I looked and couldn't find anything definate about this. I think it is different in different regions of the country. I ended up making bread and apple butter and giving it in a nice cloth bag. It seemed appropriate.
Yikes! I just wrote the two people who hosted a nice note and gave them each a set of handmade notecards (bought, not made by me...I wish!). Not sure if that was too small of a thing??? Who knows. They didn't throw the shower to get a present out of it! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> I like the homemade bread and apple butter idea. That is nice.
I did not realize this was proper thing to do so I did not do anything. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> I did receive a candle in a glass container that had a ribbon tied with little heart saying the name of her baby and asked us to light the candle and say a prayer when she was born. I liked that since we love candles.
I sent flowers. I think it cost around $40 or so, not too outrageous. The friends who hosted our shower are the kind of people who live in a huge house and have everything they could possibly want, and if they don't have it they can just go buy it. I figured I couldn't go wrong with something pretty to look at, but that they don't have to keep around forever.