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I know it is crazy early to worry about this, but i am going to post, just to get it out of my head.<br><br>
My personal opinion has always been, that your body wont grow a baby, too big. You will grow the perfect size for your body. That was until my son was born last year.<br><br>
My babies have always been on the small size. My first was born at 40 weeks, and weighed 7 lbs 9 oz. My second was 40 weeks 3 days and was 6 lbs 15 oz. my 3rd was 41 weeks, and was 6 lbs 5 oz. Each pregnancy went 3 days longer than the baby before, and each baby was 10 oz smaller than the previous baby. My youngest daughter is 5.5 years older than my son. My son was induced at 42 weeks. He was 8 lbs 4 oz. 2 lbs bigger than my last baby. I think i could not have a bigger baby than him, vaginally. His head was 2 inches bigger than all my girls. During birth, he broke my tailbone, then his shoulders got stuck and he wound up with a broken collar bone. He turned one, last week, and my tailbone still gives me problems.<br><br>
I only gained 5 lbs when pregnant with him, so obviously it wasnt about too much weight gain. I dont gain wt when pregnant. the most i have ever gained is 12 lbs, and that was my first.<br><br>
So i guess i am feeling nervous that this baby will be bigger than my son, and baby will get stuck and i will need an emergency c section. not something i want at all. I am a big girl. 5 10 and built like a football player. ( in fact i was a football player). I also know that 8 lbs is not a big baby, but i think it is a big baby for me.<br><br>
So is this normal pregnancy anxiety, or something i should really worry about? am i thie only one that has these types of concerns?
 

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yikes!!! i cant believe he broke your tailbone! that is horrifying. and he had a broken collar bone. poor baby. well, 8lbs isnt huge, all of my mothers were 9lbs+ (no broken tailbone, but 20+ stitches), BUT, it might be big for your specific pelvis structure. And it sounds like it might be. Definitely talk to your doctor about this. if you doctor is worried you may end up in an emergency c-section due to a stuck baby, he might give you the option to opt for one. mine was terrible with my first, but i would rather have it planned than have pushed and pushed and then been put to sleep completely and missed out on her first cries... plus having the fear and stress of an emergency situation. i would definitely discuss this with the doc. they might keep a close eye on the weight of baby and then if hes looking to get big like the last, they might let you choose to schedule a c-section.
 

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Considering your lasting complications, I think it makes perfect sense for you to be concerned!<br><br>
I may be all about cracking down on unnecessary c-sections and a complete cynic when it comes to guestimating baby size, but nobody can argue the fact that you've had a genuine experience with complications.<br><br>
It's definitely something you should discuss in detail with your hcp. Weigh your options for their medical AND emotional aspects. Personally, I can't imagine having that fear while trying to push.<br><br>
I think we all go into labor carrying the baggage of our previous labors, regardless of how they went. I'm already having nightmares about cord issues!<br><br>
FWIW (and that's not much) my 9lb2oz baby had a broken collar bone. I was devastated when the pediatrician recognized it *after* she had already healed. No wonder she screamed every time they did the pit-temperature in the hospital!<br>
(She was my second. 3rd and 4th were both in the 8's.)
 

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Oh, (((Melissa))). We had a sticky shoulders/ probable shoulder dystocia in my first UC birth (second child) which resulted in an injured shoulder for my dd. When I got pregnant with my son, I initially decided to have a planned caesarean. Eventually I had him at home, and he was bigger than my daughter- but no shoulder dystocia. However, it was very scary to contemplate the possibility of it happening again. You have my sympathy! I hope you feel supported no matter what birthing choices you make.
 

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I know that if i go into labor with unfinished business, it will not help things. Which is why i want to work it out, before iget there.<br>
I dont think i would opt for a c section, just because of a big baby possibility, but if it seems baby is getting much bigger than my son, than i might just ask to be induced at 40 weeks, instead of waiting for 42.<br>
I would think they could pretty accurately measure the head size of a baby on U/S. since i think that is my biggest concern. WIth his shoulders, yes they got stuck, but my OB and Midwife, were able to manipulate me and my hips, to help get him out. However, where is head was concerned, he never dropped, at all, and when i was fully dilated, he was still at -3, I tried to labor him down, and was in different positions and nothing worked. I really think he head was too big, and once he broke my tailbone, it made it easier for him to come out.<br>
I would rather a broken tailbone, over a c ssection i think. I am just worried about more complications. DS ws brusied in a horrible way. He was totally blue when born, and i think it was bruising, not oxygen related.<br>
My girls all had 12 in heads and his was 14. That is a big difference. I didnt have any tearing with any of my babies, including him. so it has to be just a pelvis issue, not a "whole area" issue.<br><br>
I really just want to get this emotional issue worked out, so i can go into my labor feeling good. My OB has an US machine in every exam room, and can do simple measurements. and i might ask him to keep track of how baby is growing, once i get to 32 weeks.
 

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it sounds like a good idea to get checked near the end.<br>
fears are just awful, Its great that you can talk about them, somehow it makes them smaller<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> Ouch. My 2nd baby knocked my tailbone out of alignment and that hurt alot. I can't even imagine having it broken.<br><br>
I think having fears from previous births is pretty common. I know my fear this pg is going into labor early again and ending up with a baby needing to transfer to the NICU. I'd rather go 3 weeks overdue than have to deal with that again.
 
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