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Just curious... I just started reading the book, mostly b/c I found it at a used bookstore and I've been looking around at different "schools" of thought re: schedules and routine.<br><br>
Then I just saw the thread about Baby Wise, which I know nothing about, and was curious to know how the Baby Whisperer compares in your eyes.<br><br>
(Please note, I'm not trying to stir debate or anything like that. I have my own ideas of what works for our family and I'm not going to try to tell anyone else what to do. Actually, I come here for advice more often than I give it! I just want to see what others think.)
 

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I got some good info from the Baby Whisperer book, it helped me understand communicating with my new baby a little better. Before I read that book I didn't really understand her pattern of sleep, then play, the rest, then sleep. So it was good in that sense. She's not AP but I do find her to be respectful of children.<br><br>
But it has really, really bad breastfeeding advice so do skip that chapter. And I found that her info on sleep, while helpful, doesn't always work. She makes it sound like you'll have no problems if you just follow her advice but every baby is different.<br><br>
I got some useful techniques from her but it wasn't a be-all end-all solution for me.
 

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I thought it was 'eh.' I tried doing her routines for awhile, and it backfired big time. If dd didn't nurse before napping, her naps were SHORTER, not longer, every time, and it in no way made her sleep longer at night either. And yes, the BF info in particular was bad.
 

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I found parts of it very helpful. I don't recall any breastfeeding info, so I must have skipped that part, but her E.A.S.Y. system really helped me while dealing with twins.
 

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Yeah, the breastfeeding chapter is just wrong in so many ways. For instance, she says you check your milk supply by pumping. If you can't pump much, it means your supply sucks and you'll have to supplement with formula. Dangerous info, IMO.
 

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I think she made some really good points and offered some good suggestions to try. her breastfeeding advice was atrotious.
 

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I really like the Baby Whisperer quite a bit, actually.<br><br>
She's not a great resource for BF, as other people have posted, I think because she writes from the perspective of a nanny, so she doesn't really insist that people try that hard with the breast feeding, or offer many resources for when the going gets rough. (But you can get all that on MDC!)<br><br>
I don't think she is particularly AP, but I found much of the book to be common sense, and the "schedule" really worked for us--what I took from the book was to watch my baby, notice any patterns about when she liked to sleep or eat, and plan my day around that--instead of trying to get the baby on my schedule. Worked great for us. I also liked her take on temperament, and taking care of yourself so you can take care of others.<br><br>
I believe she passed away last year from breast cancer, which is really sad.
 

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I loved most of what she wrote and it worked well for my girls. Her E.A.S.Y routine is a great idea but may not work well for your baby. It was awesome for mine and my girls would be upset if we didn't follow it. They needed it for their security and comfort. They knew what was next and we did too.<br><br>
The bf info is better at LLL than in her book. As with every information that you read or hear, you take what is good for you.
 

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She really saved my sanity when my dd was 8 weeks old and I couldn't figure out why she was crying all the time (she was overtired). Following some of her sleep advice brought my dd's evening crying down from 3-6 hrs per eve to 5-15 minutes within just a couple days. I couldn't stick to the rigid EASY but the awareness of sleep signals and needs helped tremendously.<br><br>
Hogg died young a couple years ago and her book's website has a very loving and touching tribute to her by her own adult daughter. I hope that my daughter will feel that way about me when she is grown.<br><br>
The book is not AP so I only recommend it to people with a firm grounding in AP so you can pick and choose in an educated way. I recommend reading Sears' books first, then Whisperer.
 

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Thanks for all the insight. I skipped the BF info b/c that's not an issue for us at all. I'm at the sleep part right now, and it seems to work for us in general. I guess we were just having a bad day or two, and I was wondering if there was something wrong with her approach that was making things worse...
 

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I think the book is not worth it since the sleep info can be found in so many other books that have better info about sleep and actual respect for babies rather then the caution that they will start getting bad habits from the outset. The whole "don't hold the baby too much or they will want to be held all the time" stuff really irritates me.<br><br>
Also, she is totally against nursing to sleep which I think is the best thing in the universe so....<br><br>
The only thing I got out of that book was actually about breastfeeding, which is hilarious since most of her bf advice is atrocious.
 
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