
No, we are finding out the sex and I'd like to keep something of a surprise for the birth. Plus, I don't want to hear people's comments or reactions to the name prior to his or her arrival.

would you ever take the name that someone else said they were going to use for their child?
No, unless is was a distant connection and I really loved the name.

would you be pissed if someone took YOUR name?
Yes, especially close friends or family. Our girls name is somewhat unique and I would be devasted if someone "took" it before me!

would you discount a name you liked if it had any bad (can't think of the word) 'memories' around it?
Most names that have bad associations for me are people references. I would not name my child the same as someone I did not like. Other associations (celebrities, food, strange initials, rhymes with ****, etc.) I try to avoid.

 

[kcparker]

Baby name questions - do you share your ideas?
No, but we are open to suggestions from other people like my sisters.

did you tell people of the name you've chosen prior to giving birth?
We didn't make a final decision on our son's name for 3 days after he was born. I would not pick the final name until I have actually met the baby and spent a little time with him or her. That said, there is ONE girl name that I really want to use if we have a girl, even though it unfortunately starts with the same letter as our son's name (which I wouldn't normally want, but I am really stuck on this particular name).

would you ever take the name that someone else said they were going to use for their child?
I know ONE other person whose child is named this particular girl name, but the origin of this child's name and my reasons for using the same name (with actually a different meaning and etymology) are very different.

would you be pissed if someone took YOUR name?
I worry that it might offend my friendly acquaintance if a girl of mine ends up with her child's name, but they live in different cities and would be 6 years apart in age, so I think it's okay. I would be a little bummed if somebody else I know used this name, but I'd probably use it anyway.

would you discount a name you liked if it had any bad (can't think of the word) 'memories' around it?
Definitely no negative associations - old flames' names and names of ooky people are out. Although I did have a friend who was pregnant in 2007 and declared, "George is a good name. We need to reclaim it."

 

[MyLittleWarrior]

did you tell people of the name you've chosen prior to giving birth? Yes. We've always picked out names fairly well in advance, and we're always secure enough in our decisions that one nay-sayer would not have any sway. When they name their own baby, they can pick what ever they want.
would you ever take the name that someone else said they were going to use for their child? Depends, but for the most part, yes I would. There are only so many names out there, of course there are going to be others with the same name. Unless you made a name up entirely on your own with several silent letters chances are someone else already has that name anyway. Now if it was a close friend or family member who was also pregnant at the same time I would probably talk to them about it first, and if they were uncomfortable with it I would respect that.
would you be pissed if someone took YOUR name? Not at all, I'd be flattered
would you discount a name you liked if it had any bad (can't think of the word) 'memories' around it? Depends, but ex-girl/boyfriends are pretty much out (although I dated an Andrew for a while and still love that name, we probably wouldn't use it) As for your stillbirth quandary, unless it was a very close friend or relative, I wouldn't let it dissuade me from using the name.

 

[Turquesa]

did you tell people of the name you've chosen prior to giving birth?

No. I like a little surprise/mystery/excitement around my baby's birth. Besides, I hear enough bloody opinions from family about pregnancy, birth and babies. Why invite more?

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would you ever take the name that someone else said they were going to use for their child?

It would have to be a really good name. And I'd feel compelled to get their "permission," or at least blessing.

would you be pissed if someone took YOUR name?

Not really. I'd feel flattered to have been pilfered.

I'd also continue to tell the story to my LO as s/he grew older. "Your name was so special that so-and-so learned I was giving it to you and stole it.

This actually happened to me. Years before I had children, I told my brother a boy's name that I liked. He and is wife had a baby recently afterward and used it. I ribbed him about it, but I figure that they had the baby first. Fair enough.

would you discount a name you liked if it had any bad (can't think of the word) 'memories' around it?

I used to love the name Natalie until I had a rather irritating college professor by that name. It's too bad that somebody can "spoil" a name, but it does happen.

If there's a small chance that I might regret a name in that manner, I opt to skip it.

 

[Turquesa]

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Originally Posted by chibaby Other associations (celebrities, food, strange initials, rhymes with ****, etc.) I try to avoid.[/COLOR]

My husband has vetoed so many names on the celebrity basis. Some of them are actors I've never heard of!

: With my first pregnancy I was considering Monica for a girl, but DH loathes the Friends show. He's also nixed the boy's name Alec because of the Baldwin association.

 

[tofersmomma]

My husband and I did not tell the name, as that's part of the fun once the baby is born. I don't think I could take the name any type of friend of mine had chosen. It depends on how close this person is. My hubby and I aren't the type to have conversations about "future names" for our children, so I really don't think that would be an issue for us.

As for your last question, any name you choose is going to have some bad assoicated with it, you just may not know it. I don't think it's a reason to discount it.

 

[Peony]

We don't decide on a name until baby is born, but I never share our ideas or lists we have going. they can find out when baby is here and named.

 

[Norasmomma]

I'm a blabbermouth I can't keep a secret, I already told most people our name choices.

I would be annoyed if someone "stole" my name, but whatever.

I wouldn't take someone's name they chose.

My sister's name was my dead cats, I got over it. I would never use the name Brandon though, my psycho ex for hs was named that. It's one I can't get over.

 

[zinemama]

We absolutely did not tell family, but kept friends up to date about our current thoughts - it was something fun to talk about.

I would use a name that someone else used. It's just a name.

I would not mind if someone used a name I was planning. Minding that seems extremely petty.

