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Hello to all breastfeeding Mothers - I am the mother of a beautiful 8th month old baby girl named Maelyn (28" and weighs 15lbs). I still breastfeed her and for the last month and a half I've introduced jar food to her three times a day. People, strangers are constantly telling me how small she is for her age. I'm starting to second guess myself. This is my first baby and to me she looks healthy and alert. She looks fine. The doctor is ok with her progression.<br><br>
I know breastfed babies differ on the growth chart than do formula fed babies. I'm just really frustrated....... frustrated with peoples comments.<br><br>
Has any other breastfeeding mommy experienced this?<br><br>
Mommy Mel
 

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I think each baby is different. Your next child could be bigger ( two of mine were 30lbs on their 1st birthday!) with you doing everything the same.<br><br>
People would comment on my youngest size, he was smaller than my first two, but i just ignored them. It was probably easier for me to do so because he was my third, i had more experience, was way more comfortable in my parenting and besides, who are these people to comment on my child's size? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:<br><br>
If your baby is healthy, bright and alert, then dont worry! Enjoy!
 

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She sounds like a long and lean girly. My son was 28.5in at a year, but he weighed 25lbs. Those growth charts are sort of oddly deceptive, it makes people think 90% is "better" than 20%. Some babies are at those lower percentiles, its just the normal distribution of weights. Not everyone is the same weight, someone is the heaviest, ie 99%, someone is the lightest, ie 3%. All are healthy.<br><br>
Listen to your heart. If your baby is growing, active and happy, she's fine. Your milk has a lot to do with that!
 

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Well my MIL had the nerve to say to me about my 15lb 4 1/2month old, "wow, she's so fat!" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: Ummm, no, she's healthy. Did you like her better at 4 1/2lbs when she was born??????? I'm proud of my girl and her rolls. That's all mama milk right there! My first dd was the same way yours is. She barely hit 20lbs at a year(20lbs 1oz) and now at nearly 5, she weighs in at a slight 34lbs. Weight wise she doesn't fit into most 3T stuff. She's just a tall, willowy kid. And everyone tells me how skinny she is. Throughout her life she's been on the lower range of normal weight for her age. She's just destined to be a lighter kid. That's probably what's up with your daughter. Personally I would tell these people that my child is enjoying mama's milk and feeling happy and healthy and that our doctor isn't concerned so neither am I and I would leave it at that and move on with the conversation. It's really hard to move your mind past it though. I always worry that my dd is too thin. I can see hip bones and ribs and she's got no tummy and all the other kids her age are several pounds heavier and look more roly poly. I'm VERY conscious about what food she gets and how much of it and I am guilty of pushing higher calorie food in her face and more of it! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/bag.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Bag">: We all just want healthy kids!!!<br>
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How big are you and your husband? I would think that would matter more regarding how your daughter's growth is going than how she compares to other people's kids.<br><br>
A friend of mine is 4'10" and quite petite. Her husband is thin and not terribly tall. Their daughter is a petite little thing and weaned at over 2 years old. She's waaaay at the bottom of the growth charts, but she's an appropriate size and shape for a girl in her family. My son has always been about 30th percentile on the charts, which isn't big, but when you consider that my husband is of average height and has a slight build, and I'm 5'2", a child in the 30th percentile is right on target for us.<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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Exactly! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 

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I just saw this, along with your other thread.... the jarred food are you giving it to her AFTER she nurses? just thought i would ask cause i know that giving it to them before would cause them to nurse for less/shorter amounts of time because their tummies are little <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Every child grows differently. If she is putting out enough wet and poopy dipes and is active and alert, she is getting what she needs. I have seen people here say that bf babies seem fatter and people who say bf babies are smaller. My situation was that my ff'ed son was smaller than my two bf'ed fatties.
 

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I also believe that each child is different and has nothing to do if they are EBF or on formula. Mine were EBF and were all soo different!! My last little girls was small also and now with my 7 1/2 month old she is also EBF and such a little chunk :LOL I'm sure your little one is doing just fine!!
 

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every baby is different. My nephew is exclusively breast fed, 2 months old, and a chunk at 16 lbs! My niece (different family) is 9 months old, has been exclusively FF, and doesn't even weigh 15 lbs. They are both healthy babies. My son has had both formula and BM, and he's just right in the middle of the curve, maybe even on the slimmer side, but he's tall. As long as your doctor isn't concerned, I wouldn't be either.
 

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No, you are not the only one with a petite baby. My little ones have all been about 15-16 pounds at one year. One was formula fed, two were breastfed and formula fed, and two were exclusively breastfed. I get comments every day (literally) about how small my children are (especially my youngest). For us, it's genetics, my dh is only about 5'3" (right under 5'4") and weighs about 140ish. My 4mo is probably between 10 and 11 pounds right now. Even though my children are all on the petite side (we prefer that word over small :LOL ) they are all fine developmentally.<br><br>
Just keep doing what your'e doing. I know it's so hard not to second guess yourself as a mother!<br><br>
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<div style="font-style:italic;">Well my MIL had the nerve to say to me about my 15lb 4 1/2month old, "wow, she's so fat!" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: Ummm, no, she's healthy.</div>
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my mil said the same thing when my ebf dd was 2 months and 13 lbs. so, my babe is 90th percentile in weight, but she is 95th in length and according to her doc she is beautifully proportional. of course, i have seen in pictures that mil formula fed her ds, my dh, until he was a total porker (i mean, like five chins).<br><br>
so, i guess my advice is don't listen to strangers. or mils.
 

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Hi,<br><br>
My firstborn was ff after age 5.5 mos and she was, and is, petite. It's just the way she's growing. She's 4.5 and is 35 pounds. At 12 mos. she was 19 pounds. She didn't start solids until late. I think babies are going to just grow the way they are meant to grow.
 

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I know breastfed babies differ on the growth chart than do formula fed babies. I'm just really frustrated....... frustrated with peoples comments.<br><br>
Has any other breastfeeding mommy experienced this?<br><br>
Mommy Mel</div>
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My first child was a slow gainer. I definitely didnt have the milk production I had with my last baby but she was healthy. She did consistently gain weight and grow, and was healthy. Just in the lower percentile.<br>
My next baby was mostly formula fed (he did get breastmilk 8-10 weeks) and he was much bigger and gained better --even though he had reflux. Other than reflux and RSV he was a healthy baby.<br>
My last baby was a fast gainer. At 16 weeks he weighed 20lbs. He had lots of rolls. He only nursed on ONE breast every 3 hours. I had a much better supply and he was good at getting the hind milk. He was actually my least healthiest baby -- had chronic ear infections, sleep apnea and hypotonia. The hypotonia is gone, and his other problems are now resolved too (he had surgery a few weeks ago) He's now 3.<br>
I think that each kid is different, whether they are formula or breast fed.
 

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My DD has never had any formula, and she is very small. (20 lbs, 29.5 inches tall at 18 months - hovering around the 8th percentile for both measurements, so she's proportionate.) I think her size is mostly due to genetics, because DH is only 5'5" and I'm 5'4". Most women in his family are under 5 feet and under 100 lbs.
 

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My dd was chubby as a baby, then thinned out alot when she passed a year. ds is also a chunk, almost 15 pds at less than three mths. all babies are completely different. She's probably just fine.
 
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