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My dd hates the regular pouch sling things. She does not like the snuggli things either. She will not tolerate me holding her so that she faces my chest. She likes to be held so she can see everything, or on my hip. Do you mommies have any suggesstions on what would be good for us? She is 8.5 months old and about 16 lbs. Thanks!
 

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Have you tried a ring sling? I find them a little more comfortable than pouch slings and they're more adjustable. You can put her on your hip in a RS. Same with a wrap or rebozo, which also have the benefit of being more versatile.<br><br>
You might also look into Mei Hips for wearing her on your hip. Or an Ergo, which can be worn on your hip, front or back. Some babies like to be on your back more because they might have a better view back there.
 

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I also recommend a MT. I have 4 & the Kozy is my absolute fave! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Are you anywhere near Willow Grove? Perhaps youl could come to a nino meeting and try a few things?</div>
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I don't know where Willow Grove is. I am from the NorthEast area.
 

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Moby Wrap<br><a href="http://www.mobywrap.com" target="_blank">www.mobywrap.com</a><br><br>
Its kind of like a snuggli in its concept but its soft and so you can wrap it a bunch of different ways and my dd is the same way about facing out and she loves it.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">what carries have you tried in the pouch? are you trying it on in the house or are you putting her in and going for a walk?</div>
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I tried the ring type. I did not feel she was safe in it. She also threw a fit. I don't really want to try it again.
 

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My DD is 9 months old - 12 or 13 pounds - and we dont' go ANYWHERE without my ellaroo. Best baby carrier I've ever had....and I have at least 8 kinds.
 

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can you go to an API or LLL meeting and have someone teach you how to use your sling? ring slings have a learning curve for sure. also, if you're not comfortable, your baby will pick up on it and freak out.
 

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Get a wrap...or better yet, make one yourself if you can sew at all. All it is is about 5.5 yards of fabric (I personally like all cotton) Go to mamatoto.org or the babywearer.com (or .org, can't remember) and get wrapping instructions. I have at least 10 wraps and thats not including the ones I've given away! A wrap is the most versitile of all t he carriers, baby can go on your front, back, or side, and face in or out. Plus they wont out grow them quickly! HTH!
 

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I second finding a NINO meeting or a local mom who's a sling expert to show you some carriers. Look here to find a NINO group: <a href="http://www.nineinnineout.org" target="_blank">www.nineinnineout.org</a><br><br>
None of these slings is rocket science, but it REALLY helps to be able to try a couple different kinds (and different brands--some work better for different people) before buying a new one. This is nothing, absolutely nothing, like having an experienced bw-er help you out.<br><br>
If your dc likes to look around, perhaps a back carry with a MT, wrap, or Ergo? My ds loves looking over my shoulder, and I can carry him forever on my back.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Get a wrap...or better yet, make one yourself if you can sew at all. All it is is about 5.5 yards of fabric (I personally like all cotton) Go to mamatoto.org or the babywearer.com (or .org, can't remember) and get wrapping instructions. I have at least 10 wraps and thats not including the ones I've given away! A wrap is the most versitile of all t he carriers, baby can go on your front, back, or side, and face in or out. Plus they wont out grow them quickly! HTH!</div>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/yeahthat.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="yeah that">: I love mamatoto.org Very helpful site. I also have some wraps that I've made from their directions.....super easy. (No sewing involved!)
 

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i hear you, sister...i was INTENT on baby wearing and yet have found it to be a learning curve intensive trial and error thing with my baby. The advice you are getting to hook up with other sling users is really important. There are really no groups like that in my community so I have been doing it on my own and it's been a struggle. To date, I own a Storch wrap, a Moby wrap, a Hotsling solarveil pouch, an Ergo backcarrier, two Maya ring slings, and a Baby Bjorn. This website <a href="http://www.thebabywearer.com" target="_blank">www.thebabywearer.com</a> has been a valuable (if overwhelming) source of info. Also, if you're at all near NYC consider joining <a href="http://www.slingsinthecity.com" target="_blank">www.slingsinthecity.com</a> (costs nothing, good info).<br><br>
Given the age of your child (8.5 months), if you want to wear the child for longer than 10 minutes, my opinion is you probably want to consider a structured backcarrier like an Ergo, Patapum, or Sutemi. Yes, doing a back carry in a Storch wrap or a Mei Tei carrier is probably a bit "cooler" on the AP mom hipness scale, but there is more of a learning curve and you'd want to be able to learn from other moms in person how to use. The Moby wrap is very simple, stretchy/comfy and I like it alot but it really is not advised for older infants. I use my two ring slings and my hotsling pouch for short (less than 10 minutes) carries around the house or into the ocean--these are easy to get Lance in and out of but less comfortable for longer times, plus Lance enjoys grabbing and touching everything now so they are not really suitable for housework or cooking. I've been told that the issue with the Baby Bjorn forward facing front carry is that it's very hard on child's spine. Good luck and happy baby wearing!
 