Bad associations? In 1968 my mother named my brother after she read an article about SIDS in the paper. Yep, my bro has the dead baby's name. He turned out ok.

Use the name you like and don't let anything stop you.

 

[avivaelona]

did you tell people of the name you've chosen prior to giving birth?

I did not tell immediate friends and family but I did rattle around some names with online friends for this last baby. With my older son I didn't and was surprised to find out how uncommon the name was perceived as being. It wouldn't have influenced us using it but I'd like to have known that before I made a firm decision. I wouldn't tell my family though because I did not want them to have input into naming. I do think its a good idea to ask around a bit just because sometimes someone notices something important you didn't know (like your chosen first and last is the name of a notorious serial killer, or that it spells something offensive)

would you ever take the name that someone else said they were going to use for their child?

I would never ever do this for someone I knew personally but if I happened to hear the name a distant aquaintance was using or someone online and I liked it, sure why not? No name that is a real name with any history or meaning is one of a kind. If you want a one of a kind name you have to make it up and then well, its made up.

would you be pissed if someone took YOUR name? Most likely I'd be flattered unless the person was close enough to me that it would be uncomfortable to use the name again...like if my brother named his child an uncommon name I was planning to use.
would you discount a name you liked if it had any bad (can't think of the word) 'memories' around it? It would depend what associations it brought to my own mind, in your case, if every time I used the name I remembered the stillborn child, I might not. I would not use a name that had bad associations for most people (Adolf, Pol Pot, Jeffery if my last name was Dahmer...)

there is a name i really like for a boy. i don't know anyone in real life who has it. i'd actually never even heard of it as a name until i came across it on another forum.

Is it a real name? One that has a history of use? If its a real name than it doesn't belong to that one child, its been used hundreds of times before. If its a name the person made up for that child and its truly unique I'd want to ask before using it. However its very very unlikely that its truly a unique name, even most names that people think are one of a kind are often not.

i LOVE the name. the more i think about it, the more i like it. but i worry that it's jinxed!

Your own worry that its jinxed is the only reason I'd think of staying away from it. Feeling weird about your child's name is not a good thing.

but i don't want to tell the name, as i don't want anyone to steal it!

Who do you think will "steal" it? Names don't suddenly shoot up in popularity from one person choosing a name, so if it rises in popularity it was rising whether you chose it or not. If you are concerned about friends or family who are also pregnant using it before you get a chance to than I guess you could keep it secret from them, though what if they chance upon the name on their own? You might be best off saying in that case, "we plan to use this name and would appreciate if no one else did" If you are worried about someone on a message board using it, why would you care? Its not like you are likely to meet that other child named something similar, and since you are choosing it from a message board post too, than maybe you are just feeling strange for "stealing" it yourself? Names really can't be stolen, because most, even the more unusual names have been in use for centuries and the ones that are newer and made up tend to be made up over and over again by people.

Here is one way to check it out though if you really just can't bring yourself to mention it or you don't want others' opinions, look it up at:

http://www.behindthename.com/ to see if its listed as a legitimate name with a meaning, this site isn't perfect but its better than many of the baby name websites out there. Try alternative spellings before deciding its not there at all.

And then also look at:

http://www.ssa.gov/OACT/babynames/

Which will tell you whether the name is in the top 1000 baby names for last year, again try alternate spellings before deciding it doesn't exist.

Good luck!

 

[Channelle]

I have one name for a girl that I'm totally in love with, and I accidentally blurted it out to my mom, she loves it and told everyone that it was our choice.

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Now my cousin, who is due three months before me says she's in love with the name too, and if we don't use this girl name (or give her any inclination that we aren't using it) that she will steal it. Oh also if I have a boy and don't get to use my girl name, and she gets pregnant again before me, that she'll use it in a heartbeat.

She's so annoying.

Oh also, the first time I ever heard my fav. name as an actual name, I found someone's blog and they had the cutest little baby girl named this, so I actually "stole" this name from the blog. But I think that's different stealing from a stranger versus stealing from your cousin!

Oh, and bad association kill a lot of names for me!

 

[notjustmamie]

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Originally Posted by thatblondegirl did you tell people of the name you've chosen prior to giving birth?

We don't actually choose a specific name until after birth. We did share a few on our list for DD, but she didn't even get her name until the day she was born, so nobody knew it, not even us.

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Originally Posted by thatblondegirl would you ever take the name that someone else said they were going to use for their child?

Depends on who "someone" is and how common the name is. Some random stranger I met online who says, "I'm going to name my daughter Alice Marie (or some other common name)." Sure, why not? A real-life friend who tells me, "I've decided to name my child Hildegarde Veracity (or another unique combination of names)." Eh, not so much.

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Originally Posted by thatblondegirl would you be pissed if someone took YOUR name?

Well, as I mentioned above, my kids aren't actually named until birth, so at that point they'd be stealing my child's name rather than "mine." In any case, if it was somebody I'd likely never cross paths with? No, it wouldn't bother me. If it was a friend who my child would know ... that would trouble me somewhat.

I guess the real question here is more--would it bother me if someone else named their child "my" name before I had the opportunity. That's not really an issue for me.

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Originally Posted by thatblondegirl would you discount a name you liked if it had any bad (can't think of the word) 'memories' around it?

Yup, those names get vetoed immediately. Bad memories are a personal thing, though. As someone mentioned, any name probably once belonged to a criminal or someone who died tragically. Unless it was someone I'm actually familiar with, I'm not very likely to be bothered with the tenuous connection. That said, I'm unlikely to name my child Adolf, Judas, or Medusa.