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Oooh, that's such a GOOD suggestion. If you can get to a meeting, you can meet other mamas who have a little (or a lot of) experience AND you can try on different things to get a 'feel' for them before you go out and buy.<br><br>
If your DC prefers to face out, I would recommend a ring sling and the frog position or a wrap. You *can* face children out in the wraps, you just have to make sure that they're rocked back on their butts, so that that is where the weight is and not on their crotch.<br><br>
Definitely get to a babywearing meeting if you can - it might even be worth a bit of a drive.<br><br>
Happy babywearing!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I don't know where Willow Grove is. I am from the NorthEast area.</div>
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willow grove is about an hour from Allentown (its suburban Philly). But, if you're anywhere near Palmerton, I'd be happy to show you a few things the next time I'm up visiting my parents.
 

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If she likes being held on your hip, then I imagine she would like being in a hip carry with a sling. You can do this with a pouch sling or a ring sling (also wraps, but it's a lot more complicated IMO). I agree with pp that it's possible the learning curve might be the problem here, not the actual sling.<br><br>
I use a Maya ring sling for a hip carry with my 20 lb 11 month old dd, and it works great -- but it did take some practice. I like an open tail ring sling for a hip carry (open tail = the "tail" -- what hangs down from the rings -- is flowing fabric, not sewn together into a neat tail). With an open tail, you can adjust the inner and outer rails independently (the "rails" are the edges of the sling -- so in a hip carry, one rail goes under the butt/legs, and the other rail goes behind their back/shoulders). So I'll slide dd through the Maya and onto my hip, get it positioned under her butt/knees, pull the whole tail to get that snugged up, then I grab the edge of the tail that corresponds to the edge of the sling that's behind her back, and tighten that up even more, so it pulls her body up nice and close to me. I really like the Maya because it's very wide, and dd is extremely secure. The other thing I really like about the Maya is the little flap of fabric that goes down over your shoulder -- this keeps the sling from riding up onto your neck.<br><br>
But like I said, it took some practice. No matter how careful I tried to be, half the time it got messed up, or when I pulled on the tail, the rings didn't stay up by my shoulder, etc. But after maybe 20 or 30 times, I noticed that I was always getting it right. I don't know how that happened ... just practice, I guess, lol.<br><br>
If you want to use a pouch sling (e.g., <a href="http://www.hotslings.com/" target="_blank">hotsling</a>), you may find it a bit easier to figure out. I don't own one (but don't think I haven't coveted, lol), but my understanding is that with a pouch sling, you just take the part on your shoulder and fold it down and over your shoulder as needed, and this tightens up the part of the sling behind the baby's back. Supposedly, this will pull the babe in tighter and make for a secure hip carry. If you look at <a href="http://www.hotslings.com/Catalog/product.php?id=132" target="_blank">this picture</a>, you can see an example.<br><br>
We also have an Ergo that I love for wearing her on my back. I read the directions for the hip carry, and never even bothered to try. It looked WAY too complicated, and I didn't see the point since the Maya works fabulously for that. I thought dd might not like being on my back, but she positively loves it. She chews on the straps and flirts shamelessly with everyone around us (sadly, I can't see this, but strangers love to inform me that my daughter is smiling at everyone and how she clearly loves being in her carrier, lol).<br><br>
Do try to find someone IRL who can let you try a few different things and give you some pointers. Alternatively, you could pick a few things up used (try the trading post here at MDC), and just re-sell whatever doesn't work out. You'll probably break even or lose just a little. But I would also just be persistent, and you may find that it pays off big!<br><br>
Good luck! I love my slings and wraps, and am so glad I stuck with it until I figured them out <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">.
 
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